TL;DR childs mother holding grudge 12 years after splitup. makes offer to "wipe child support record clean" if I get back with her, I refuse, she loses her shit and returns to supercunt mode.

Body: 14 years ago I had a "great job", it paid right at 6 figures and I was out and about and active to do the job. was "common law" married to a younger woman that was easily an 8, we had a kid.

2 years later the company I was working for started cutting the payout on the contract jobs that I worked. other contractors followed suit and my pay went from right at 6 figures to >50k, a year later it dropped another >10k. I had gone to school to be certified in communications and while it started out great, soon the market was flooded with people with the same certifications who would low ball contracts just to get the work (had to make use of that degree they paid for after all).

The "housewife" was "home" taking care of our child all day for the first few years, after the pay cuts I told her she needed to get a job. The grandparents/non working relatives could watch the little one and she could get some extra income for the household. You know, to support her "lifestyle" which included a new car, all the clothing and accessories she could ever need to play the "good mom" at the mall while she was shopping and having "play dates" with other moms, the roof over our family's head, food on the plate, insurance (life/health/dental) and all the other things I had been paying for by myself for 3 years with ever decreasing revenue.

She begrudgingly got a job as a waitress and starting hanging out with some less than "savory" women from work. started coming home late, cut off sex almost entirely, became angry, emotionally/physically abusive, threatened to "take the baby and take me to the cleaners with child support", etc.

After a couple of months of this I started going out of town for contract work that paid a little more but was still barely half of what I was used to making. I was gone for a month and would be home for a week at a time. The 3rd trip I was returning home a couple of days early to "surprise" my bitch of a "wife". Before I got into town my "sister in law" calls me on my cell and tells me "don't go hang out with "fatboy" and "twigboy" anytime soon..." to which I replied "why, they are our friends and we hang out with them all the time." this is where it really got disturbing. Her sister tells me "shes strung out on meth with those 2, been sleeping with them both, and has been trying to convince them to kill you at work so that your insurance will pay out more, offering to pay them after the settlement."

I was fucking floored, but managed to ask "where is she now?". the sister told me "shes with fatboy now". I did not tell sis that I was omw into town, no one had any clue. I went to fatboys apartment and knocked on the door (armed with my pistol in case shit went bad), the bedroom window blind opens with a slit and a few minutes later the front door opens. there is my son sitting on a "friends" couch watching cartoons with what looks like drugs and tools to use them on the coffee table right in front of him, mom looking all strung out with her shirt undone, no bra, in a pair of sweatpants. fatboy is standing there in a pair of swim trunks and flip flops. I pushed past fatboy and methwhore and took my son and left. I filed for divorce and cited infidelity/drug abuse/child endangerment as cause the next day. my female lawyer did not inform me that i needed to file for "emergency custody" and ensured me that "possession of the child is the law, she can't legally take him from you." which was an outright lie.

a few days later fatboy and methwhore strong armed my beautiful innocent child from his grandmother and she went into hiding. when i approached the court with this i basically got told to get my bitch ass on the plantation and start paying child support as her "council" had filed for emergency custody on moms behalf. all of my submitted affidavits were irrelevant because I had a dick and a better paying job.

She ends up marrying a much older man because the wall was coming and she thought locking down a rich man would be best for her, it was. she remarried and had another baby within 3 months of the divorce being final. divorced that guy and took half his business, was awarded child support, etc for the 2nd time in 10 years.

During her 2nd divorce she became very docile with me, she never got over the rejection of me having the audacity to divorce the common law wife meth whore that tried to have me shot at work to collect my insurance and was constantly verbally abusive towards me whenever we spoke. A couple of days I went to pick up my son for visitation and was greeted at the door by a smiling woman who invited me in. i was obviously hesitant. she proceeds to inform me that she was divorced and had taken the house, half the business, half the savings, and was getting child support for baby daddy #2. but wait, theres more! she informs me "i want to have another baby, and I want at least 2 of my 3 kids to have the same father, I want you. If you remarry me all your back child support goes away, you get to be with me again, and we get another baby." I laughed in her face and told her that "I would rather owe you 5 million in child support and spend the rest of my life in jail than ever be with you again." and then asked "whats this really about? you want another chance to have some tweeker kill me for insurance money?" she went livid.

she and her sister deny it ever happened, however her sister still does not associate with her over this very thing, to this day!

which brings us to today. I don't get to see my child as often as I'd like, hes almost grown and this woman is emotionally abusing him as she has realized that idgaf about her in the least. Today I watched my son cry over texts that she sent him because he was asking to spend one more night with me , its summer after all and she was sending him to stay with one of her friends because shes taking a vacation this week knowing full well that I treat him well and am a good father to him. this cunt does this to lash out at me for rejecting her. I have pictures of the texts where she degrades me to him and generally ignores his needs. It was all I could do to keep from driving 400 miles to see this bitch today after looking at the messages she sends him when hes at my house.

the boy is scared to leave his mother, she has instilled so much fear of loss in him that it is crazy. shes had cancer 3 times and she plays that pity card, the boy also has a younger brother hes scared to leave alone with mom. the state ignores all my pleas, dismisses them with prejudice. I feel sorry for my son but after the divorce rape i was left homeless. child support was based on yearly average for the duration of our "marriage" and is ridiculous considering the decline in my pay scale. have gone to have child support reset 4 times and every time it has been increased to cover back support that I had missed due to job losses (you can't work when you can't afford insurance/fuel/tools/etc). have been thrown in jail for 3 months at a time several times and lost contracts over it. the state does not give a fuck about me or my son, we are disposable. im ready to go punchhappy on this bitch after what I saw on this boys phone today because i know the state won't do shit about it. from so many previous experiences reporting this behavior to them.

lesson learned: the state does not give a fuck about you or your sons. we are on our own. i have to try to break the cycle of fear in my son over the loss of his mother caregiver abuser in order to help him. although i am so emotionally beaten by the state and society at this point the only thing i know how to do is flex my muscles, be creative, hustle $, and hate the fact that i didn't push that bitch down 12 flights of stairs when I had the chance.

rant over.