TL/DR: Woman came onto me, turned out she was married, attempted to next. Husband actually argues with me because I didn't want to fuck his wife.

I had a gig last night. I'm a frontman/vocalist and been doing it many years. It's just a thing I do which I get enjoyment out of and if I may say so, I'm pretty good at it.

I had been talking to this chick before our set. She was a 7 or so, redhead and had some really cool green eyes. It was more of a worth a fuck kind of girl, but I'm not as into redheads as most guys. I just like the odd one here and there.

We get done with our set, I pack my gear and the house DJ is doing his set until the venue closes. She pretty much knocks it up a gear given that the night is nearing a close. She gets awful close and suggests we go back to her place. I'm up for it and then says something about her husband. I can't remember exactly, but it's more or less "My husband won't be coming back for hours". It took me a second to realize what she said and I broke off saying, "Wait... you're married?"

She professed that the husband doesn't care and they're into the "lifestyle". I'd heard rumor of the wifesharing community before but thought it purely the thing of fantasy or media sensation. I have been a bouncer before now and never really saw it in the flesh. So naturally, I called bullshit on it. I'm sure you're all reading this and saying hit it anyway. But having been involved with a couple of married girls already it's rarely worth the drama.

Despite the fact she insisted it was cool, I just declined and went to leave.

I'm chatting with my bandmate after in the car park. He asked me if I was taking said girl home and told him what she told me. He sort of agreed that if she was married and cheating on her husband, better out of it.

We're making to leave and this guy starts walking toward us. Usually when someone approaches us, it's either to buy a demo or tell us we had a good set or what have you. Not this guy.

He addresses me directly and says, "Did you tell my girl you wouldn't go with her cuz she's married?" Let me tell you we got a real bright spark here. He looked like your typical beta type but a little more blind confidence. Like a guy walking into a building he doesn't know is on fire. Somehow, he seemed to muster the balls from somewhere to come up to two hairy metal heads to start an argument. We both looked at him wondering what the hell this was about. I just said, "If your girl is xxx, then yeah I told her to sling it."

He then has a go at me for not. He says he's her husband and he's cool with it, this is why she spent so long with me tonight. The reality of this situation, this guy was straight up arguing me for not fucking his wife.

I know this is a big city and you get all types round here. But this is a new one on me. He argued the point with me for a good few minutes, my bandmate's jaw literally on the floor in shock. We're back and forth for a few turns and my bandmate interrupts this guy. "Wait, so let me get this straight. You're here, arguing with him because he WOULDN'T fuck your wife? As in, because he would not fuck your wife, you're here to argue with him?" Shit you not, the guy's response was that she was a demon in the sack and she'd take both of us right here right now if we were "man" enough. We both just start laughing at him.

I ask him, "Dude, where's your self re-fucking-spect? Let me guess this whole thing is your wife's idea right?" He tells me it's none of my business and that I was talking my way out of the ride of my life.

He then walks off, saying "Oh well your loss mate!"

I think we were speechless as they both got into their car and drove away. The way she slammed her door closed, she was pissed off. And something told me he was in for a night of little miss pissypants. My drummer just said, "What the fuck just happened?" The first thing he does is apologised and said, "I just fucking have to tell someone this." He picks his phone out and dials another bandmate who left earlier. We're laughing about it while he finishes his cigarette.

Lessons from this. Aside from being a new experience for me, it just seemed pitiful that a guy would actually argue with another guy for NOT fucking his wife.

Men have grown up today subdued and weak, a result of a primarily maternal upbringing. Most men don't know how to interact with women. I guess you could include me in that bracket, but at this guy's level it seems that he has fallen into the dependable reliable provider role so much he's even actively trying to provide his wife's sex life for her from other men. It's not enough that men pay the bills, keep the roof over her head and be her emotional tampon, he has to do the cock seeking for her.

I can only imagine the conversation that he must have had with her between me noping out and prior to his arguing with me. I doubt very much he would have come up to me on his own, he just didn't seem the type. She was obviously annoyed when I ended up passing on her offer. I can only imagine he unloaded on him and to appease her, decided to try arguing her point.

I just don't even...