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How have you guys met other men?

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March 14, 2020

Genuinely curious if anyone here has ever met someone outside of a fuck app or drag bar.

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Title How have you guys met other men?
Author y22kthrowaway
Upvotes 2
Comments 3
Date 14 March 2020 08:07 AM UTC (8 months ago)
Subreddit altTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/355466
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/altTRP/comments/fif4ab/how_have_you_guys_met_other_men/
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[–]AceofRains2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

Okay so, I’m sure your context means other (fuckable) men. But just for shits and giggles, there’s men all around you, homo or hetero. Go simply talk to them. At the gym, in the grocery store, etc. if you see a guy you want, don’t be shy. Approach them while the opportunity presents itself. Be quick witted, introduce yourself self, strike up small talk, and let a new connection form. If they are straight, value that connection too, because you will never truly connect with another man if you objectify them in the same way a man might objectify a woman.

For the first time I have a real developing close relationship with a man for 2 years. I met a lot of men where particularly more masculine, older, bearish, and leather community goes. It’s rare to meet someone off app or not in a bar but these two venues are actually really effective if you let your self enjoy it, and know what you’re doing. Another way I met men was by joining a foam sword fighting club. Social clubs are a gold mine for meeting someone who is trying to meet other people too: And yet, it’s a lot like the philosopher‘stone. You can’t have it if you’re trying hard to look for it. You will have it when you allow your self to enjoy the moment and let people attract to you like bees to honey.

[–]y22kthrowaway[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

thanks for the input.

still really apprehensive about trying to talk to guys in regular hetero settings though. I'm not sure I've ever even heard of something like that going smoothly. Many guys take offense to getting hit on by other guys.

[–]AceofRains0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No no no. Don’t hit on them. Just strike up conversation. Develop the skill to befriend someone without it having to be about fucking them. Do this with both gay and straight guys. If you have trouble socializing, look up some YouTube tips or something. Don’t bother hitting hard on guys unless you’re sure you’re getting a signal back- you’ll know very plainly when it’s like this.

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