She wants to break up because she doesn't know how she can reciprocate all he's done for her.

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March 13, 2020
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So my friend, against my advice, went ahead and proposed to a girl he'd been screwing. I'd told him to just keep smashing. He proposed anyway. The girl replied 'of course' and they got into a 'relationship'. He just called me today telling me how the girl texted him telling him that she wants to break up because she feels pressured that she can't reciprocate on how nice he's been treating her. The girl told him to remain friends with no sex to which he replied he doesn't want to be friend zoned. She said she loves his company and wants to still be good friends with him. She started crying. Hugged him while crying. He wanted to let go. Girl still wanted to cuddle. My friend doesn't know what to do.

So, my friend gave her too much comfort, right? And the girl wants to swing to the next fruity branch. What do you guys think? How should he act henceforth?


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Title She wants to break up because she doesn't know how she can reciprocate all he's done for her.
Author RotPil
Upvotes 106
Comments 59
Date 13 March 2020 05:57 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/355596
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/fi3rym/she_wants_to_break_up_because_she_doesnt_know_how/
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[–]BruhMoment45886174 points175 points  (8 children) | Copy

She lost attraction to him after commiting to him. The whole "I cant give you as much as you give me" thing is pure bullshit. What she really means is "I dont want to give you as much as you give me"

Or maybe she just wants to take and not give like most women.

Yeah he ruined things for himself. Always listen to bros. He can maybe get back to smashing her if he applies some major dread

[–]2319Skew62 points63 points  (3 children) | Copy

Why? Move on. Not like there aren't other women he can propose to

Edit : thx for the silver

[–]Elvis_Death12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Lulz He should propose To all of them

[–]Nicolacho716 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy

If the 5th marriage doesn’t work. I’m going all out for 6th with no prenup. /s

[–]Give_It_To_Gore0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

And give half to like a moron

[–]1Terminal-Psychosis22 points23 points  (0 children) | Copy

Or maybe she just wants to take and not give like most women.

Exactly what she proposed. She wants all the benefit of a relationship with him, while giving nothing in return.

Totally manipulative. Win- Lose situation. No deal babe.

[–]Give_It_To_Gore4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Clearly I've become a complete and cold hearted bastard (no sarcasm...yet)

When I I was reading OPs post I was like okay I could go this way, or that way , depending on the friend, not optimal but ok.

When I read that he started crying I half spit my piece of steak in my mouth and started belly laughing.

Crying? Over some broad?

Wow. I got nothing honestly

[–]Redditgoodaccount2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I used to say this to my SO when I felt regret for the shit I did and was going to do. Do the maths

[–]temerity180 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"she just wants to take and not give like most women" You could not have said it better.

[–]HurricaneHugues31 points32 points  (1 child) | Copy

"He just called me today telling me how the girl texted him telling him that she wants to break up because she feels pressured that she can't reciprocate on how nice he's been treating her."

He's devoted. She's not. She wants to ride the carousel, and your friend is committed. He needs to let her go.

[–]Give_It_To_Gore3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Zero percent chance she wasn't banging guys like us on the side doing "market research" if you will

[–]Andrew5432146 points47 points  (7 children) | Copy

Cuddle with surprise anal

[–][deleted]  (5 children) | Copy

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[–]catsdontsmile17 points18 points  (2 children) | Copy

But she's the one giving it

[–]Rage815014 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's how this all started.

[–]tehallmighty10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

The old strap-aroo

[–]Give_It_To_Gore0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

I ride or die with my friends, but I've learned some hard ass multiple decade friendship betrayals.

You know what they all have in common?

They are exactly like your friend.

I'll leave it at that

[–]AJ_KG_JG0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The biggest simps are the most willing to betray friendships for pussy, in my experience.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

The best kind of anal there is 👌

[–]Domebeers32 points33 points  (6 children) | Copy

Yeah you totally gave her too much comfort. She probably agreed to marry you because she didn't want it to be awkward, and then you went full doormat and she's done.

At least she is telling you before you got married. I've known chicks who have waited.

You did the right thing by saying 'no' to her request for friendship. You can still salvage the relationship but I wouldn't. If you got to this point in the first place it speaks to a lack of frame, so I doubt you will be able to maintain the frame you need to come back from this. I think if you stick around you are asking to be divorced rape because you will break frame.

Leave the girl, eat the cannoli

[–]Give_It_To_Gore1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He's not loaded or a chiseled Greek god or she would have

[–][deleted]  (4 children) | Copy

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[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev13 points14 points  (3 children) | Copy

He went full beta.

[–]second-last-mohican10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy

You never go full beta

[–]Give_It_To_Gore1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Over/under on how many of his friends she smashed.

I'll set the line at 3.5

[–]Domebeers0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"she was just finding herself you don't understand!!!"

[–]Tambamwham21 points22 points  (0 children) | Copy

Any guy with experience and confidence knows that this nothing but an opportunity for multiple things. And yes she’s cheating.

[–]Bluedog5x512 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

Is ur friend you

[–]LegendarySuperSalsa5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

True chads don’t have ‘friends’ we have bros

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy

DUMP. THAT. BITCH❗️

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Word to the mummyfucker, dump that bitch!

[–]tyrantgrey9 points10 points  (1 child) | Copy

There is a good analysis of this bitch’s asinine reasoning. She can reciprocate his feelings if she wants. But she doesn’t want to because he’s giving her all the cake and she feels like she’s getting it all so fast and easily that she doesn’t have to put ANY work in.

Next time a bitch tells you she can’t reciprocate anything cuz you’re so good to her, believe her.

Because for one reason or another, she won’t. Not that she can’t, but she won’t.

And so that way, treat em like fuckboys treat em. Treat em like shit and make em cry over you. Then dump em.

Because if you were the good guy that she wanted you to be, this is what you’d get. And the reason is simple. All people want good things, but they don’t care for them once they receive said good things. Especially if you get em easily.

[–]neilers0841 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

good mate'!

[–]2redhawkes12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy

If your friends name isn't Neo, and yours Morpheus, MYOFB, you tried.

As you can see, no one wants unsolicited advice/opinion.

As for him, hard next and spin more plates until he gets the unicorn fantasy out of his head.

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[–]2redhawkes1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Correct. People would rather believe in a lie than hear the truth.

[–]dpgproductions0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I cringe when I think of how many times I went through this cycle growing up lmao

[–]1Terminal-Psychosis7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy

So she says she doesn't want to be in a relationship because she can't give enough back...

So her solution is to stay in a relationship, while giving nothing back.

Very extreme example of how insane the Hamster can reallllly be.

Girl is manipulative and abusive. Dude needs to demand better treatment, and see to it he gets it, or cut her off completely.

[–]hibloodstevia6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

No swallow, no comfort.

[–]falconiawillfall5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy

If a girl is truly attracted to you she'll do anything to be with you. Remember this and ignore any bs that comes out of her mouth.

[–]Give_It_To_Gore0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

When she shows you who she is

Believe her.

[–]LeEbinConchShell19 points20 points  (1 child) | Copy

she got a whiff of chad cock and she's trying to say "i need to dump you because you're doing all this nice stuff and its repulsive and i need to go fuck this other guy ok bye." she's just dressing it up to deflect it onto him

[–]okuli3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

That's exactly what is happening. She found better dick, and came out with that lame excuse because she can't say the truth.

[–]strainer1236 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy

Being too nice turns off women more than pretty much anything, they rather be assaulted by someone they're with than be treated like a little princess...

[–]Spets872 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

You can be kind though. Nice is just being a pushover. Kind is rewarding for good behavior.

[–]Domebeers0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

even then, bee careful, and always remember the ratio rule

[–]Give_It_To_Gore0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Of kindness is also along side strength, humor and intelligence is can def work.

Nice and sweet are very much different. Many don't understand that

[–]Give_It_To_Gore0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

They want kids and animals and friends nice and sweet, men strong and funny

[–]MDMCrab2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

He didn't move her in or move in with her did he?

[–]RedPill_Dragon2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Honestly, I would say that she wants to ride the CC or maybe she had been already riding the CC and said "Of course" because she thought she should in that situation. She couldn't remain loyal and still wanted more men, so..... this ended as she felt herself a thot.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Who cares. This is way more thinking than is required for this girl. He should next her and find a girl who isn't an idiot and a waste of time.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

never ever become emotionally invested in a cunt. When you do that she loses all attraction for you.

[–]manbearpiglord1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

He gave her his commitment too easily. This made him seem desperate so she didn’t value his commitment. He basically sold himself cheap and lowered his own SMV.

[–]limbojunkie1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Translation: I want everything you give and I don't want to commit to you and rather ride other men's dicks.

[–]djh8601 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Read between the lines. She is saying your so nice I've decided to break up with you. Hint stop being so nice.

[–]PRW632 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

He is being the beta chump, the "nice guy". She lost the attraction for him. Everything else is just the typical BS excuses.

According to your description he went from FWB directly to proposing marriage. Horribly bad thing to do.

[–]Bone_Coat3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

tell your friend he needs to go full BADBOY TM on this girl, right now, he's being too nice and she lost attraction

[–]ex_addict_bro1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Next

[–]SoulRedemption0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tell him cut all contacts, move on. If your food dropped in.a garbage can, you would not pick it up and eat it if you have means to other food, or even better.



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