Link:

https://theredquest.wordpress.com/2019/09/19/the-mom-having-an-affair-because-her-husband-did-first/

In the manosphere, there is a popular belief that humans are naturally polygamous and hence it is better to be polygamous. Apart from the obvious issues this would bring in a relationship, this is based on the belief that just because something is natural must mean that it is superior. Yes, we are naturally polygamous. But there is a reason civilizations were built on monogamy. Now, let us consider three societies:

  • Polygamy - Current Middle east, Africa.

  • Monogamy - Most civilizations at their peak point.

  • Informal polygamy - Current western societies.

Consider the middle east. Middle East might be the closest to the natural polygamous lifestyle we can see right now. But, can this society be called as anything close to advanced or productive? No. Matter of fact, if it did not have the natural resources it has, it might not survive the next few centuries, much less thrive. Keeping that aside, let us consider the societal structure. Sheikhs get to have all the girls they want while normal men cannot afford to pay enough alimony to afford a girl's hand for marriage (Yes, dowry is paid from the men's family to the women's family in ME). Most men, being unable to afford women turn their attention elsewhere. And right now, that attention leads to violent activities that ranges from internal revolution at best to international terrorism at worst. What is the best selling point of Islam for terrorists? That you will be provided these many virgins in the after life. Does that sound like a superior society to you? Africa, for the record, is even worse.

Let us consider monogamous societies. Almost every man has a wife and a family. He married young. He has a decent income that is mostly sufficient (or more than enough at best) for his family. He did not have to spend too much money on dating or marriage or remarriage or divorce. He chose a wife who was within his league, married her, had children through her. He might have his sexual needs met. He spends his money on his family mainly and whatever is left on himself. He gets treated with respect (and at best, but not guaranteed, admiration from his family). There is not much crime since everyone is relatively content and have no reason to involve themselves in crime. They have enough to lose that they don't want to risk anything. They have a stake in the outcome.

Men (usually) don't stray after they turn wealthy because their wives have stuck with them for many years. Some might get some ass here and there out of temptation, but they will never leave their family for that slut. Women can not stray when they are young since if she tries to branch swing or cheat, she gets a reputation and is ostracized. She then becomes that hot piece of ass that married men cheat with. She is fair game. Her hopes of getting a family of her own is slim to none. Other women do not dare do the same mistake by looking at the level of dread that this inspires. Same thing goes for frivolous divorce. She might fuck a pool boy or two when she is lonely and ungrateful, but she will be very afraid of the stigma and the consequences. There will be no open hypergamy.

The children grow up in stable families with their biological parents. They get good education and are cared for. They get emotional support from mom and financial/moral support from dad.

Informal polygamy - Current western countries. Most men do not have a stable relationship. Matter of fact, most women do not have this either since there is no commitment on any relationship on any level. Anyone can walk out on anyone at any level. This works out well for women in their early years and for men on their later years.

There is an increase in violence since the least fortunate of men do not have an option and can not afford to give a shit about morality. Ironically the ones who make it under this category end up attracting women for their bad boy cred and pass on their genes ensuring the same fate for their kids. The ones that don't, die.

Wealthy men cannot afford to get married since the system is not advantageous to them. Moderately wealthy men cannot either. Naturals eventually end up marrying a girl only for her to be tempted by the divorce industry to fuck him over. He either kills himself, becomes mgtow or resorts to pumping and dumping women. Self made men are even worse. They had it rough. They know, more than anyone, on what the current scenario is. They will never go through the same suffering again. They either go their own way or they resort to pump and dump.

Which brings us to the women in this sorry situation. Yes, she will get pumped and dumped (or she will do the dumping herself) in her early years. She will confuse her worth based on these pumps and dumps to mean that she has a high rmv and will be cock sure she can find a quality alpha bucks to settle down with in her epiphany phase. This will not happen. She will start to lament that there are no good guys left. She will try to sperm jack either directly or indirectly. Career girls, cock carousel riders and single moms end up marrying a bitch, if they can afford to find one. If not, they are looking at a life of getting pumped and dumped for years on end until she dies a lonely death and under a lot of debt. Even the few good girls left will either be tempted to join the same fate at some point since she will never get the level of security that they could have got under a monogamous society since men will be wary of the cost.

The kids, needless to say, are fucked as well. Sometimes, this will happen through "uncles" that their mommies are dating or step-dads mommies are marrying. The cycle continues until men gather to enforce rules of monogamy.

Notice here that monogamy is not the best option for men. Granted, your best option is to be the guy with a harem of girls who are loyal and attracted to him. But this is not available for everyone. Monogamy, is good for the wellbeing of the society. Remember that monogamy was not enforced by government but rather by society first, religion second and then government swooped in to take over the control from both.

It is not difficult to see why humans enforced monogamy to further civilization. Left in a natural state, hypergamy and polygamy does not do much good for most people. Natural or not, the tendency of men is to fuck a lot of girls at a same time and only settle for a young, cute and sweet girl. When there are no innocent girls left, there is not much settling going on. Especially in an environment where birth control is possible, there will come a time when settling down will cease to exist for men. The nature of women is serial monogamy, where they go for one guy at a time but desire to jump up and up the ladder. It's your standard ever growing economy fallacy.

By design, monogamy is not to the complete benefit of men or women. It requires compromise from both ends to make sure that the next generation is better than yours and the collective progress continues. In functional societies such as these, hypergamy is very regulated and might even be helpful. Theoretically, there should not be any problems, provided women know their league and are forced to stick with it. Hypergamy in such societies is used to marry up a level. It is a step up. Unlike these days, it is not abused or considered to be a ladder which women can use to go up and up until they reach the very best.

Consider the discussion we had here about the claim that Hypergamy is monogamy. As you can see, most of the rationalizations you see in favor of polygamy is so that a select few can enjoy their turn on some whore of that month. The ironical thing is, most men who engage in this rationalization deceive themselves that they are the special cock that the slut they are involved with settles for. Gentlemen, always remember: if she cheats with you, she will cheat on you. When you get involved with a slut, remember that whore is in her DNA. Do not deceive yourself that you are special enough to make a housewife out of a whore. Realize that you are only having your turn with her, as she is having her turn with you.

Additional reading:

https://devliniana.wordpress.com/2013/05/19/rotating-polyandry-and-its-enforcers/

Notice that this link only contains the preview. Click on the text "The Occidental Quarterly" at the bottom of the preview to get the entire pdf. It is well worth the read.