[30F] "I'm sick and tired of the dating scene in Barcelona. I've never had a serious relationship, even though I'm attractive. Yes, I had guys interested in me, but it was a one way street. I always seem to come across the same categories of guys." Lists the jerks who pumped and dumped her.

moorekom · 2018-10-30T14:22:16+00:00

I've been living here for three years and never had a serious relationship, even though I'm attractive and did put myself out there (dating apps plus going out plus hobbies).

This is what people fail to see. A woman's approach is always indirect. Even though they want you to think that they are actively choosing you and are the ultimate selectors, their approach is to place themselves in the market and hope someone of worth comes along. They don't have an active strategy to attract a man of worth. Most of her complaint is because of exactly this. Her marketing strategy to sell herself is only attracting low end customers. Instead of actually improving product value, she is choosing to move to a different market in the hopes that she would be a quality product there.

Women, unlike men, live a top down model. They start with everything, if they're lucky enough to win the genetic lottery, and start losing everything over time. Social status, beauty, potential for marriage etc. Men start with pretty much nothing and have to build it all up. A thirty year old guy can move to another area, reinvent himself and do better than he could have before. A woman can only hope to get a good enough loser. Good enough for her to go for him but not good enough for him to get a better girl.

Yes, obviously I had guys interested in me, but it was always a one way street.

As mentioned above. Also,

I feel like Barcelona is the capital of tiny 'skinny fat' guys with arms and shoulders thinner than mine.

So, she's fat.

omegajelly200 · 2018-10-30T12:54:10+00:00

A high quality woman would get high quality men. So that means that.......

omegajelly200 · 2018-10-30T12:30:56+00:00

Even though I'm attractive.

I just stopped right there. If that's your only qualification for a serious relationship you deserve what's coming at you.

and did put myself out there (dating apps plus going out plus hobbies)

Translation: I just put "I love reading" on my Tinder.

DatBoiCrazy · 2018-10-30T13:16:13+00:00

All this complaining about fuckboys...

How do you become a fuckboy, or in our case a fucknigga? That sounds like an appealing career path for a young man. Complaining about them is like leaving your fruit salad out of the refrigerator then complaining about mold.

askmrcia · 2018-10-30T16:23:12+00:00

Yawn and once again, what does she bring to the table?

So according to her guys are one of the following :

1) lazy,

2) boring (our job to entertain her),

3)a fuck boy (she admitted she slept with these types in the article)

4) don't want a commitment

Hmmm well from a guys perspective why would any of us want you?

You're old and sleep around with fuck boys (your words).

Women like this have absolutely no excuse to be single. You get more matches on dating apps in one hour than every guy on this sub can get in two weeks combined. You can go to any bar and club and have guys walking up to you.

You literally moved to another country to date guys. This tells me one thing, you're old, unattractive and obviously still picky. Sorry, Mr. 6'0"+, with six pack making 6 figures don't want you anymore.

Go ahead and live the rest of your life filled with your pump and dumps or married to the fat socially awkward cpa guy. Your choice.

PS: Also dating apps and putting yourself out there (whatever the fuck that means) shows me that you are putting very little effort into dating. Sorry you're thirty now and the hand you are dealt is no longer filled with Aces and face cards (blackjack). You're going to need to put in more effort

DemonGroover · 2018-10-30T14:24:19+00:00

I got mugged in Barcelona, its all I remember about the place.

Ghustgan · 2018-10-30T17:09:25+00:00

Never thought I'd get to see a creature so ignorant to projection. It's hilarious:

Fuckboy: She literally fucks some guy she barely knows and he ghosts. Can't believe she can't see those guys from miles away...oh wait.
Boring Catalan: Average local joe who is somewhat naturally attractive. Why the hell does he need a reason to care about any of that non-spanish stuff though? Also, why would that shit be important to you in the first place? If you care about knowledge, date wikipedia. Or Gandalf.
Party animal: Who knew the best places to find men are parties, where people go to drink their brains out / do drugs / go wild / etc. I mean, everyone knows that's the place you go when you want to meet people who obviously make the right choices in life due to a healthy moral barometer. Obviously.
The tourist. Really? REALLY?!
Commitment-phob. Sounds like it isn't working out for some reason. So what, isn't this the reason you're "in the game?" To keep looking until you find it?
"Lazy guy:" Who.the.fuck.cares? Ignore them?

She's nothing more than meat to those men and she knows it. She also knows that it's because of her that she's meat. Dumbass.

TheYekke · 2018-10-30T12:42:52+00:00

Odd, I remember Barcelona as a grimy harbor town that had a huge air pollution problem, with hyperactive pick pocketing thrown in. The party is north and south of Barcelona in the tourist towns

cycloneous · 2018-10-30T18:09:18+00:00

Any guy that sticks their manhood into that lady's hair pie is asking for emotional baggage of epic proportions. She lists out the type of folks she's observed, but that translates to me those are the guys that have pumped / dumped her. She's never had a serious relationship because of the men she is choosing to associate with!

Verdict: Future cat lady in the making, will blame the "patriarchy" because she can't land a good man.

PizzaNuggies · 2018-10-30T16:29:57+00:00

Her entire list is guys that are just trying to get their nut off, but the one that isn't she calls boring. Basically, this dumbass brings zero to the table except a thoroughly abused vagina.

bk6830 · 2018-10-30T12:59:35+00:00

did put myself out there

Looks like it's not such a good idea. But hey! 30 years old, right? Clock is ticking, time to snag a ~~financially viable prosthetic leg~~ husband.

[deleted] · 2018-10-30T19:22:05+00:00

Yes. The entire city of Barcelona is the problem. Not you.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2018-10-30T20:50:31+00:00

So, what's she's saying is.. she wants a well put together guy who has committed years of his life to self improvement and building his own personal empire. By simply existing and making herself available she's hoping this elusive guy will just show up and sweep her off her feet.

IME, when I'm focused on my goals I barely notice women. I just swipe right until sex happens. So, she's shit out of luck.

NickTesla2018 · 2018-10-30T13:05:16+00:00

With f'boys at the top of the list, makes you wonder...

[deleted] · 2018-10-30T17:43:28+00:00

The DV laws in Spain are such that women gets paid to make no questions asked accusations- any man with a god damn clue is avoiding all women there- the birth rate has fallen through the floor except for immigrants.

Chairman_Ellen_Pao · 2018-10-30T22:06:43+00:00

Nice. A damn foreigner insulting her hosts. I swear, women just have no manners these days. GTFO, bitch!

duracell___bunny · 2018-11-02T18:43:26+00:00

This isn't her fault. I'm actually surprised it's a woman writing this, as I've heard the same thing from guys.

Spain gives the word "shallow" a new meaning.

FennelMGTOW · 2018-11-08T02:32:14+00:00

Prostitution is legal in Spain; why even bother to date?