This is the double-edged sword that women have created, through promiscuity on the one hand and rapacious divorce laws on the other; i.e. an attempt at having their cake and eating it too.
If she waits to give up sex until marriage..... assuming that is all she really has to offer, like most women who either refuse to cook, clean, take care of the home, or keep gainfully employed, and want to blow through your money, her RMV risks are three-fold.
- Those who are LTR/marriage-minded will disassociate from her as quickly as they learn of her refusal to be anything even close to a traditional woman. They want a mother to their children, not a slobbish roommate who gives them sex on occasion.
- Chad could care less about her domestic potential, he only wants one thing. Chad, who she really wants, will quickly ghost her if she isn't throwing down on the first date.
- Many men with savvy, RP-knowledge, or a basic clue of what is going on around them, will not "wait for marriage" , no matter her domestic skills, because they realize what a one-sided, draconian shitshow the divorce laws are and absolutely refuse to marry...anyone. He believes that NAWALT, but the modern divorce laws enable even the most good-natured woman to become ***LT. He has seen too many "good women" turn into malevolent sharks and ruin male friends and family members, he won't risk that.
If she does NOT wait to give up sex until marriage..... she suffers a two-fold reversal as well.
- Those who are LTR/marriage-minded will disassociate from her as quickly as they learn of her promiscuity. They do not want their future children kissing the lips of someone who sucked off the entire football team.
- Chad will get what he wants, which is what she wants, but then the official definition of Chad manifests itself. He gets what he wants, and either leaves immediately or keeps her on the FWB string. The worst-case scenario, which is all too common these days, is he leaves her with bastard children to "raise" without a father.
In all five sub-points, she loses! Whether immediately, a month in, or two years down the road. It would seem to me that there is only one possible combination where a woman would have a high degree of certainty in winning at this game of life. She either self-cultivates domestic qualities, or was already raised to do so, and then saves her sexuality for marriage. She must then seek a "Good Man" who is actively seeking just such a woman for a life together. If she has all of the attributes of domesticity, charm, grace, and wholesome mores as well, most Good Men would be willing to wait until marriage.
Therein lies the nastiest burr on the double-edged blade...he better be one dense and dumb motherf**ker, which is likely the complete antithesis of what she really wants. If he has more than a few brain cells, he realizes that the society that her and her sisters have helped engineer, almost ensures the likelihood of her getting bored, growing dissatisfied, and skinning him in divorce/custody court. I have met too many fellow men that I would not consider RP in any real way at all, but they all say, "You'd have to be f**king nuts to get married these days!" You know, the kind who still simp after women, shower them with gifts, etc. They still won't marry them! They want an LTR, sure, but they know what happens if they "sign that paper". Which leaves the woman with the choice of an ever decreasing number of available, foolish simps that she despises.
Women have created their very own Chinese finger trap, and the harder they pull (promiscuity and domestic negation on the left, rapacious divorce/family court laws on the right), the tighter the trap becomes.
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