Why wouldn’t a man want to commit to a woman who clearly enjoys sex?

Willow-girl · 2020-03-09T00:39:24+00:00

Fuck-lovin past is no guarantee of fuck-lovin future. Everyones a gangster until the shared kids, bills and cohabitation hit and turn a once healthy female libido into a missionary-with-the-lights-out wasteland.

Too many men have learned this lesson after the ring is already on.

vicistvic · 2020-03-09T00:25:50+00:00

I don't think guys who just want to spin plates are the best to ask about commitment.

I don't think these guys will find a virgin as great as they think they will. Also if a girl is a virgin personally I would be interested in why, like why can't she get close to guys.

For the record, I'm not an n-count obsessive, so my views are pure speculation.

TheJim66 · 2020-03-09T00:44:53+00:00

She can enjoy sex without having fucked a battalion.Always baffles me how people think that sluts are the only kind of sexual woman.You understand that there are women who fuck alot within the confines of a relationship right?

Cicero_Johnson · 2020-03-09T00:22:24+00:00

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CentralAdmin · 2020-03-09T07:42:16+00:00

If a woman has had a lot of sex, isn’t it solid proof that she loves to fuck? Tbh sex is by far the most important thing for me in a relationship so knowing that there’s a high chance she’ll want to fuck a shit ton AND be good at it, I just can’t imagine turning that away.

There's nothing wrong with a woman who loves sex. Men love to have sex with women like that.

But why are you assuming only sluts like a lot of sex? Why does fucking multiple people mean you love sex rather than lots of sex with committed partners? Women here on PPD would be the first to admit that sex from a man who is committed is better. So if she can only enjoy sex when she's fucked a lot of people, it's not going to add much to her RMV.

A woman who has fucked 100 different men once is going to lose RMV while a woman who has fucked one guy 100 times is going to gain RMV. It means she's loyal and won't starve you of sex once you commit.

cuckspace · 2020-03-09T01:01:56+00:00

You’re lucky you were your ex’s best dick. Otherwise you would just remember her unimpressed blank stare or more probably just try to forget her. There is a big difference between a woman enjoying lots of sex with one man, or enjoying one off sex with lots of men. If you’re lucky enough to still be her best dick go ahead and commit. If you’re not it’s never going to work.

AnyHead · 2020-03-09T02:24:01+00:00

Is flying this girl out across the country the same as “commitment” in your mind? Couldn’t help but notice the lack of words like “LTR” or “Marry” in your nostalgic reminiscing.

Barely-moral · 2020-03-09T00:39:23+00:00

If a woman has had a lot of sex, isn’t it solid proof that she loves to fuck?

Not really. It is proof that she loves to fuck with the men she has sex with. Unless I am on that list then it is not a positive.

I can’t imagine not committing because she had a lot of sex.

I can. If she isn't willing to do the same things with me because she "matured" she "grew up" or "she was only experimenting".

Also, the more men she dated, the more likely she is to be an alpha widow.

Tyler_Gatsby · 2020-03-09T01:16:54+00:00

The guys who accept that they're not going to satisfy her are the ones worried about her enjoying sex. You obviously don't fit this bill, so can't relate either.

Cicero_Johnson · 2020-03-09T00:51:23+00:00

(and I know I was her best dick).

Because most men can't delude themselves into believing this. If you know some girl did all the stuff you would do if you were a girl, you know, deep down, that she has a LOT of sexual exploits that, frankly, you will never match.

Even if you have a 9-inch cock, the odds are she has had better. And thicker. And then there was the time at the frat house she did a triple-penetration. You really think you can give her a fuck as good as 3 guys at the same time?

There was one girl I was serious with (and we had great sex together) who made the mistake of telling me one thing someone else had done to her that REALLY knocked her socks off. She couldn't understand why I was upset. After all, she was with me, right? So past exploits should be no big deal.

Because she thought I was being childish, I decided to give her the gift of empathy. I told her everything any other girl had done BETTER than she did it.

She broke down crying.

We never had sex again, and then, of course, things ended.

I sometime wish I had not told her about the other women who did things that she couldn't/wouldn't. That I should have just sucked it up and done my best to forget about it. But she couldn't understand how she had hurt me, and was saying I needed to just get over it.

If she had just apologized, I might have let it slide. But she insisted she was right and I was wrong, so I took the same dagger she shoved into me, and drove it back into her. And at that point, she understood.

It isn't the fact that a woman who has done a few basketball teams all at the same time is "unclean", it is the fact that a rational and realistic man knows that she has had her sexual fun, and has decided to settle on someone vanilla--you. When it comes to sex, NO ONE wants to know that their partner thinks of them as "Well, good enough. I suppose."

rus9384 · 2020-03-09T11:22:10+00:00

There is a difference between enjoying sex and enjoying variety.

There are multiple reasons for men to not commit to women who enjoy variety.

2020-03-09T11:31:48+00:00

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toddfan420 · 2020-03-09T13:27:07+00:00

Tbh sex is by far the most important thing for me in a relationship

ok this is becoming a meme now. can we get an image macro?

M4sterDis4ster · 2020-03-09T19:30:32+00:00

Why wouldn’t a man want to commit to a woman who clearly enjoys sex?

If she really likes sex, then one boyfriend for few years would be better than one weekend one guy ONS.

People with a lot of sex partners dont like sex as much as they like the adrenaline thrill.

Tonga89 · 2020-03-09T01:30:54+00:00

I only commit to women who clearly enjoy sex with me.

I don't commit to women that:

1) Don't do that anymore 2) Are not that kind of women anymore 3) Are tired of partying so much 4) Are tired of bad boys 5) Have a few boys from a bad boy 6) Have a lot of guys talking about her 7) Have a lot of people pointing at me when I walk the street with her 8) Enjoyed too much with an ex that they still can't stop thinking about him/stop talking about him/stop chatting with him/stop comparing me with him (the last specially) 9) A woman that think I have to put a lot of effort to win what others got so easily, just becouse she got used, heartbroken and mislead by other men I don't know about, I've never met in my life and I have nothing to do with.

And I don't think I can name all the reassons without making this unnecesary long. You get the point.

And while "not all women are like that", yes, unfortunately these are very very VERY common flaws in women that "like sex a lot" (with a lot of people).

2020-03-09T03:04:48+00:00

Because guys are insecure about their sexual prowess? Fear of infidelity?

I think mostly beta guys tend to care about number of sexual partners. Natural alphas don’t care. TRP teaches betas how to be alpha but the underlying insecurity is hard to shake. If a guy knows he’s great in bed and a prize he probably wouldn’t care.

Also it might just be a thing that high disgust men care about. No problem.

rhyth7 · 2020-03-09T00:25:49+00:00

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Jimmy_Cosmo · 2020-03-09T04:06:25+00:00

Locking down the college bicycle would be a disservice to society.

keepturning1 · 2020-03-09T10:17:20+00:00

My most recent girlfriend has a high n count. She also called her sister and told her she just had the best sex of her life after the second time we fucked. You like me have the confidence to know that any woman even with a high number will still find you one of her best, if not her best, so who cares how many have come before you. I think the guys that care so much about a woman’s n count are less secure in that.

Specific-Cricket · 2020-03-09T00:11:21+00:00

Why would I buy the cow if I can get the milk for free?

darker_black · 2020-03-09T07:48:01+00:00

Ok this comment section is so cancerous.

99% of you contructed an ENTIRE profile based on this concept (she must have stds, she would be old, she would cheat etc).

No. Answer based SOLELY on this ideea, without adding shit from your frustrations. She has a high sex drive and had multiple parteners. SOLELY based on that, would you dump her?

Stop being incels and associate high body count with being a bad person. If I were single I would've fucked tons just to experiment. Also, how come a guy can have many partners and still be considered ok? As long as she doesn't hurn anybody I can't see the problem.

goneaway2thewind · 2020-03-09T02:28:43+00:00

Tbh sex is by far the most important thing for me in a relationship

There's your answer right here. You wouldn't understand because this is your core value.

Anyways, your question isn't framed to how the consensus is. Of course men like women who enjoys sex, they don't value women who have sex with many people. Ever heard of this thing called monogamy? Its when people stay in relationships and are exclusive to each other.

Physiologist21 · 2020-03-09T03:24:26+00:00

The moral of the story is you are thinking about traversing the seas for pussy and i will now have to take your man card. The vegans will have you though.

2020-03-09T03:30:23+00:00

You seriously think that if a woman hasn't fucked the Navy she isn't healthy or doesn't love sex?

PickleLine · 2020-03-09T03:41:15+00:00

She enjoys having sex with multiple, random guys. She can't do that in a LTR. Men want a women who enjoys having sex only in a LTR.

Wtfbyamey · 2020-03-09T05:30:19+00:00

The problem with such women is that, in thier “Past” they loved sex and had multiple creampies from different men, but when these women come into a relationship, they either cheat or suddenly lose interest in sex and in the end you just get a used cumpdumster whore who has no interest in fucking you That’s why intelligent men just pump and dump her and don’t get into a relationship!

2020-03-09T01:06:05+00:00

Why wouldn’t a man want to commit to a woman who clearly enjoys sex? .... So what’s the deal?

Well, for starters a woman who "clearly enjoys sex" could look like this, I could give you more examples, but I am sure you get the gist, if you don't just comment and I can post some more examples of disqualifiers.

Moreover, as much as shallow a guy might be, besides "clearly enjoys sex" and "looks" there are other factors that will influence the decision, these are few that I am pretty sure most guys would agree:

age: too old
STD
other contagious diseases (not STD)
mental illness
most all women from /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
sociopath/narcissist
gold digger
a cheater who will continue to have sex with other people even in a committed (supposedly exclusive) relationship
history of drug abuse
history of alcohol abuse

I am sure there are more, but you get the gist.

Moreover, the majority of guys I am sure would want a woman:

who is like-minded
with whom they are compatible
similar/compatible views on religion
similar/compatible views on politics
similar/compatible views on kids
similar/compatible views on relationship/marriage: what each expects from the other and from the relationship
similar/compatible views on money/finances

I am sure there are more, but you get the gist.

LotBuilder · 2020-03-09T03:10:00+00:00

I will never be in another long term relationship but if I was she would have to have a very, very high sex drive. Borderline nympho. I like girls that are good at sex and open to everything and those type of girls are not virgins. I couldn’t imagine being stuck in a marriage with a square that sucked in bed and was really vanilla. That would suck a lot worse than knowing your girl had a high body count.

dicklord_airplane · 2020-03-09T13:16:14+00:00

Its sour grapes. Dudes who actually have sex with lots of women never talk about chastity or any of this tradcon nonsense. Dudes who fail to have enough sex to feel satisfied often develop revenge fantasies against women who do have sex.

After reading through this thread, dudes who desire virgin women are incredibly insecure about their own attractiveness and value. Lots of guys in this thread seem to be worried that they can't compete with women's past ex boyfriends. These guys are saying that the only way they will have a chance to be loved is if women are forced to remain virgins. Yall need therapy for your fucked up self esteems; stop fussing about what girls are doing and fix your own self esteem so that you might be capable of having a healthy relationship one day.

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wtknight · 2020-03-09T01:37:43+00:00

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saladfingers4141 · 2020-03-09T04:58:23+00:00

Girls who love sex are great but there are other factors in who I choose to enter a LTR with

SpiderAlpha33 · 2020-03-09T05:57:17+00:00

TLDR; She might just be fucking dumb.

TheBookOfSeil · 2020-03-09T06:27:20+00:00

Why wouldn’t a man want to commit to a woman who clearly enjoys sex?

Maybe she has a stank vagina.

(and I know I was her best dick)

Me and the boys:

PrincessTeex · 2020-03-09T10:39:40+00:00

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Paranoidexboyfriend · 2020-03-09T11:13:18+00:00

People like variety. You know what's more fun than fucking one woman who loves sex? Fucking dozens of women who love sex. But yes the woman I chose to marry enjoys sex. But I enjoyed fucking lots of women before her too.

2020-03-09T19:26:07+00:00

Because it's oh so temporary.

Thy_Mushroom · 2020-03-10T00:24:21+00:00

It's actually a lot more logical than most realize.

Workaholiconew · 2020-03-10T04:17:11+00:00

Most men have a instinctual distaste for women with high n count. Making relationships rather difficult, heck even sex would be, to an extent.

You might be an exception, but that is just it, you are an exception.

It is like fucking or having a relationship your own sister, most wouldn't do it because of instinct, even if they didn't knew in the beginning.

(And before anyone say anything about the incest thing. Most who do have this fetish have no sibling of the opposite sex, and wouldn't know how strong such instinct to avoid them really is. Likewise, most men who say they do not care about high n count, never had such woman to ever know how strong such instinct is to avoid her).

VenomBurnz · 2020-03-10T05:35:58+00:00

You think a girl who can't control her sexual impulses would ever settle for one dick? Honestly. That's like asking a woman, hey you cool marrying a dude who cant keep his dick dry, regardless if its from you or not?

2020-03-10T15:08:14+00:00

Why pay for what others get for free

2020-03-11T13:52:34+00:00

Because often times she spends her youth only enjoying sex with the top 20% of men.

2020-03-12T06:56:22+00:00

Being someone who enjoys sex doesn't mean I like you or can put up with you.

Simp_Gulag · 2020-03-18T04:50:08+00:00

I think most women enjoy sex, just not with the dorks that commit to them

The_Whorror_Show · 2020-03-09T08:41:27+00:00

Are you silly? Women are the gatekeepers to sex, a woman who sleeps with many men let's you know she's not likely to commit. How hard is that to understand? Jesus christ.

SavvyVolley6 · 2020-03-09T00:17:30+00:00

I mean I love sex as much as the next guy but it’s not everything. And I don’t want the same girl around all the time. And 99% of females are bad investments.

JustMid · 2020-03-09T02:08:28+00:00

Because sex loses importance if you give it to everyone.

JewelM419 · 2020-03-09T04:54:00+00:00

Because it’s one of many things they hide behind to pretend they have a good reason to hate women

MakeUS_AKs_GR8_Again · 2020-03-09T05:44:40+00:00

Because it shows lack of interest. This is especially true with women. When they get this way, it tends to be a very one sided experience. They're normally the ones that want to initiate it and only go for as long as they need to to get off. Don't get me wrong men can be pricks, but women in my experience cause this problem more often than not.

MisterJose · 2020-03-09T05:46:34+00:00

I definitely do want that. I never really get the N-count stuff when I see it talked about here. I mean, yes, I'm looking for horny and loving sex more than literally fucked every guy on the block, but one has to accept someone who loves sex has probably had some.

My dating miseries involve the women who seem to want to come off sweet and innocent and value chaste togetherness and getting to know each other, and that just makes them this weird alien creature to me, whose reasons for being on a dating site are nothing like my reasons. And it also makes me feel like I can't connect.

I like to say the female friends I have that have stood the test of time are all horny sluts. I had other female friends, but it evolved into a disconnect. With these, we were both equally interested in flirting and messing around, I feel like I 'get' them, and I'm nothing but happy they found a happy life and husband. The woman I marry, if I do, will likely be similar.

Thetrvler · 2020-03-09T07:12:35+00:00

I think you may be doing what most younger guys do and getting a good sex partner confused with a core requirement for a legit relationship.

Trust me, keep her around for decades but never try to make her your primary woman. Ever.

circuitburner · 2020-03-09T07:18:15+00:00

I can’t imagine not committing because she had a lot of sex.

She gets off on fucking a variety of people. Even if you were the best, she can get so much dick that you arent going to keep that ranking for very long buddy.

SteveSan82 · 2020-03-09T10:03:00+00:00

Women who slept with many men struggle with pair bonding. Anyone who has been in a relationship with such a woman knows what I'm talking about.

Pontifex_Lucious-II · 2020-03-09T04:51:09+00:00

Her feet smell

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