Boomerang chick says she can't stop thinking about me. What do?

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March 7, 2020

So I've been seeing this girl on and off for the past couple of years. Nothing past plate or FWB status. It's usually the same script every time: She'll hit me up, exchange some small talk, I'll set up logistics to get together. This lasts for a couple months before she leaves by her own volition and goes radio silent. No biggie for me. In the meantime, I'm focusing on my goals and seeing other girls when I can. Few months later, my phone pings, and the process cycles through again.

The last time we got together, my sex game significantly improved after reading SGM and my interactions with her were much colder. On our very last "date", she put up some heavy ASD that I was unable to push through and I ultimately showed her the door. That was about 6 months ago and really hadn't heard from her since, besides from her liking my occasional social media post.

Fast forward to a week ago, she hits me up with the classic "Hey". We do some small catch-up, and I propose a date to meet up. She tells me she's gonna be out of town that day and for the following week, but that she would be available when she gets back. I say that's fine, and to keep in touch. Then I get the following text last night:

Not really sure how I should take it as I've never had a girl say those things to me before. Is this a shit test or some variation of a comfort test? I'd still like to see her again just because we get along when we're together and the sex is pretty good. Just unsure how to proceed. Thanks for the help.

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Title Boomerang chick says she can't stop thinking about me. What do?
Author -earthmover
Upvotes 80
Comments 56
Date 07 March 2020 05:53 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]theUnBannableHulk253 points254 points  (8 children) | Copy

She’s hitting the wall.

Running out of options and the other dicks she was jumping on are not treating her well or ditched her.

You’re fucking her and are treating her more decently than the other assholes, so lack of options + tired of being used as a fuck hole + familiarity = post wall hag feels.

“Thanks for sharing”. Enough.

[–]AbusiveFather163 points64 points  (1 child) | Copy

You deserve to be Unbannable, my friend.

[–]theUnBannableHulk24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]RPOpenUp23 points24 points  (0 children) | Copy

Beter yet, just han solo her with "'I know"

[–]-earthmover[S] 22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy

Went with that and got this response:

The "irrevocably in love" bit is a joke we have between us. Thinking about doing "I know. I'm irrevocably in love with myself too" or something.

Edit: Just had a look out of morbid curiosity and saw she unfollowed me on Twitter and Facebook. Guess she really didn’t really like that line. Ah well.

[–]ObjectiveHunter11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

nice. cocky funny is a good way to go

[–]Ill_mumble_that2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

op responds: :thumbsup emoji:

[–]z2a1-91 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]theyearsstartcomin2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"Haha nice"

[–]alphakari79 points80 points  (5 children) | Copy

Historically we go around and around with whatever it is that we do.

She wants this to change.

And I'm not sure what has changed over the years, but since the last time we spoke/hung out I can't stop thinking about you.

She has romanticized the idea of something changing for herself, and is describing the situation in a way that makes you feel important.

It's pretty much ruining my life.

More ego pumping. Communicates the psychological agony of this fantasy not coming true.

I don't want anything from you.

This is a lie, but she's saying it to protect herself from you rejecting her fantasy. Ignore this part, it's not for you.

I just needed, for my own sanity, to get it off my chest.

Justifying the lie. Non-relevant.

So there's that.

Reply pls.

These are signs you may not be able to spin the plate much longer if you aren't planning to lock her down. There are only so many times that the hamster will be able to spin a story she can immerse herself in.

[–]MrAnderzon19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy

Excellent analyzation . You should do more

[–]_-resonance-_6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]youcantdrinkthat4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy

Agree except on one part: This is a lie, but she's saying it to protect herself from you rejecting her fantasy. Ignore this part, it's not for you.

It is a lie. She does want something but she's too messed up emotionally to admit it without hedging. If she wants something to change she'll stick around and shape up. Not wanting anything from OP allows her to set up a dynamic in which he has to prove himself and sets up a natural power imbalance.

[–]alphakari11 points12 points  (1 child) | Copy

Nah, all women lie. She doesn't even know she's lying. Women are manipulative and make plays against our manhood just by their nature. It's the animal in them, and faulting them for it is like getting mad at the scorpion for stinging you.

You aren't ever gonna find a bitch who doesn't hedge herself. If you want a partner who puts themselves on the line, better install grindr.

[–]Ill_mumble_that5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

install grindr

now that's a way to hedge your yourself.

[–]professionalsteve18 points19 points  (3 children) | Copy

Anything is a boomerang if you throw it straight up

[–]DJ_Nade2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Hmmm. I like this.

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[–]northwest_iron19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy

There's an opening in her penis pipeline and you're the top / next choice.

I personally wouldn't spend much time speculating on the reason.

[–]LegendarySuperSalsa36 points37 points  (3 children) | Copy

Reply with a simple ‘ok’, put on some popcorn, and enjoy the fireworks.

[–]Bleu_Cheese_Pursuits5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

llol (the first "l" is for literal)

[–]imtrynaclapnocap4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]illusiveab1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

My first thought

[–]AncientDragons11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy

Keep doing what you’re doing. Feels are for the bedroom, not text messages. If she gets too weird about stuff cut her loose. Much better that she’s thinking about you this way than if you were thinking about her this way.

[–]Sandkasten15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy

You can address it in text or when you meet again. But you will have to address it. It is your choice. She seems a little bit defensive and does not want to be the one taking it a step further. Protecting her ego. She is putting the responsibility on you but she is also giving you an out by saying "I don't want anything from you".

Tell her you are also not sure whatever it is that you both do but you like how fuss-free it is and that you like spending time with her.

[–]DiskKiller212 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

”I don’t blame you. I think about myself a lot too.”

[–]Transport1271 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]boy_named_su7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sounds like you gave her the D real good

This is a golden opportunity to turn her into your sex slave, if desired. Test her limits, see how deeply you can degrade her, sexually

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

She likes you cuz you're no drama good times. You probably give her good dick and some good hang after, so you're a great way for her to de-stress and get away from it all.

The wise thing for her to do would be not to change anything. But now she's thinking she wants you to be her bf, even though that would change everything and the dynamic wouldn't be what she likes about you any more.

[–]FattiesMakeMeGag20 points21 points  (5 children) | Copy

Respond "I know", then change the subject.

[–]1RedPillFusion35 points36 points  (3 children) | Copy

This is TRP caricature nonsense. There is no need to flex like this when she's clearly putting herself out there already. Depending on what level you want to put her at or what you think she deserves, ask her what it is she can't stop thinking about. This will tell you everything you need to know about whether it's the D or the comfort or whatever combination of both that has her transfixed. Once you know what specifically is driving her you can pivot and act accordingly as it relates to the role you want her to have in your life.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

thanks for this. The flexing gets tiring because it makes bad advice hard to distinguish from good advice

[–]FattiesMakeMeGag0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

There is no flexing.

She rejected his last sexual advance, 6 months pass of them not talking. She texts this bs cause she got dropped by her plan A. He’s probably plan D. She’s not even a plate.

She ultimately is looking for attention and since she didn’t have sex with him the last time, she doesn’t deserve any. Giving out non-sexual attention is a waste of time.

[–]1RedPillFusion1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

You very well might be right that this is what she wants. I'm not sure we know enough. I will agree that it sounds like she overplayed her hand. However, it sounds like she's coming back hat in hand. If she's expressing transparent humility then there's no need to play it hard. You can just as easily say "I appreciate you saying that but I'm no longer interested.

[–]Greaterbird24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy

"So, what's your favorite star wars movie?" If she says anything other than Empire Strikes Back, she's trash.

[–]jimmy0706862 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Easy. Pump and Dump

[–]cydestiny2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

"I don't have to tell you this but I tell you anyways."

Then it will become "I like him but he's the one who ruins it."

Never give them what they want for free, just leave her hanging.

[–]spider_13374 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

She wants you but not enough to expose herself to ego death. This is most likely because she is settling and not based on true desire. That being said keep the hamster fed and you should still be able to spin her for abit. Remember the medium is the message

[–]The-Knowing3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

What a stupid text. Don't address it.

[–]guccilaflare883 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy

What is asd

[–]poortrait10020 points21 points  (1 child) | Copy

It’s code for read the sidebar

[–]Greaterbird-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy

Better yet, read the things linked in the sidebar.

[–]agjrpsl0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]guccilaflare880 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thanks boyz

[–]mrpthrowa0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

‘I have that effect on women’

[–]MardGeer0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Ok, thanks

[–]jrr6415sun-1 points0 points  (6 children) | Copy

my sex game significantly improved after reading SGM

sorry what's SGM? where do I read that.

[–]4thAndLong8 points9 points  (5 children) | Copy

It's a book. Sex God Method. I also recommend No More Mr. Nice Guy if you haven't read that yet.

[–]Greaterbird5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Good book. 95% sure his Nice Guy syndrome is another name for codependence.

[–]jfastman0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

My autism went full tilt finding SGM. I didn't find it on Audible or available on Amazon. Can you help me with a good link to it?

[–]mtl_dood3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy

Sex God Method - The book is here:

[–]jfastman0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you

[–]z2a1-90 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]MDMCrab-5 points-4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Out of curiosity, how did you two meet?

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