PSA: How To Know You've Been Settled For.

2018-12-14T16:14:44+00:00

This is too true. +1

Just the way of the world.

moorekom · 2018-12-14T17:38:40+00:00

I need this commitment from you to improve my status with the sisterhood, because married women are higher status than never married women.

It might not be about her status with the sisterhood. While that is partly true, women ultimately play according to the rules of society they are in. They might play selfishly and in a way to maximize their own benefits, but they do play by it. The current rules of society is that you grow up, become a legal adult when you turn 18, go through your youth gaining experience and maturity, you reach a point where you think you can handle married life, settle down and build your own family. Thing is, this used to be the general guideline for a life path for men in the old days. You grow up, become an adolescent, get a job/join military/become a businessman, get some maturity and then start your family. Women, in the old days, were expected to follow a different path. They were to learn wifely duties, find a guy and maintain the household. Theirs used to be a more passive approach.

With the advent of gender equality and the notion that men and women are the same with just different sex organs, we've set the life path for both the genders to be the same. We can argue that women actually coveted it and willingly spearheaded it, but let's just stick to this being made by society as a whole for now.

When men were expected to mature, their maturity was expected to come from hardship, self improvement and attaining success leading to increase in resource acquisition. This actually worked because men are expected to be the providers regardless.

These days, when women are expected to go through the process of maturity, they are expected to date around, define their taste by trial and error, get some maturity based on their experiences and then settle to build a family. Women, being sexual creatures, define their entire process of maturity through fucking. This is true for the majority of women. The minority that tries to follow the traditional male maturity process, ends up becoming masculine and can only attract a feminine man.

If you look at the ages at which Americans got married (first marriage) prior to the sexual revolution, it was 25 for the guy and 22 for the girl. These days, it's 32 for guys and 29 for girls. These days, the age at which girls start trying to lock down someone with economic potential is around 25, which if you notice is the age at which men used to get married.

When women get to the end of their maturation process, which is conveniently right after their party years, they frantically start looking to settle down not because of other women alone, but because everyone around her expects her to have become mature and capable of settling down. Girls go for betas around this time to win social points. You serve the exact purpose as that of a trophy wife. You're there to make her look good in society's eyes. She does not care about your wellbeing. You're there to protect her ego and serve as a consolation prize. You're proof that she did mature. And if it doesn't work out, it was because you were not mature enough to make it work. It was by no fault of hers.

When women are young, they have the luxury to fuck around and to "make mistakes". But when it comes time to show proof of her maturity, she will go for the safe bet.

YrjoWashingnen · 2018-12-14T16:15:58+00:00

This could’ve be summarized in the first two paragraphs. Other than that you’re spot on. Listen for key phrases. That’s what I was taught back in grade school and it still holds up

rationalthought314 · 2018-12-14T17:09:32+00:00

It always starts off with amazing sex and lots of fun then once the honeymoon period ends you either part or settle. Yeah if a woman has tons of previous exes and worse, talks about them constantly, I agree completely.

But yeah, EVERY relationship is like that, amazing in the beginning then declines slowly, up and down at times. You want amazing sex all the time just go MGTOW. But in my opinion you'll kind of be in a life for loneliness. I know men in their 40s still screwing around, very lonely folk.

2018-12-14T19:44:11+00:00

I'm 56 now. I still remember my first love had dated Earl, a year behind me and on football team. I didnt play until senior year and there was Earl starting in front of me, even though I know I was was quite a bit quicker and had better skills. I used to hear her talk about him as a "football player" with this glow in her smile, and it irked the hell out of me since my team experience had been so irritating. When I finally said something about it she responded with the idea that I was a "nice guy" because I had nothing else to offer. Some of these manipulative bitches LOVE to play these games. They instinctively know how to exploit the idea of diminishing your sense of masculinity for points of their own.

comptejete · 2018-12-14T19:16:00+00:00

I would surmise that a not inconsiderable percentage of men in this situation know this, but it's the only way they can occasionally get their dick wet. They prefer to be settled for rather than be left alone with their thoughts. The idea of being "free" terrorizes them because they have absolutely no idea to do with that freedom. They'd rather exist within a shitty system and whine about it because it somehow absolves them from accountability.

Million-Suns · 2018-12-14T21:48:17+00:00

If you're low SMV like I am, you don't even need those words. You know that any woman who chooses you is seeking to settle down.

thequarenteenpill · 2018-12-14T20:55:31+00:00

if she calls you a asshole you're doing something right

2018-12-14T18:13:08+00:00

True, those words are a giveaway. But in reality there is a simple test: how enthusiastically and frequently are you fucking her?

Women are not enthusiastic when fucking the "safe choice" but will often concede to occasional duty sex to preserve the BB.

omegajelly200 · 2018-12-15T14:00:25+00:00

The PSA must also extend to the consequences of accepting a marriage of which you have been settled for.

Some of the naive would read this and say "But I still get married! She chose me rather than those sexy guys!" Sorry but...

1 - The marriage will be less of a marriage but more of a slave ownership of her walking all over you.

2 - The woman will not give passionate sex to you except for maybe the first night and even then, under copious amounts of beer to distract her mind from how sexually unattractive you are to her.

3 - She will get bored, REAL FAST, and will blame it on you as she goes about screwing other men.

4 - Your child might not even be your child because of 3 - .

5 - Your wife will plot ways to divorce you so that she could go back to fucking the guys she finds "fun", "unpredictable", "passionate", "exciting", "dramatic", and "social".

Worst of all 6 - Your wife will treat the divorce as a holiday from a relationship rather than a severed bond, and will come back to you after she's had dicks from other men stuffed in her and needs another bailout.

But who am I to advise, because 7 - You are probably a beta cuck and actually subconsciously get off from women shoving you to the orbit as a last choice and letting you see her fuck other men. That's why you love it when a woman settles down for you.

SilverGryphon · 2018-12-16T15:49:18+00:00

Such is life. This is why manosphere subs get shutdown once they hit a certain subscriber threshold, they expose too much ugly truths that can ultimately hurt the interests of the society we are in. The backbone of any modern economy is beta males. When too many clock out there is going to be problems for those who are used to be at the top. This is why men such as ourselves are deemed as outcasts, the stuff we speak about can be very dangerous if too many get in the know about it. Concepts such as the RedPill and MTOW are still relatively unknown for the most part and the ruling class is doing the utmost to keep it that way.

waterfat · 2018-12-15T00:28:53+00:00

Wise words to spread. Especially to our young brothers who are hot enough for the cock riders to "settle" for.

Dont buy it brothers. They want to use their daddy daddyhusband government to divorce rape you at the point of a gun with a nice cage filled with murders and violent criminals.

Nov51605 · 2018-12-16T19:44:53+00:00

this is a very important thread for any blue pill lurker, or even great advice to post on social media.

Challenge the guys to ask their S.O's, "what attracts me to you?"

If they hear that lingo, then BOOM !

This should be taught from father to son on those birds and bees discussions - that is if the son actually has a father around :-(

Nov51605 · 2018-12-16T19:50:52+00:00

My last LTR, was distraught that I didn't want to "commit" once i was getting pretty damned red pilled this year. She used the language paraphrased , "all my friends are getting married and married, so....." in a very desperate tone.

Gibits · 2019-02-03T20:18:57+00:00

Really? I am under the impression women of all ages still “want it all”. They still want the sex maniac that is somehow reliable, loyal and resource rich (and generous). They think they are entitled to everything even if they don’t deserve it.

The main problem with western society is that women don’t settle. I was once a guy that wanted to settle with a women willing to raise kids while I worked (I’m a doctor for reference). My sex drive isn’t what it used to be so sex wasn’t even a big deal for me.

Guess what? It never happened because the women I wanted to settle with wanted it all. I’m talking about women in their 30’s still being picky about looks, height, six pack etc.

No the problem isn’t that women settle for you. It’s that they don’t even bother to compromise. And if you can’t even compromise with yourself what are the chances you will compromise with with your future husband? Close to zero.

tharkyllinus · 2018-12-14T20:08:43+00:00

"Ive got no where else to go." Comes to mind.

Westernhagen · 2018-12-14T18:11:54+00:00

Entirely possible - and perhaps even inevitable - for you to move from the fun category to the boring category over time.

TL;DR be fun and exciting, not safe and boring.

siriusisness · 2018-12-14T23:06:36+00:00

"i worked that out of my system"

2018-12-14T23:40:10+00:00

Imagine actually feeling this way.

poloppoyop · 2018-12-15T13:18:40+00:00

How To Know You've Been Settled For.

You're married and do not have any mistress.

Cristoff13 · 2018-12-18T02:39:09+00:00

Even if she could convince the man of her dreams to marry her, eventually she'd decided she had "settled" for him. It would just take a bit longer. Women prefer the thrill of chasing after commitment rather than the commitment itself.

hodltaco · 2018-12-15T00:47:58+00:00

Upvoted for the pinpoint accuracy.

SirKolbath · 2018-12-15T02:54:14+00:00

You wanna be a Prius or a Jeep? Fuckin’ Prius can barely go uphill on a paved surface and goes sideways in two inches of mud.

I wasn’t put on this earth for my gas mileage.

EndTimesRadio · 2018-12-15T08:57:19+00:00

Or, she had commitment from one of them and either he or she or both of them fucked it up because it wasn't all that important to either of them.

Gonna leave a possibility for the goodness in people here,

Windowing is a good example; there are bad people, too, who fake such things or re-evaluate what they want in life and realise what they thought they wanted wasn’t all it was cracked up to be. There are genuinely cases where someone ends up back on the dating market through no fault of their own.

odddes2 · 2018-12-14T17:42:42+00:00

Wise words.

2018-12-14T18:05:34+00:00

Awesome.

Chairman_Ellen_Pao · 2018-12-14T18:25:03+00:00

TRUTH! PREACH!

calfee777 · 2018-12-14T21:20:59+00:00

Too true and I learned it too late

IAmNuclearMan · 2018-12-23T12:19:17+00:00

!redditSilver

TheParadox7 · 2019-02-28T07:57:14+00:00

Oh boy. I'd rather be single than settle for a man I don't want to be with, and I'd rather have my own money and resources.

Title	PSA: How To Know You've Been Settled For.
Author	LewisCross
Upvotes	366
Comments	57
Date	December 14, 2018 4:00 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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