What about BDSM and Roleplay?

Deep_Strength · 2020-03-02T00:51:47+00:00

Again, any time this topic comes up in any form ("how far can I go before I'm sinning"), you're asking the WRONG question. You're trying to find a line or boundary, when following after Christ is a direction. Stop that.

Approaching these topics from the angle of "how much can I do until I'm sinning" is establishing a law that you have to work to keep when, as Christians, we are told to live under grace.

This is the same conceptual question that comes up over and over again in things like "is watching this movie a sin?" or "is listening to this music a sin?"

Living in grace causes us to desire to do what is right (Love God and love your neighbor): good works, running from temptation, avoiding causing others to stumble, and so on.

I mean, pretending to be strangers in a bar might LOOK like you two are sinning,

Yeah, so don't do it.

1 Thess 5:21 But examine everything carefully; hold fast to that which is good; 22 abstain from every form/appearance of evil.

If you're doing anything and you think it can cause others to stumble or you think it might be questionable, don't even engage in that behavior. Some Christians can do BDSM (or whatever that entails) with a clear heart and conscience and others cannot. For those that cannot, we don't want to cause them to stumble.

LordMacragge · 2020-03-01T20:46:07+00:00

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chaseemall · 2020-03-01T21:47:50+00:00

What you do with your wife is your business, so long as it’s just your wife.

Cloudy_Pirate · 2020-03-02T15:58:16+00:00

Crawl before you walk. Walk before you run.

Figure out how to date a girl before you project all the sexual adventures you want to have with her in marriage.

Graduate from high school before you project about your PhD.

You have many, many, many, real life lessons to learn before you begin to address this topic.

Eventually, you may understand that the truth of "All things are lawful for me, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful for me, but I will not be mastered by anything" has a much deeper meaning.

For now, concentrate on the basics and avoid lustful fantasy.

AngelusVastator · 2020-03-24T08:08:01+00:00

Honestly I think any sexual practice, including BDSM, is fine within marriage. Get crazy. It's your covenant to enjoy.

But just don't do occult/pagan BDSM stuff.

NoFaithInThisSub · 2020-03-02T00:25:03+00:00

Consider the Lord as a 3rd party who is always present, if you are serious about the real faith.

I would be careful adding worldly things into a marriage. Church has already added worldly methods to the pulpit, how is that working out for the marriage between Jesus and His bride the Church.

Keep it pure and simple. If you need that extra stuff, something is wrong somewhere. We are not called to fantasy land, its RP for a reason, we are meant to be switched on and aware, every angle, discerning in all things (physical, emotional, mental, will, spiritual, health, finance, relationships, mission).

2020-03-02T02:11:55+00:00

Roleplaying is fine so long as you two aren’t pretending to be other people. BDSM is similar, so long as it’s kept nonviolent and isn’t used to demean the other person. Also, everything must be consensual.

Schrodingersfugue · 2020-03-02T04:19:14+00:00

In my opinion, there is nothing wrong with BDSM between consenting adults. Consenting is key. Power dynamics are central to BDSM and all parties must agree on those dynamics. Otherwise, the “sin” would be involving another person in a situation they don’t understand and didn’t agree to. You Tube actually content on BDSM which might give you a better idea about that community. Good luck!

Red-Curious · 2020-03-02T18:04:07+00:00

I agree with /u/Deep_Strength. If you're asking the question, you're already in the wrong framework for understanding godliness.

A friend of mine who mods r/TrueChristian just wrote a fantastic post addressing these types of questions in great detail. I strongly recommend you read it.

2020-03-03T21:14:57+00:00

Good practical question. The sexual relationship in a Christian marriage is way more fulfilling than sex acts outside of it; so what the world tells you is "great" regarding sex falls short on what you'll find in a real deep relationship. For example, if you listen to the world, you'll think a one-night stand is the ideal way to fulfill all your desires, and that's totally false.
At the end, you will enjoy love and be deeply fulfilled in a Christian sexual union by focusing on building intimacy with your wife and giving all of your self to her and to God. The best sex advice I can give you is: get to know her deeply, her heart, her mind, her dreams, her fears, and both will have the most fulfilling sex relationship.

youmychic-fil-a · 2020-03-05T16:12:11+00:00

This may have been mentioned but this really all depends upon the wife you actually find. She might not actually be comfortable with any of that, and even if you ask she might say yes not actually having done any of it. Sex is important yes, but it’s not THE most important thing in a marriage. A satisfying partner does not make a marriage what it is. But a healthy, whole, mature, deeply rooted Godly woman can make a satisfying partner.

spankthegoodgirl · 2020-03-01T21:17:32+00:00

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Title	What about BDSM and Roleplay?
Author	LordMacragge
Upvotes	9
Comments	39
Date	March 1, 2020 8:09 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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