Pursuant to the recent introduction of the "Epiphany phase" flair in the main sub and my discussion with u/kevin32 about the women it highlights, I am modifying the original comment and posting it as a post here for posterity.

A while ago, I wrote a post on the Alpha bucks phenomenon here. In my opinion, women's party years (high school/college) are all about AF. Party years until epiphany is all about AB, even if she would indulge in her share of AFs at this time. During this time, she is not just looking for an alpha, she is looking for the complete package. Look out for key words like dream guy, Mr. Big, power couple etc. Once it becomes clear she cannot lock down an AB, only then will she look for a BB and she will turn all her resentment on this guy for not being what she wants.

When women are in their party years, they think of all their "experimentation" and "finding herself" as character building. She has been "sowing her wild oats" or "having fun" or "finding herself" or "maturing" to figure out that what she wants in life is a complete package(AB). In her mind, all the AF guys only showed her what she was missing. Anytime girls say they want a man and not a boy, it's them rationalizing to themselves and signaling to others how they just haven't been wasting all their potential so far. This is why they try to use fuckboy as a derogatory term. It signifies AF and in their view, he's only good for a fuck but not worthy of their commitment. I covered this in the maturity myth post here and the original AB post linked above.

Women want controlled danger. That is their entire fantasy when it comes to alpha bucks. I have written before about women's want for AB and how they treat AF as only a graduation process for AB. This is because of this controlled danger element (among other things). Women want the excitement of unpredictability. Contrary to popular opinion, they don't just want security from a guy. They want to emotionally conquer a guy, make him invest in them and then want to get security and resources from him. That is what 50 shades of grey is all about. Making an AF into an AB (or at worst a BB). This is what makes an AB very rare and his state is very difficult to sustain because it is a tight rope walk. See my comment on this here.

It is to be noted that a girl who is chasing after a AB early on and locks him down is utilizing her hypergamy perfectly. We won't see these girls often here unless they are attempting to branch swing to a better alpha. Third world country women do this a lot if they don't have a family or social structure that will instill heavy societal dread and punish them for this. This is why it is advised to stay in another country if you marry a woman from that country. Or you need to move to a place where that community is the strongest to retain that social structure. Modern girls these days will abuse their hypergamy to look for better and better. Hypergamy, regulated by society, is a step-up. But these days, unregulated by society, it is a ladder. They expect to go up and up through until they reach the very top. Women go through a huge number of AF to decide that they want someone who is going to be the complete package. Most men do not understand that this is the advantage feminism gives to women. It is not natural for women to go through a bevy of Alpha fucks only for them to decide to settle for an AB. Without "empowerment", women will look for an AB and might settle for a BB. They might fuck a pool boy later on, but it will never come before securing commitment.

Women want to chose the best from multiple options they have available and men to have multiple options available. Look at chick flicks and rom com novels that cater to women and you will see the first in effect. Twilight is a good example of this. Not only do women want to choose the best option, they want to make him completely committed and devoted to them. But once you do, they will be bored of you and start exploring better options than you. For your relationship with a girl to work, there needs to be a healthy gap between you and her and she should be working hard to close this gap for the length of your relationship.

When it comes to the epiphany phase itself, Rollo explains it as...

there comes a point on women’s SMV (sexual market value) progression where she becomes cognizant of her SMV decline and impending date with The Wall. Generally this occurs in women’s late 20’s and possibly early 30’s but as a rough estimate on the graph I provided in that post, this is the point of transition at which women realize their decaying capacity to hypergamously compete with women in their sexual primes, and the point at which men are beginning to realize their own increasing SMV potential.

Most of what he describes is only from a point of AF/BB and I don't think it correctly captures the quest for AB in the interim that is under consideration. In the manosphere, we assume that women understand that AB is very rare and thus they get their fix through AF first and then BB. But what is often overlooked is that women do want Alpha bucks, look for it and prefer it over anything else.

Women go through a series of Alpha fucks guys in the beginning, especially in college. As they age and as their family and society demands them to settle down with a guy, they start looking for an Alpha Bucks. A lot of them might just try to lock down a player they are fucking (what better ego boost than to say that she changed an AF to an AB) or they will start looking for "good men". Good men in their dictionary almost never means BB. They settle for BB only after having exhausted their options to lock-down an AB. A lot of these women might never go for an AB guy when they are young. The ones that do will come from a good family with a strong father figure. The majority will want to slut it up for a while and then would want to lock down an AB. AB guys usually don't go for these girls and would either choose to go for the minority of girls from good family or they end up turning into an AF themselves. For example, Leonardo DiCaprio is a good AB in paper. But, he chose to pump and dump girls forever. There was a recent post in the wall sub where they showed how the age of Leo's girlfriends never exceed 23 or 25. Considering all this, we are looking at two points in the epiphany phase here:

  • The point where your average slut wants to stop riding the cc and wants to lock down a complete package AB.

  • The point where said slut admits failure, becomes desperate that she is slamming into the wall and settles for a BB.

Dalrock has covered in his blog about the fact that almost 80% of white women get married by 40s even if they ask the big question. He also covers how marriage is part and parcel of the "having it all" feminist dream. This is part of a larger dynamic. Women asking the big question is not the end. It is only a beginning of a new cycle. All I can tell our members here is to be vigilant and not be the bailout she fervently wants.

Edit: Adding the below links for reference and example.

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhereAllTheGoodMenAre/comments/bns2rb/when_you_think_youve_landed_yourself_an_alpha/

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen/comments/c6hr8y/comment/es98b7a