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Advice for a 21 year old male?

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March 19, 2020

I am a 21 year old college student, raised majority of the time by a single mom who's never had a gf, lacking in masculinity and has a history of simp like "nice guy" behavior. According to rateme I sit at about a 7 with potential to go to an 8 or 9 with work on myself I'm just worried about sleep walking through my prime. I just smoked pot and watched anime throughout my teenage years if I wasn't simping some BPD manic Pixie Art How and Doing School work. Currently I'm living with my grandma and just grinding though work and school pursuing my teaching degree, and routinely investing in portfolio, my biggest goals would be a diet/workout plan, self development, social skills work and just how to be a man in general. I was wondering if I could have maybe a pen pal as a mentor or just some advice, IM for more details or questions

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Title Advice for a 21 year old male?
Author PredatoryCat
Upvotes 78
Comments 60
Date 19 March 2020 06:43 AM UTC (11 months ago)
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[–]Senior EndorsedVasiliyZaitzev116 points117 points  (4 children) | Copy

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[–]PredatoryCat[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you

[–]superdrolic6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

So much quality thought. You’re brilliant

[–]burnerkidtalin2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Oh my god this is great

[–]bobvillacooking1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy


[–]PachoHerrera027 points28 points  (3 children) | Copy

You aren’t a 7. Shave the facial hair, get a better haircut and lose some weight. Fix up your diet, get lifting and start doing HIIT. You will look 100x better.

[–]aaronryder7730 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Sorry but whats HIIT?

[–]mfcunal961 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

High intensity interval training

[–]Razwan_1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

High Intensity Interval Training. Example would be sprinting 30 seconds, then walking 30 seconds. Repeat this until it’s been 15 minutes.

[–]curiousboyz18 points19 points  (1 child) | Copy

Dude you gotta change your hairstyle. You ain’t a 7 sorry man. Like a 5. Which isn’t bad starting point. Get a more trendy cut and workout and you’ll be 7

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you

[–]throwaway1789078647 points48 points  (6 children) | Copy

no offence dude but I saw yiur post history and you are not a 7. Your a bit overweight, and ur hairs doing u no favours. i can see u improving with correct advice. pm me if u need help

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (4 children) | Copy

I don't know any man who describes himself as less than a 7 lol (except for incels on incel forums)

The majority of men very much overestimate their attractiveness

[–]BruhMoment458864 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Because everybody wants to be above average. People always get offended when someone calls them a 6 but they can sleep at night being a 7.

[–]limbojunkie2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy

I rate myself 6.5!

[–]Iron-Spiderball2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy

6.5? Pshh, I'm easily a 6.51

[–]opper-hombre13 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Losers, I’m a 6.9

[–]mr_Tobbor4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy

How do you have a sexual experience? You masturbate or you are a bit of asexual? You need a lot of effort to change some aspects of your behavior that is pretty hard and if you don't have a strong sexual drive toward women you may have some difficulty to achive the level you need for having girlfriends. You say you are a 7 - 9. That is a very good thing of course.

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 2 points3 points  (6 children) | Copy

I masterbate to much I think because of it my drive is pretty much gone.

[–]mr_Tobbor1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Poor prognosis

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Unfortunately but I got to be honest

[–]mr_Tobbor0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

What you want to change in your sexual life?

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

I'd like to have one to begin with, I've never even dated before

[–]mr_Tobbor0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

We want women sexually not as friends. When you masturbate what is your phantasies? Women or men?

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]burnerkidtalin2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

I’m 21 as well and I have similar circumstances, only difference is a rough upbringing and contact sports made me cold

[–]limbojunkie2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Focus on building yourself. Your 20s is vital and decided how you will live for the next 40-50 years. Don't think too much about women. Opposite to women, 20s for men are very hard for relationships and finding a partner so don't burn yourself too much because in your 30s it gets better.

[–]PRW632 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Get the 3-book series Rational Male, the rest of us who understand have done.

The Rational Male series does not teach game, although it supports it and encourages the learning of it. The book "How to be a 3% Man" is pretty good for that but it isn't the only one out there.

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[–]PredatoryCat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I want to be better

[–]theUnBannableHulk1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Wait till you’re 42 for the ponnaannnayyyy 😂

The guide above is good

[–]__TheDon__1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Change your major that’s for starters. You don’t want to be stuck making shit money for the rest of your life.

Read the side bar, everything you need is there.

[–]redlurker91 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ahahahahahah I'm a 7. Dude you're a 4. If you want honest rating, go to truerateme, not rate me. Put in the work and you can be a 6. Which is more than enough to get anything you want in life.

[–]coloredzebra1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Lift until you hit 1/2/3/4

[–]communistcontrolact1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy

Grow a full beard and mustache and never take your hat off.

How much do you weigh?

Also stop smoking weed you’re killing your brain cells

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

I'm 153

[–]communistcontrolact1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy


If you’re skinny fat you need to lift heavy and eat only twice a day but make sure those meals are protein heavy.

You won’t build a fuckton of muscle but you’ll get ripped

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yeah I'd say I'm skinny fat, I'm 5'6

[–]communistcontrolact1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Follow my plan and you’ll get ripped. Arms and chest only , eat twice a day heavy protein.

You’ll get a confidence boost and talking to chicks will come easily and naturally.

[–]A_Wizard17171 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

learn to code Python during the quarantine lol

[–]PallN1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

As many people have said, get a better haircut, lose weight, lift, shave and for the love of god buy a better wardrobe. Clothes make the man. Lose the goddamn hat. You're not 12 anymore.

You don't have to buy any expensive designer bullshit, just stick to the basics and wear clothes that look good.

[–]Endorsed Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy

If you need fitness advice I'll get you sorted in a Skype call

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy


[–]Endorsed Contributor: "The Court Jester"GayLubeOil0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Pm me your Skype info

[–]mr_Tobbor1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy

Do you have any friends and go out with them? Do you even go out single? Do you chat online? Is there somebody in your life you feel conected with him? We need a YES to all that questions to proceed. Try to turn most answers to YES then we speak again.

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy

  1. Yes just made a new group of friends
  2. Yes very often to go to movies and stuff
  3. Yes but not really to women
  4. Yes my uncle

[–]mr_Tobbor0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

You don't have a girlfriend. You want to be a man. What is for you to be a man? What do you think prevents you having a girlfriend? Which do you think are the steps towords being a man. Follow practical steps you can see results.

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

You're right I I need to work on building self-confidence, deserving respect, and having a backbone.

[–]mr_Tobbor0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

How practical are they? Read "Rules of game" simple practical steps to achieve.

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you

[–]latinasonly1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

socialize with as many different types of people as possible . lift . learn to fight . be a man. be freindly and respectful to everyone , but have a tough side ready for when you need it. find real life alphas and learn from them . find something ur passionate about , and pursue it , as you gain talent in this area you will gain the respect and following of others - a real alpha

[–]fannyfire1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

I think a book that would help you out tremendously would be No More Mr. Nice Guy. It’s a great start to TRP that can help you.

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Thank you

[–]Annapolis_Silence3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy

Why did you choose a teaching degree? The most feminine low paying job next to being a daycare worker (No offense as I come from a long family of teachers). Maybe you can get with one of your future students lmao.

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I want to become a college professor or travel the world teaching English in other countries. The pay ain't the best but it allows me the ability to travel.

[–]rplad4200 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

So your mom never had a girlfriend? You wanted a 3some with your mom and her girlfriend?

[–]PredatoryCat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

No I was raised by a single mother, and I've never had a gf

[–]redpill_scientist920 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy


[–]when_its_too_late0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

First of all drop the portfolio like a rock before the economy hits 0. It's already down, and as a trader I am still trading buy I'm buying puts and short ETFs trying to milk this economic melt down but if you're new there will be no economy in the coming weeks.

Lift, make money, degrees will be worthless in the next few years, like I said, economy is falling faster than someone who jumped off a tower to kill themselves. Make as much money as you can and buy Gold if you can afford it.

Once this quarantine goes away, read the side bar.

[–]Unboundaries-3 points-2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Are you white and/or attractive? Sign up for all dating sites. All of them. You're doing fine just talk to people you are around. Stop smoking pot it demotivates you. Make friends who are trying to ascend and be better than they are today. Do not worry about anything else because they are no better than you.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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