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Saw this guys post about his wife, pretty eye opening. Thoughts?

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March 4, 2020

If this isn’t allowed I’ll delete it. I don’t have a specific question, but thought this guys post could spark a discussion.

His post:

33M 34F Why does she behave this way?

So she was served with the papers tonight so I can post about this, she reads reddit too. My wife of 6 years recently forced an open marriage on me, she said she "had to find herself" and she felt lost in our marriage. I was totally against the idea, I hate the idea of another man having sex with my wife with a passion. But she told me that she had to do this, and it was either an open marriage or no marriage, and she meant it. I still loved her, so I extremely reluctantly agreed.

She immediately began seeing a number of men, and was very happy. For a month or so our sex life improved as her NRE spilled over onto me. I had very little luck dating, as I knew I would. I can read, and know how to look things up on the internet and I knew what it is like for married men looking to date. the fact that I own my own business and put long hours into did not help at all, I had very little time to even browse dating sites, let alone actually date.

Then one night I walked into the bathroom and found my wife already in there. She had more or less sneaked in, she didn't want me to know she was in there or what she was doing. I found her giving herself an enema. I happened to notice there was another empty enema in the sink (not the garbage, which is significant). My first reaction was was concern and I told her that if she was blocked so bad she needed 2 enemas she really needed a doctor, and started getting ready to take her to the ER. She kept trying to put me off and telling me it was no big deal but I was obviously getting worried, as much by her apparent unconcern as by the medical implications.

She finally broke down and admitted that she was planning to have anal sex with one of her dates that night and was preparing herself. That's why the empty was in the sink, she didn't want me to see it in the garbage. Now for 9 years I have been asking her for anal sex going back to when we were first dating. She always told me she doesn't do that. Now here she was going out of her way to prepare herself to have anal with another man and hide it from me. I was heartbroken and furious. Why would she do that to me?

So we argued, and she stormed out for her date. I was so angry I looked at her messages on her ipad and facebook. I hadn't done this before because I didn't really want to see what she was saying to these men. But I found out she has had anal with several of them. And BDSM and threesomes, other things I have asked her to do and been refused. Admittedly threesomes can be a disaster in a marriage, but I had asked when we were first dating and it wasn't a serious thing yet and got shut down flat. None of these guys got shut down. She even had anal with one guy on the second date.

And their pictures. They are all gym guys with huge muscles, nothing like me. Every single one of them. She obviously has a type, and I am not it.

About two weeks later, after I had cooled down and she for once did not have a date, I talked to her about this. She admitted that those guys were her type, she was never really attracted to me physically. She liked my personality and that I could give her a comfortable life with all she could ask for financially and she thought she could be happy with that. She found out she couldn't, and she had to have men who turned her on physically and so she opened up the marriage.

I would have done anything for her, she was the love of my life and she has treated me like shit. she has fucked at least 20 guys in less than a year. She has done anything they asked her to do, willingly. She has given strangers sexual favors she has denied her husband for years.

My question is why? What makes some women behave this way? What can I do to make sure that something like this never happens to me again?

TLDR; Wife forced open marriage and did things she refused to do with her husband. Why?

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Title Saw this guys post about his wife, pretty eye opening. Thoughts?
Author bobvillacooking
Upvotes 202
Comments 87
Date 04 March 2020 07:13 PM UTC (11 months ago)
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[–]∞ Mod | RP Vanguardbsutansalt[M] [score hidden] stickied comment (0 children) | Copy

9 times out of 10 this shit is cuck porn fantasy. If it's the rare exception and is real.... because he's beta bucks and ignored all the red flags. /thread

[–]Kabuki431277 points278 points  (19 children) | Copy

Yesterday i casually mentioned that women have other options lined up before they break up and that's why you see them in a relationship within a few weeks after breakup while men try to comprehend what happened for months and years.

I was almost crucified and nobody was able to process what I just said.

[–]second-last-mohican199 points200 points  (0 children) | Copy

'Women are like monkeys, they dont let go until they have another branch to swing to"

  • Patrice O'neal

[–]ColdBeing50 points51 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yup. This girl on Tinder that I used to sleep with was still with her boyfriend of 7 years when we were hooking up. She told me she was mentally done with the relationship, just didn't want to break up yet. Once I had her around more, she broke up with her boyfriend. I was the second guy she has ever been with. Of course, I never got into a LTR with her and she went into a hoe phase and started sleeping around with a lot of guys because of the freedom she had.

[–][deleted] 76 points77 points  (4 children) | Copy

It's wild how in any social gathering in western culture 2020 you almost get crucified for simply speaking an obvious truth that has nothing but evidence to back it up everywhere; oh well, the blind can suffer needlessly.

[–]Tambamwham38 points39 points  (2 children) | Copy

It also depends on who says it. If it was Channing Tatum saying it, they’d all be like “oh my god, you’re right.”

[–]Ill_mumble_that22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

OH trust me. If he said it then the hamplanet feminists, so fat that they have achieved their own gravitational pull, would be all over it calling him a misogynist.

In which case, he could apologize and be a bitch resulting in his reputation being destroyed. But I think he would probably just own like like Sean Connery did.

Never show weakness to those who can only use words to tear you down.

Joe Roegan followed up on that Sean Connery interview, I loved this line:

"She didn't know what the fuck to do after he said that, she thought she had him"

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hahaha, facts.

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yep. I watched Red-Curious shut down a conversation on RP Christians yesterday because a gnostic christian told him off for attempting to exhort to him when all the dude asked was what denomonation his interpretation was or if he was a christian at all. For a subreddit built on the premise of confronting the ego, it sure was an egotisical reaction.

[–]SeasonedRP16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

Absolutely. They are always lining up options, and they are usually in the early stages of a new relationship before the break up. After the breakup they go public with it.

[–]1rugged7920 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy

Must have been another sub. Orbiters are a well-known fact around here.

But saying it sets off a woman's ASD alarm, while simultaneously firing up her hamster wheel. The result is messy to say the least. If for some reason, you want this point to stick, you better prepare yourself for 12 rounds of slugging it out.

And that's why we don't talk about Fight Club.

[–]dtyler866 points7 points  (7 children) | Copy

So my LTR recently has been more cavalier with the thought of parting ways. Wants me to propose, we fight about dumb shit and now that we finally discussed her moving in, she side tracks with “well, it’s taken this long for you to ask me, I’m scared of it doesn’t go well we’ll break up” - very traditional catholic Hispanic girl, is she actually afraid or is this supposed to be an indicator she has her next branch spotted? Also, we’re 33 and 29, not college kids

[–]Kabuki43119 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy

Dont know much buddy, but watch her actions closely and don't trust a word. Any sign she's distant, being busy, wants some space etc. Get ready to evaluate your options

[–]dtyler866 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Well said. And that’s been my stance and mindset lately. As I replied to the other dude below:

It’s not consistent. We’ve been together for 3+ and I’ve held off on any serious action to propose because we fight over dumb shit, I run two businesses and I dont have time for false starts, like a divorce. She wants marriage, kids, a house, etc. she says it’s been too long; first time she’s seemed actually considering life with us apart. I’ve called her out on it and her take is always, well I’ve been waiting for 3+ years. This is where I ask myself, well, trp is always saying command respect, you’re the prize etc., I’d say damn right I’m the prize but idk how long any woman nearing her thirties would hang on unless their heart was in it, but as I posted, I too have to wonder if AWALT, maybe she’s spotted another branch.

[–]Kabuki43111 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Waiting for what? A government and a peice of paper that tells everyone that i love you and want to be with you. Sorry thats too much personal and financial risk for me."

Word it however you want and See her actions.

[–]DarkestShadeOfRed14 points15 points  (2 children) | Copy

If she's talking about ending it (especially on a consistent basis), the relationship is already over. Rip off the band-aid.

[–]dtyler861 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s not consistent. We’ve been together for 3+ and I’ve held off on any serious action to propose because we fight over dumb shit, I run two businesses and I dont have time for false starts, like a divorce. She wants marriage, kids, a house, etc. she says it’s been too long; first time she’s seemed actually considering life with us apart. I’ve called her out on it and her take is always, well I’ve been waiting for 3+ years. This is where I ask myself, well, trp is always saying command respect, you’re the prize etc., I’d say damn right I’m the prize but idk how long any woman nearing her thirties would hang on unless their heart was in it, but as I posted, I too have to wonder if AWALT, maybe she’s spotted another branch.

[–]DarkestShadeOfRed13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

It sounds like you are both thinking about if not actively looking for the exit from the relationship. You are giving her what she wants by offering to live together (which is a mistake), and now she is finding reasons not to follow through with it. You're the prize, and you should have gotten a hell yes to that, not a well maybe I need to think about this more now. Trust your gut, rip off the band-aid.

[–]Ill_mumble_that9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Is she deep throating you and/or analfucking at least 4 times a week? While also avoiding all other men?

If not, she's not "move-in" material. Downgrade her to a plate and start seeing other women.

[–]MasculineRP2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

Where did you mention this?

[–]Kabuki43115 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

In a social gathering. Ironically most guys have been through the scenario and were still in denial

[–]Kabuki431114 points115 points  (1 child) | Copy

Posts like these used to make me furious and question everything. Now after finding RP we see this shit coming miles away.

[–]thecarryone28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]HungryDogzRun192 points193 points  (7 children) | Copy

I would rather die than live as a cuck

[–]throwaway90091234126 points127 points  (6 children) | Copy

I'd rather be single forever and never see pussy and just jerk off, than be a cuck.

[–]DarkestShadeOfRed22 points23 points  (5 children) | Copy

I'd rather cut my dick off and throw it in the tall grass than be a cuck.

[–]According-Cod3 points4 points  (4 children) | Copy

I'd rather suck my own dick than be a cuck

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[–]Domebeers37 points38 points  (1 child) | Copy

dual mating strategy is pretty basic around here. I don't know why'd you post this. It's obvious.

She married a simp. She treated a simp like a simp. Simp is shocked to find out he has been viewed as simp for his whole relationship. Lesson is don't be a simp.

I'll bet you he was a shmuck who would bend over backwards to make sure his princess was happy. If you do that, women don't appreciate it, it actually turns them off. This is the result.

[–]Iluvalmonds836 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]1jacques_cousteau007131 points132 points  (15 children) | Copy


  1. Ignored red flags for LTR

  2. Got married

  3. Broke frame

On top of all this, poor guy wasn’t aware of the word “hypergamy”

May the TRP gods favor him and allow him to find this sub ASAP so he doesn’t choose the easy way out.

[–]bobvillacooking[S] 58 points59 points  (10 children) | Copy

34 isn’t too late to turn your life around at least. Seems crazy how oblivious he was, like it’s a troll post, but then you realize how many men are just like this guy.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh, there's a fuck ton of blue pills like him. This was an extreme case, but still. It's a version of "Eat, Pray, Slut."

See also: The Wild Oats Project.

[–]Tambamwham7 points8 points  (5 children) | Copy

What sub was this post on? I’m dying to interact with this guy...

[–]bobvillacooking[S] 5 points6 points  (4 children) | Copy


[–]loker19959 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy

Link please. I want to see the discussion

Edit: in inbox!

2nd edit: I've found it, i just wanted to see how the females are gonna defend the chick or try to explain.

[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah, crossposting (and the subsequent brigading) is a no-no.

[–]2319Skew10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Bet it's "if he had listened more" or "he could have washed the dishes more".

[–]Protocol_Apollo4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

The issue isn’t just what happened to him:

Another issue is he willing to unplug?

And how far will he go? Would he take TRP on board?

This is something everyone here would assume since we’re already here but this isn’t the case for every man.

Not every man can take the shattering red pill.

[–]NeedRealityShock22 points23 points  (1 child) | Copy

is he willing to unplug?

I bet the wife could teach him a thing or two

[–]empatheticapathetic7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]Iluvalmonds839 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like he never had a strong frame to begin with regarding her. He moreso worked in her frame and willingly got used hoping that she would love him the way he does her.

[–]burn-all-bridges5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy

God damnit take my gold you fine fucking specimen.

Trp doesn't deserve you and here you are.

I pray that you continue to inform men. 🙌🏻

Thank you.

[–]HotelMohelHolidayInn6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

Why give your money to a site that hates TRP and wants to ban it?

*People can see it regardless.

[–]burn-all-bridges1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

So people can see this post that is highlighted and read it.

Also because I give gold to other subreddits anyway.

I'm not that level of serious about life, I wouldn't recommend anyone be.

The cards are dealt, we can't change what reddit wants.

Also to be honest if the tone wasn't so negative it wouldnt be so hard to get on board with.

The koolaid here is a very dirty cloudy drink.

Tasty...but ugly.

[–]thecarryone84 points85 points  (7 children) | Copy

9 years asking for anal sex...

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[–]Ill_mumble_that6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy

"If her ass is closed to you, so is her heart."

What's that quote from? I know I've heard it before.

[–]Domebeers34 points35 points  (3 children) | Copy

even asking for it is a bad move. If you want anal sex just stick it in or demand it.

the cuckband was probably all "Honey, pretty pretty please can I have anal? I even cleaned the whole house today and cooked dinner!" and is shocked his wife isn't attracted to him.

This is why they should teach rp in school. Would save lives.

[–]tobyeatsfatkids55 points56 points  (2 children) | Copy

nah, i wouldnt just stick it in man, thats just disrespectful as hell

i think a better way would be like "im gonna put my dick in your ass" and if she declines then i wouldnt do it

if you just straight stick it in, its kind of dangerous, borderline rape at that. if you dont see it as rape, the woman will if shes not into it

[–]dpgproductions37 points38 points  (1 child) | Copy

Also can be extremely painful for them if they’re not prepared for it. I’ve done it by accident before by slipping out of the vag and trying to pound it back in and somehow hitting the backside like a bullseye and she straight up locked herself in the bathroom crying because it hurt so bad lmao

[–]tobyeatsfatkids12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]fernandoarauj55 points56 points  (0 children) | Copy

It's always eye opening reading shit like this.

[–]FrenCan31624 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

At 33 he could come back. This guy should divorce, lift, take the rp and start slaying. But we won't because he's a supersimp

[–]ay-fuh-q54 points55 points  (1 child) | Copy

These pussies get henpecked into “sex isn’t everything” and “only whores do blowjobs/anal/etc.”

Anyone who falls for this shit almost deserves it. You’re shoving your head in the sand and marrying it anyway.

That post read like a TRP example more so than a legitimate thing.... it shit like this happens.

Affairs are inherently dirty. It’s why your girlfriend/wife does shit with Chad that she won’t do with you.

Going back to another post in this sub, if she isn’t a full on slut for you, you’re the guy she settles for. It’s really that simple.

[–]According-Cod22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

You just reminded me of another post, "there's two types of women in this world. Women who will fuck YOU easily and women who will fuck OTHER GUYS easily but not you."

[–]user2018062021 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

I think my takaway is to never ever get serious with any girl that isn't breaking rules for me. I only want to be with a girl that worships me.

And even then.... The stories of the wife that stops wanting sex after the marriage.... Hells no.

[–]catsdontsmile10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

Eesh. We must remember this guy, and always strife to avoid becoming him.

[–]EatMyAssSideways13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

Don‘t belive the Larp post of some cuckfetish idiot

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[–]theUnBannableHulk5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy


Contraception let’s out the slut and destroys demographics

[–]Tambamwham21 points22 points  (5 children) | Copy

Don’t feel sorry for the guy one bit.

[–]WIA20XX28 points29 points  (2 children) | Copy

Fan fiction.

[–]ay-fuh-q7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yeah. It feels like it.

[–]empatheticapathetic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez20 points21 points  (3 children) | Copy

What a fucking simp. And now I ask you, rhetorically, what is the first thing we always tell guys?

[–]FrenCan3167 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

lift, this guy was the anti-dread

[–]beardestbird4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lift, AWALT.

But serious question. Would that have prevented anything?

[–]1DubbleFUPAwitCheez5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

He woulda had to do it a long time before this started but yeah I think so. He might not have gotten anal but I don't think he would've got cucked if he got in good shape.

[–][deleted] 28 points29 points  (0 children) | Copy

Fucking faggot ass beta. I don't give a fuck if you downvote or ban me. This is the type of shit that ruins lives. This is what we call textbook oneitis.

"i was begging for anal from my post wall hag for 9 years and she wouldn't give it to me"

Fuck the blue pill matrix, cross over into the Red Pill World fellas.

[–]ta_red_light4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I would really like to see the opinions of the "I'm not a red pill psychopath" guys who constantly shit on us, here on Reddit.

Well gentleman (I know some of you come and read here), what is this guy's problem? If what we talk and say is crap, be my guest and provide us with your years of experience.

[–]newyearzz20207 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

After hopping off the carousel and settling for billy beta, she started missing the Chad dick on the carousel, so she asks for an open relationship to relive her days being totally submissive, pleasing and fucking Chads, and doing anything they want (including, but not limited to anal).

A good test to see if a woman is really into you (LTR or otherwise) is to ask for anal (or more like saying “I’m gonna put it in your ass” during foreplay and see her reaction)

If says no, then breakup with her because she sees you as the one she settled for and will eventually cheat on you with Chad.

[–]Nuwanda20611 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

This smells a lot like a troll post lol, something a woman would post to tease and see what dudes in this subreddit answer.

[–]mickenrorty3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hahaha... AWALT.

This is why guys need to take The Red Pill... no expectations of your women then no disappointment in your women (plural)

The cuter and innocent she portrays to be... the dirtier she is for alpha males.

[–]3chazthundergut5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh man. Poor bastard.

Looks like Rollo was right. Attraction cannot be negotiated

[–]mrmaika102 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

It’s shit like this that throws me back into the anger phase. I don’t even have hate for the woman, she’s just doing what she’s programmed to do. I have hate for the blue pilled men that fuck themselves like this. I have hate for the establishment and the media that tells men to behave like this. Fuck there’s so much wrong with men today, I just want everyone to discover trp. It hurts to see my friends be beta bitches, especially when I try to lead them in the right direction and they throw it out because Hollywood said so. Fuck.

[–]beardestbird2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

This post makes me dissapointed rather than mad. Not even at the girl but at the man.

You should be willing to walk away. If she doesn’t respect you enough walk away. I’ve been learning that recently. Divert your attention away from her and focus on other things. He could truly use red pill material.

However, I don’t know the answer to his question. I don’t think there’s truly a way to force a woman to be loyal or encourage true loyalty unless you have super high SMV

[–]WarDiaz2094 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I feel bad for the guy but this is hilarious. Talk about ignoring red flags

[–]Dabainya1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read the comments, don't ask why dude. Ask where can YOU get someone for Anal!!! Get out of your pity party and begin working on your life.

[–]ReasonablyGoodMexica1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Well, this technically goes in TheRedPill.

Also, dear god, reading this was physically painful. Cringe, shame and sad all at the same time. I'm so thankful I'm not that dude and I didn't get to that point. Jesus christ

[–]kaizen9871 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What an ultimate cuck. An utter disgrace to our sex.

[–]curiousgeorge1441 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I'm pretty sure this is fake.

[–]nexther0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

That was a fun read. So many RP truths!

[–]Libertyordeath12140 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Divorce the bitch

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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