The facets of attraction are simple. It is human beings, who, in our arrogance, think we know better than nature, complicate things that are simple. This post's purpose is to hopefully simplify things that should be simple, but we have made difficult. I often talk about returning to 'manness' in my posts, because that is what I think not only the individual needs, but our society as a whole. As such, when I see seduction artists, some of who I even have respect for, talk about attraction, I often feel that they miss the mark. There is no line that creates attraction. It is a combination of things. And do not feel discouraged if a woman is not attracted to you. It is often not that you have done something 'wrong'. Even the most skilled Casanova is rejected. It is sometimes as simple as she was just having a bad day. The point of learning game is to try and minimize silly mistakes, to give yourself the best opportunity. With this in mind, let's jump in.
- Seduction begins with appearance
Anyone who says 'looks don't matter' is either attractive or deluded. Looks, obviously, are very important in determining attraction. A woman will not be immediately attracted to a man who looks ugly, or a man who looks like he does not take care of himself. She will see him as someone who does not look after himself, and will in turn not look after her, although this is often thought subconsciously rather than in the front of her mind. As such, if you want more women to be attracted to you, you must look attractive. Some men, incels in particular, see this as impossible. I will admit, even if for some of them it makes my posts lose legitimacy, to be someone who is blessed with good features. Despite this, I was very ugly as a kid, and did not get much female attraction until college, were I began to look much better. Some of this, was from style. I began to have better hair, partly from a beard, which can sometimes help mask a subpar jawline, although in my case highlighted it better. I also began to dress better, I wore leather jackets and sometimes wore gold chains. It didn't look tacky because I was wearing nice clothes that I liked. That is key. You can buy nice Versace clothes, but if you don't like them, or they aren't comfortable, they will not look good on you. This also brings in the first commandment of the Red Pill. Lift weights. If you can gain muscle, you will look more attractive. That is simply the truth. So while you might not be attractive looking now, don't lost hope, because it isn't a lost cause.
- Tone of voice
Although word choice does play a part in attraction, what is more important is tone. This is something I learned from stand-up comedy. A good joke, with bad timing and bad voice, won't get a laugh. An ok joke, or something that isn't even a joke at all, will get a better response with good tone and timing. In simple terms, style over substance. Tone of voice is easy to work on. Simply slow down your speech, as when you get nervous, as most men do when talking to women, they talk very fast and often jumble up their words. An old trick I learned from seduction artists to help build sexual energy in a conversation is to make direct eye contact and slow my words down. This creates tension as she can tell you are very attracted, and if she hasn't told you to fuck off yet, will start to build attraction in her. Don't break, and continue speaking slowly, almost as if you are trailing off. As well as that, TALK LESS. Most men will ramble on and on around a woman they find attractive. This will weaken attraction. A man who shares too much loses an aura of mystery, which women find intriguing and will make them engage more in a conversation. Ask questions, smile, give short answers, and make jokes, and do it in a slow tone of voice, and it will build attraction.
- Escalation
Most men are scared to escalate, especially in the Me Too era. I don't particularly blame them. But if you don't escalate at some point, she will lose interest, or friend zone you. You need to escalate to get laid. This is actually a lot easier than most men realize. Here is a tip. TRUST INSTINCT. Now if you go in for a kiss and she rejects you, shrug it off. Don't be overly pushy, you won't get in trouble. Eye contact is important in this. If you look her in the eyes, and don't break away, while smiling and having a good time. It will build attraction. If you want more concrete examples, ones better than I can provide, than I would recommend this video.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IzO3NGU1Bgo
- Confidence
This facet is oft mocked by men who do not really understand the point of confidence. I agree that the advice of 'just be confident bro' is useless, but confidence is VERY important in getting laid, and aside from lifting, I would class it as one of the most important facets on the list. A man who is unconfident will hardly ever get laid. But a man with confidence can sometimes get laid DESPITE not having the other facets. Here is why. Women, like men, think evolutionary. They think about what man can best give them seed and let them continue onto the next generation. They do not think this outright, but it is what attraction is. Attraction is not in the front of your mind. It is primal. And so, when a woman sees a man who is confident, she will often become attracted, because the confidence even when it is juxtaposed to someone who is better in most other facets, can sometimes give him an edge. This, is in no means an endorsement of the mentality of, confidence above all. You should, if you are smart, give yourself every advantage in the sexual marketplace. You are an irresponsible consumer otherwise. Confidence communicates to women, that you are a man who has beaten challenges. Woujo talks about this in great length, but what makes an alpha appear alpha is his ability or appearance of an ability to combat challenges. People see the alpha as a leader, and a leader takes people through a difficult situation. That is what confidence communicates. It says, I have gone through the fire, and I am fine. Some techniques for building confidence that I used are
- Affirmations. It sounds retarded but simply looking yourself and the mirror and saying 'I am enough' can help you be more confident.
- Faking. Pretend you are confident. Often, you will begin to believe it after awhile. It worked for me
- Feel good people. This should go without saying, but do not hang out with people who make you feel negative or like shit. These are not friends, but are bad persons who drag you down to their shitty level. Aspire to be around people who encourage and help you build stronger habits.
Ending:
These are just the basics of attraction, I can't possibly cover everything, but this is enough to get you started. It's not as frightening to see it when it's all laid out so simply, and hopefully it allows you to navigate the more difficult beginner period better than most who did not have the benefit of handy guides. If you have anymore questions, send me a DM, I'm more than happy to help as it looks like every business in the country is shutting down, and remember to lift and read the sidebar
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