[23F] "I'm with a great guy any girl would kill to have but I'm thinking about everything else but him. I feel that if I don't date around some more then I will be cheating myself out of experiencing life. I wish I could freeze him in time, get this out of my system, then bring him back to life."

redditloginfail · 2018-11-13T14:10:12+00:00

Disloyalty is in their genes. There is no "get it out of her system". That's just what they tell themselves in order to think they aren't peices of shit deep down. It was a temporary "wild streak".... right....

[deleted] · 2018-11-13T15:13:55+00:00

I love him with all my heart and I can see and feel how much he loves and adores me.

But..........

So, if this dude has been with her for 4 years, and this is how she feels, what chance do you think you have with them?

Some dude at work started giving her attention, she found some new tingles, and now she feels she's being cheated if she doesn't hop on his dick.

divorce33 · 2018-11-13T14:31:49+00:00

Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. Alpha fucks, Beta bucks. Alpha fucks, Beta bucks.

jjhova36 · 2018-11-13T15:05:27+00:00

“Just a girl trying to get it right” Lol

iamadrunk_scumbag · 2018-11-13T15:54:55+00:00

Just how many different dicks are required to enter this mythical sex nirvana anyways?

RedPilledMcMurphy · 2018-11-13T15:55:52+00:00

When she hit's the wall in five yers, It will be all men's fault she was the village bike and can't find a "good guy" beta cuck to love her abused worn out hole.

chillivanilli75 · 2018-11-13T15:57:44+00:00

https://www.google.de/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2263518/amp/I-left-love-life-I-thought-I-better-Now-Im-childless-42.html

Reminds me of this story

sleepibunni · 2018-11-13T16:50:10+00:00

i like how her first reason for not cheating is ‘too many diseases’ and not ‘its a horrible thing to do to a man ive been talking up this entire post.’ O.K

thewrecker8 · 2018-11-13T18:19:47+00:00

I love the "you're only 23" line. Half a century ago if you were 23 and not married and having kids already or on the way there was something wrong with you. Now it's "well you still have almost a decade to sample as many cocks as you desire" before you need to trap someone.

muricanwerewolf1 · 2018-11-13T16:09:51+00:00

TBH though the advice for her to get out is the right choice, in that her divided attentions aren’t fair to the guy. Hopefully when she figures out how much of an idiot she is he’ll have found a woman that deserves him.

magicmikefx · 2018-11-13T16:41:01+00:00

Hypergamous 101. Another man is paying attention to me. Just watch in 5 years it will be perfectly normal.... this polyamory bs idea will be mainstream. And they won't have to give up bb to have af

Stalgrim · 2018-11-13T17:34:23+00:00

You ever hear the phrase "The one that got away"? It's so much deeper and more meaningful than you'd at first think. This is the schism. She will hop on the dick of a random guy who's probably 7/10 but gives her attention, he will find out and leave her. He will have gotten away. She will have failed to ensnare him. He will become the one that got away. The guy who she is currently with is probably a 7/10, average guy but a few turns of the cock carrousel and she will remember him as a suave, intellectual, 10/10 that treated her like a goddess as she continues to roll the dice with lower and lower quality men until she crashes through the wall at Mach 5.

Just a girl trying to fuck her life up and end up mid 30s with an Omega betabuxlord that treats her well enough but she can't even consider thinking of touching without 50% of her blood consisting of cheap wine. All while lamenting the one that got away.

KralHeroin · 2018-11-13T17:24:55+00:00

It's OK to have thoughts, but her love for the guy is skin deep if she's debating cheating (which entails lying, so she'd be willing to base a marriage on a lie) due to 'sexual curiosity'. Either leave him and go hopping dicks or stay loyal what the fuck is so difficult to understand?

SirKolbath · 2018-11-13T17:50:18+00:00

Just... stop. You absolutely do not love him with all your heart. If you did, you wouldn’t be trying to rationalize fucking your way across an entire infantry brigade.

cycloneous · 2018-11-13T18:19:20+00:00

In my defense, I feel that if I don’t date around some more then I will be cheating myself out of experiencing life.

Great, she rationalizes her cheating, literally. Her selfish thought process:

since my friends Stacey, Carol, Mary, Jane and Becky are riding the CC and they're in their early 20s, why can't I even though I have a great guy who would marry me and give me the amount of children I want.

No other proof is needed that she has a serious itch she wants to scratch because her nature says to screw around, and it is justified because well, she's empowering herself!

Stahlboden · 2018-11-13T17:34:53+00:00

"I, like, love him soooo much, he's soo great, but what if there's geneticaly engeneered super-sayan apex-chad-billionaire with 20-inch cock and bulldozer-blade jaw right around the corner?

P.S. Yes, I’ve thought about just cheating but that is out of the question. 1) <...> 2) If I tell him up front it’d be harder but at least he’d still respect me enough to give us another chance in the future if that’s what it came down to.

English is not my first language, am I reading this correctly that she's planning to "open relationships" with her oh-so-beloved beta?

foomberry · 2018-11-13T17:14:00+00:00

RIP the man unlucky enough to end up with her.

aceshighsays · 2018-11-13T18:38:07+00:00

She found herself in an adult situation, when all she wants to be is a kid.

askmrcia · 2018-11-13T19:38:27+00:00

She needs to leave the relationship. And her entire post just proves how weak and childish she truly is.

I bet my entire life savings that she got some shit advice that she's missing out from her jealous single friends.

She says she don't want to cheat because of diseases. Well how is leaving a relationship to go sleep with different guys any better?

If she isn't satisfied now with her current relationship she basically just told everyone that she is not marriage material because she will get bored in a few years. And when she gets bored she will want to leave. Because there you have it folks, she wants to be entertained by men.

This is the mentality of modern women. I don't know, whenever I wanted a serious relationship, I never thought I would be happy ever after. That shit never crossed my mind. Nor did I think everytime I see them it would be this fun and amazing time. Then again I guess it's because I'm an adult and not a kid who believes in fairy tales.

But these women believe that their ltrs have to be lebron James and carry the God damn relationship while keeping them entertained until the end of time.

Like Lebron, if you get tired of carrying the relationship (cavs) and go through a slump well then she wants out.

Sorry you went a few months without posting some bs on instagram on how cool your relationship is and now your guy is considered boring.

And it's like go ahead and be single. I give it two months while her being single until she complains how bad men are in modern dating and how shitty guys are on tinder. How do I know this? Because it's all I see single women post on social media or when I hear them talk at happy hour.

I can count on one hand how many women stay single for more than a month. And I mean, really single. Fuck buddies, casual relationships and dates with orbitors don't count.

So she most likely don't want to be single, she just thinks she can do better but isn't mature enough to actually say it because God forbid she doesn't want to come across as a bad selfish woman.

Last point, she never mentioned anything about what she brought to the table. She should just do the guy a favor and leave. I'm sure he'll be better off.

[deleted] · 2018-11-13T21:01:14+00:00

What stands out to me is the writing style. Disorganized. Full of mental and emotional clutter. An inability to focus and think and zero in on the issue. Meandering all over the place.

What you just read in that piece are the thoughts of a disorganized female mind, literally "feeling out loud".

Translate it.

I'm with this great guy. He's the only guy I've ever had sex with. He's great. But he's not so great that I don't want to have sex with other guys. But do I really want to? Yes, I do, because what if he's not the one? No, I don't... because he's so great. This is so stupid.

yes, I do. Why can't I just have everything I want? Why can't I just leave him there and go have some fun and make sure he's the one? Or not?

No, I don't, cuz I don't want to hurt him.

yes I do, because I'm so curious.

no, I don't, because he's such a good guy.

Yes, I do, because he doesn't have a great body or a huge bank account

No, I don't, because I couldn't replace him.

Oh geez. Can't you girls just all help me out and tell me your stories so you can make this really just so tough decision for me?

houseoftolstoy · 2018-11-13T22:07:51+00:00

Here I am with this great guy any girl would kill to have but I’m thinking about everything else but him. In my defense, I feel that if I don’t date around some more then I will be cheating myself out of experiencing life. I’m 23 and I’m really just starting to live.

The reason for "dating around" is to help you find someone when you are trying to find someone who is good long term (assuming "dating around" is not just a euphemism for sleeping around). If you already have someone who is good long term, then that step is unnecessary. If you don't want to be with him anymore, at least have the integrity to just break up with him, instead of trying to have things both ways.

P.S. Yes, I’ve thought about just cheating but that is out of the question. 1) Too many diseases. 2) If I tell him up front it’d be harder but at least he’d still respect me enough to give us another chance in the future if that’s what it came down to.

So she doesn't even really care about him. Neither reason is because she loves him and could never do that to him. Nope. It's just STDs and that she fears she would lose him as her backup plan.

She should just do him a favor and end it. She clearly won't last long being married to him.

Whirrlz · 2018-11-13T19:15:46+00:00

They always feel like they are missing out on something. But its just more dick

TomahawkSuppository · 2018-11-13T20:59:47+00:00

Women don’t know love or loyalty. They understand love in extremely shallow terms and loyalty is a foreign concept to them.

Nov51605 · 2018-11-14T02:59:35+00:00

well she can at least blow a random dude behind the dumpster of a nightclub to dip her toes in the water and see what it's like , because a BJ "isn't really cheating"

Blind_sypher88 · 2018-11-13T21:35:08+00:00

I wonder if microchimerism is the main driver behind this behavior. They go around collecting DNA from the best specimens they can manage, and after a few years of this they settle down with the naive beta (for a while) to raise the mutt.

SomeRandomUser111 · 2018-11-13T21:45:04+00:00

ANYTHING SAID BEFORE THE WORD BUT, MEANS NOTHING.

moorekom · 2018-11-14T00:12:46+00:00

Before him I had dated around but nothing serious at all. He is my first and only lover. No one else even came close to getting the goodies but, with him, it just felt right. I love him with all my heart and I can see and feel how much he loves and adores me. My problem is… I guess.. curiosity and the fear of not knowing.

This is why you don't turn hoes into house wives gentlemen.

AshyBoneVR4 · 2018-11-14T03:03:44+00:00

This is the dumbest thing I've read in a very long time. When has the grass EVER been greener on the other side? I just don't understand this.

Mr_White119811 · 2018-11-14T11:07:03+00:00

Here I am with this great guy any girl would kill to have but I’m thinking about everything else but him.

Other women want t be with him so he is great. I don't care about him at all, all I care about is having a man other women want.

I feel that if I don’t date around some more then I will be cheating myself out of experiencing life.

My friends are riding the CC and get random guys flowering them with gifts for just existing. Why must I put in the work for relationship, it requires effort.

On the other hand, what if he is supposed to be the one? I don’t want to leave him out of curiosity and hurt him and ruin a good thing

What if I cant get a guy just as good, I like what I have, I don't want to be a cat lady. But what if I can get a better guy.

Hell, even if he’s not “the one” I still would never want to hurt him. I love and respect him and he just doesn’t deserve any of that

Im not a slut.... honest.

I wish I could just freeze him in time, get this out of my system, then bring him back to life.

I'm totally oblivious to the fact that where he will have stayed the same, my value will have dropped.

Funny thing is, I guess I don’t really expect to find anyone better.

If I knew I could definitely get a better guy, this dude would be gone in a heartbeat.

I mean, besides superficial things like a perfect body, a huge bank account and a “you can have whatever you like” attitude, finding another man who is just genuinely a good man like him would be, I believe, close to a damn miracle….. BUT, what if?

My guy is not good enough. I want these better things.

I guess I’m hoping to read about other girls in my situation who left and it was the worst decision they’ve ever made…. or married women who can assure me that even if I did date around, my curiosity would still be there.

I want to dump him and fuck around. I don't have the ovaries to take this step as it means taking responsibility for my actions. Tell me what to do, so if it goes wrong, I can blame you.

Better yet, someone just peak into the damn future for me and tell me what’s behind door 1 and what’s behind door 2!!

I am not prepared to take any chances in life. Someone tell me what to do as I am incapable of thinking for myself.

It’s coming to a head now because I caught him looking at rings online. He closed the screen out and I pretended I didn’t see… Please Help!

He loves me and treats me right, I want the tingles from a "Bad Guy". Im too young to be tied down, I want to ride the CC.

Yes, I’ve thought about just cheating but that is out of the question.

It will make me look bad. I wish he would let me fuck around then I wouldn't be in this mess. It is all his fault.

1) Too many diseases.

So if there were no STD's, cheating would be fine?

2) If I tell him up front it’d be harder but at least he’d still respect me enough to give us another chance in the future if that’s what it came down to.

If I am nice, I can fuck around and he can be my BB in waiting. If he tells me to do one, he is in the wrong because I was honest and told him I was riding the CC.

Just a girl trying to get it right.

Feminism has told me I can have my cake and eat it. I want to have my cake and eat it. These expectaions placed on me, like loyalty are just so oppressing.

letmeseeantipozi · 2018-11-14T10:01:39+00:00

You aren't getting that out of your system, you're encoding it in your system. It's vital to understand that.

[deleted] · 2018-11-14T11:33:13+00:00

and this is exactly why women are idiots i mean this says it all.. claims hes a great guy then still wanna fuck everyone but him until shes used up...who are women so stupid

Chiliresident · 2018-11-14T12:57:40+00:00

So Bossip is short for black gossip? Weird post photo has nothing to do with the black dear Abby letter....

R. Daneel Olivaw 2020!