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Anyone else just stop giving a fuck and they started getting laid?

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March 18, 2020
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I had a 3 year dry spell, would obsess about pussy. All i wanted was pussy. It could be smelled by the way i talked and shit.

Now i stopped chasing it, stopped trying to talk to every girl and try to reach a bond with every girl. Just stopped forcing things, became much chiller, let things happen.

And its like out of nowhere girls like me. Once i stopped trying to force things and get laid with every thing i do, girls like me more now that im not trying to get laid. Its so much more relaxing.


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Title Anyone else just stop giving a fuck and they started getting laid?
Author themangu6
Upvotes 91
Comments 68
Date 18 March 2020 05:05 AM UTC (11 months ago)
Subreddit askTRP
Link https://theredarchive.com/post/356372
Original Link https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/fkk5ie/anyone_else_just_stop_giving_a_fuck_and_they/
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[–]SavvyVolley648 points49 points  (3 children) | Copy

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck.

The backwards law.

[–]HighHowHighAreYou7 points8 points  (1 child) | Copy

The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck.

Read this book 2 times and I still learned new things from it every time.

[–]SavvyVolley64 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

I don’t give a fuck.

(Lol)

[–]FeniZio940 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Murphy’s law

It happened to me at college

[–]cphpc26 points27 points  (5 children) | Copy

It’s mostly about being confident with who you are. Tbh, I’m actually above average looking but I’ve always felt slightly awkward around women. Could never figure out why...till my mid 20s...Turns out it’s mostly that they felt awkward around me to some degree because of my looks. Like they were a little intimidated or smthing. Feed off it my friend! They’re just human and want sex as much as we do.

[–]PrettyBarbiePerson5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

It changes the game when you realize they are just as nervous as you, and because girls feed off our energy if you’re nervous it just makes things awkward

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

Did you change anything after this realization? Are you still awkward around women even the slightest bit?

[–]empatheticapathetic17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy

Now he wears a helmet

[–]cphpc0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, I also started riding a motorcycle in my mid 20s. This is true.

[–]cphpc1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

I am still awkward at times but it feels a lot better for myself when I kno the reason. It’s a huge confidence boost. At this point, I can easily tell if the girl is interested or for some hb8s, it’s just them shit testing.

[–]superstar94b14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy

Guys with high SMV and options don’t need to chase pussy. They put themselves in situations to get pussy, but don’t chase it. Guys with low SMV tend to chase pussy out of desperation. Women pick up on that shit, and those guy gets less pussy. The key is to have high SMV and more going for you than women. That’s when you get pussy (as you’ve now figured out).

[–]E9er0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

okay so i understand the difference from chasing it and it coming to you from your scenario. how do i go about not missing more of the shots coming my way. i usually chase specific ones i want that then i oversee and miss later ones that were giving me openings and i didn’t pick up. and it pisses me off because i usually fail with the ones i chase because i invest in them but i know the ones that come to me when i don’t miss the chance yeah it’s so easy to get it in effortlessly. it’s like all my oneitis i focus on block the others. what to do?

[–]femaledoglover642 points43 points  (37 children) | Copy

You’re prob a natural alpha. People like me have to manage their behavior or they act beta

Actually after interacting with you, you seem pretty beta. You were probably acting even more beta without even realizing it and repelling pussy away

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (0 children) | Copy

  • 3 year dry spell
  • natural alpha

Dude

[–][deleted] 44 points45 points  (15 children) | Copy

Another thing that helped me. Girls really are just humans. This sub kind of scared me for the longest time. This sub made me feel that if you werent a big strong gorilla 24/7 that girls will never like you. It fucked with me. It made me insecure and always on the look out. Made me feel every girl just wants a 6’6 stud with a huge fat cock who never make mistakes.

Truth is, girls are like guys. Some youll click with, some you wont, and thats cool. At the end of the day they do just want a guy they can vibe with and have fun with. Just flow with it. They are humans, like us.

[–]femaledoglover620 points21 points  (7 children) | Copy

Yeah this sub makes it sound intimidating because they focus on power dynamics which are a lot more complex than just vibing with another human. I’ve met plenty of girls I’ve vibed with but couldn’t fuck because of bad behavior. Whereas girls I didn’t vibe very well with but fucked easily because of good behavior/‘game’

[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (5 children) | Copy

Another important thing is create a life you enjoy. Whether its finding meaning in a job, or a hobby, or appreciating your friends and family. Start creating a life you enjoy. I use to think a fat ass is all that a happy life is about. It isnt. When you enjoy your life independently of women things will follow.

[–]femaledoglover64 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy

You’re starting to sound like you just got a girls number for the first time

[–][deleted] 41 points42 points  (3 children) | Copy

Want me to tell you what its like?

[–]Snowaey13 points14 points  (0 children) | Copy

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[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy

Ya exactly. This sub does have great material, but you cant do everything perfectly. Ans thats cool. Again girls are fucking humans, they make mistakes. They dont care if you make mistakes as long as you dont make a big deal out of it (frame). But im 5’5 140. Im in shape athletic but not a fucking male model stud.

This sub will make you feel girls are shallow creatures who only want male models to fuck them and theyll just leach off of everyone else for money. Thats not fucking true. Ya there are shallow bitches, but there are plenty of girls with personalities DUH. Ya they wanna fuck these studs, but theyll also be down to fuck guys they click with and have fun with socially. Make yourself a man YOU respect. Things will follow.

[–]SpicyYeetJuice4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

This is spot on 👍

[–]Jessor692 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Realest fucking thing i have ever seen from this sub So much of the subs problems could be solved by just approaching more girls

[–]KilluminatiGotti22 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy

Girls are not like guys LOL not even close! Guys just want a girl who looks good and is cool and nice. Girls NEED a guy who can perform economically to provide for her. Female hypergamy is a Darwinian mechanism, women are always looking for the best provider, to ensure survival of their offspring. You either need to have money, a good job etc, or else sometimes if a women sees you have a lot of potential she will hang out for a bit and try to push you to work harder in the labour market, but if she’s sees you’re not living up to her projected potential, she’s gone. Even ugly girls will pull this on you. It’s a pay to play system

[–]thanusall0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy

tbh op sounds like he's not in angry phase anymore, and reverting back to bloop

if you just want casual sex then sure op may have something figured out, if you want something to last, and not have her monkey branch away, remember red pill

[–]KilluminatiGotti20 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

Exactly, saying women are just like men is incredibly asinine. Women always want the find a guy who is the best provider for her she can possibly get, or at least the best prospect provider. That’s not to say we should hate women, but they can never love you unconditionally the way that we love them unconditionally. We need to come to terms with that unpleasant reality.

[–]thanusall0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

100% agree. they literally aren't wired to operate the same way. theres nothing we can do to change it. we just have to deal with circumstances that best suit us as men

[–]thanusall0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

maybe he's lucky enough not to have his heart torn to fucking shreds yet

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (18 children) | Copy

Dude. It took me YEARS to feel like this. I mean its literally just a matter of not trying. I thought id never get laid by cute girls. Im far from a “player” but ever since i stopped csring my success has raised dramatically. Try it!

[–]femaledoglover64 points5 points  (15 children) | Copy

If I’m not trying then I won’t approach and I’ll just sit in the corner of clubs, while if I’m trying then I’ll be at the clubs having fun and approaching but also making sure I don’t come off as desperate.

When you were trying you probably were covering up your natural alpha behaviors without realizing it. Now that you stopped, your alpha behaviors are coming out and getting you more attention

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (14 children) | Copy

By trying im not talking about not actively pursuing and being social. Im talking about forcing things. Many times ive tried to force attraction, force convos. Once i stopped taking rejection personally, and realized some people will vibe with you and some wont, thats when success came. Its just about flowing and having a good time. When it comes down to it, find a girl you can have a fun time with, not physically but socially. If that happens thinga will follow.

[–]thanusall0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

oh, so briffaults law still in effect, your not doing anything other then going for low hanging fruits.

the idea of game is like sales, how many no's can you make a yes

[–]femaledoglover6-3 points-2 points  (11 children) | Copy

I think you’re getting the point of this sub wrong, you should go to seduction or dating subreddit. This sub is more superficial and solely about getting laid for people not looking to commit, so we really don’t care about connecting with a woman

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (9 children) | Copy

Ok. So then your expecting to bring a bitch home by being a boring sociopathic douche with no personality?

By connecting im not saying you have to be a fucking yogi and have an earth shattering bond. Im saying just find a chick you vibe with and let things go from there.

[–]femaledoglover6-2 points-1 points  (8 children) | Copy

Nope trp shows you how to demonstrate frame,wit, and teaches the power dynamics in play with your relationships with women and how to use it to get laid more. The more you go out the more you’ll see you don’t have to ‘vibe’ with a girl you’re just trying to fuck.

And also you thinking someone is a boring sociopathic douche shows that you still have tons of BP beliefs in you. I hate to be that guy but you should read the sidebar so you understand rp a little more

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy

LMAO. Have a nice day bud.

[–]smolzino1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy

I mean he does have a point, you don't have to "vibe" with a girl if you're a Chad physically. You can literally just take her home by the hand and she will let it happen.

But you're 5'5 140lbs so this is not your reality. Both apply, it's just different worlds for different people.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy

You ever get out of your house in the real world? Im in a top frat. Never once have i seen a top stud just walk up to a random hb10 and take her by the hand with absolute no communication.

Ya shit happens, weve all been molested by a hot drunk girl, every one of us. But for the vast majority of people communications important. Mr sidebar

[–]bayfarm0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

It's amazing how things work out when you stop trying. Not just with girls but with anything.

[–]clickherebaby0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

What does this look like in numbers

[–]LeatherBoundWisdom0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

He's certainly not a natural alpha lol. Naturals don't "lose" their social skills. It's like riding a bike for them, they learned so young and practice so often they'll never "forget" and suddenly turn autistic.

[–]Randojag3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

New to the sub so don’t get the lingo just yet. Would rather make a comment than post. My issue is that I’ve been boning my neighbor, we are both in uni and she doesn’t give me much input on the sex, I try to do my best putting in work but I try my best for her to orgasm but she isn’t. I know she likes it as ruff as I can to which I give, along with all the tricks in my playbook, nothing, it’s very fun and she says she has fun but I want to blow her mind. After a while with my ex, I got her to finish every time and would want the same for this chick. Any tips

[–]Howdoiusesync7 points8 points  (2 children) | Copy

Signed into on my phone to comment.

First off, never ask about it verbally. You can tell based of from her body. If she ain’t shivering after you ain’t doing it right.

Secondly, foreplay half of the dudes that are just ducking or learning to get in the game Dont understand tension and release. This is something that is common in music but god it works with women too. So foreplay create that urge with ya girl, if you know how to game a girl you can do this verbally (plates have had this common thing where foreplay with me starts from how I talk don’t ask don’t know don’t care.) So start with ya know making out then move to the neck. Bite a little don’t leave scars unless it’s that type but hey if you can leave her scared up and you have your back bloody good job. While doing that play direct her head with the back of her head and you grasping her hair. Then when cloths of the legs and work ya way up to putting your dick in.

Just create tension and tease these hoes it works.

[–]Randojag1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Great advice, will tease and make her wait just a bit more, then slay ✊

[–]Howdoiusesync1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

Anytime bro ham some dudes need to step up. Glad I could help.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Nah man im just starting to get laid. But i have had mind blowing sex with a few girls, and pretty mediocre sex with some girls. I honestly believe sex is about just fucking having fun. Enjoying one another.

I understand power dynamics, but if your a natural man your just a man, theres no reason to force yourself to be “more of a man”, just be a fucking man. Just be one instead of forcing yourself. After your comftorable with being a man, just have fun dude. Enjoy the moment, do what makes your cock feel better, what makes you enjoy things more.

This sub just puts so much pressure on every intricate detail. Just have fun go with the flow. If shes still fucking you your doing something right my man. Otherwise she wouldnt be. So relax just chill out and start enjoying yourself.

In terms of tips or moves to blow her mind, google will have plenty.

[–]Randojag0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Damn solid advice bro, thanks m8

[–]LeatherBoundWisdom2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Yes, hundred percent. At my frat's parties I usually can get with a lot of girls, but some nights I wouldn't know why but I couldn't get with a single one. Nothing would work out. All my approaches would run dry and I'd ending up drinking a lot and just going home early, very sad.

I've learned when that starts to happens I need to accept that I'm probably not gonna get with any girls that night and just focus on chilling with my boys. Whenever I shift that mindset, though, I always get with a lot of girls for the rest of the night. The focus on pussy takes you out of the moment. When you get back into it, you can really enjoy the experiences and connect.

[–]Per_Horses61 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy

Yup, I used to be desperate af when I was a virgin. Then I kept it cool and wasn’t desperate then got laid. Now, I’ve been in a dry spell for pussy and it’s fending off negative and desperate energy. Gonna go back to stop giving a fuck. It’s much better that way. I’ve just been desperate lately. When you’re thirsty they smell that and it turns them off. Biggest Red pill lesson I’ve learnt. Just gotta fully apply it now.

[–]femaledoglover62 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy

Go to a strip club, it’ll get rid of the desperation for a week or two

[–]big_ass_package0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

The things you read about here are a general layout. Don't take everything literally. The idea is to take care of yourself and dont focus on picking up girls because if you make them your focus then you are controlled by them. Be your own mental point of origin and ask yourself daily "How does this affect me?". Always put yourself first and do what you want. The rest will follow.

[–]OfficerWade0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

My experience was the same as yours. It wasn’t until girls stopped responding to my advances altogether that I realized something is very wrong and I started checking myself out of the dating scene to see what I was doing that was driving them away.

[–]empatheticapathetic0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy

I’ve stopped giving a shit and now I basically have zero female interactions. The ones I do are the same as before I found TRP. Platonic and boring.

[–]Swimming-Syllabub0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

Mgtow?

[–]empatheticapathetic0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I guess so

[–]Slick_010 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Can this exact question apply the same to women or is it different?! And why? Genuinely curious!

[–]antidoxdevice0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

How do you meet girls day to day? I assume you're in college

[–]Jaganshi930 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

I needed to read this. Thank you.

[–]VigilantSmartbomb0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Tbh I just like to have fun! I think that includes me not giving a fuck tho so yes! 😂

[–]trp123690 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Where do you meet women to get laid if you stopped talking to them so much? Tinder?

[–]cfbovernfl0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy

r / thingsthatneverhappened

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Things that never happened for $5,000,000

[–]PrettyBarbiePerson-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy

Almost like you haven’t read any of the sidebar at all

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy

Sorry mr sidebar police

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Sorry mr sidebar police



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