To girls who friendzone guys: they're not obligated to keep being your friend

33,778 points3,975 commentssubmitted by jvp180 to r/unpopularopinion26

I say this as a gay man who sees this with many of my female friends.

If you have a guy friend who makes a move and you put him in the friend zone, he has every right to not stay in your life. Some guys want to date you plain and simple. These guys probably had a crush on you from the start and pursued you in the hopes of a romantic relationship. These guys listened to your problems, took interest in your day, and cared about your needs to show you they can be a good partner. But it's not the same as a platonic friendship. If you friendzone a guy like this, he will do one of two things:

1) Stick around with either the hopes you'll change your mind (super common) or because he feels he can quickly move on and be genuine friends (rare)

2) Not talk to you again because he doesn't want to hear about you seeing other guys or hear about your boy problems.

He's under no obligation to be your friend just like you're under no obligation to date him. This also applies to men who friendzone their female friends.