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John Doyle, husband of Laura Doyle, author of The Surrendered Wife, is doing an AMA today at 2PM Eastern Time

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Title John Doyle, husband of Laura Doyle, author of The Surrendered Wife, is doing an AMA today at 2PM Eastern Time
Author redpillschool
Upvotes 12
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Date 18 August 2015 04:26 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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Link https://theredarchive.com/post/35658
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[–]SonicTRP3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy

Could we get a short synopsis on Laura Doyle's book? I haven't heard of it.

[–]throwaway-aa25 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy

Just take a look at the Amazon Reviews. Here is a 5 star review:

I was desperate for intimacy in my marriage. I thought I had married the wrong man. I was depressed. After reading this book, I realized that my husband was not the problem - I was the problem, and that the reason our marriage was at an all-time low was because I was really a controlling person in every way - I barked orders at my husband all the time, controlled household improvement projects, told him how to drive, how to dress, when to send his mom a birthday card, what our social schedule was... I controlled all the conversations, finished his sentences, talked to him like a child! This is just the tip of the iceberg of the control I had over the marriage. Bottom line is that I believed that I was the smarter one, the better one, the more mature one... no wonder he began spending most of his time in the garage, far away from me! What this book taught me is that, to create greater intimacy in a marriage, you need to surrender control of things and give some of that back to your husband.

and a 1 star review:

I struggled with anger during reading this book. It might say that it will help women to give up being a control freak but what it really does is telling them to give up all responsibility for their lives and be a blind follower. I am sorry but that is utter BS. If your only way to stay in your marriage is to follow the advice in this book, then you are not in a marriage. You are enslaved. Marriage is about partnership, about sharing the good and the bad and having an equal voice. It takes work and not surrender. I am now going to burn this book in the stove... if I can figure out how to turn it on!!!!

[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy

Empowered woman? Check Want's to burn books? Check Can't use an oven? Check Needs a fireMAN when she figures it out? Hahaha

Five stars!

[–]1mozeiny3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy

Perfect illustration of the two types of feminine reactions you're going to get from this book. You're going to get those that respond rationally, and then those that are going to hamster about the modern empowerment of women.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

deleted What is this?

[–]1independentmale0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"Like millions of women, Laura Doyle wanted her marriage to be better. But when she tried to get her husband to be more romantic, helpful, and ambitious, he withdrew– and she was lonely and exhausted from controlling everything. Desperate to be in love with her man again, she decided to stop telling him what to do and how to do it. When Doyle surrendered control, something magical happened. The union she had always dreamed of appeared. The man who had wooed her was back.

The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage. Laura Doyle's model for matrimony shows women how they can both express their needs and have them met while also respecting their husband's choices. When they do, they revitalize intimacy."

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Surrendered_wife

[–]Endorsed Contributornyrp1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

What changes did you notice in your wife between dating and the beginning of being married?

[–]DonRP1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

1) To what extent do you agree or disagree with your wife's summary of the problems and corrections that your marriage went through? Do you feel that your wife changed on her own or do you feel like you played a part?

2) Since most partners find it difficult to take a step back and consider that they may be the problem (as your wife did), what advice would you give specifically to men in marriages who feel controlled, belittled or not respected by their wives?

3) What advice would you give to younger men to avoid a situation like you had in their own marriage in the first place? Do you think marriage is still "worth it"?

[–]BramRhodesDouglas1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

How did this even have to become "advice" for women? "Oh!! You mean if I'm not a manipulative controlling bitch my husband will want to spend time around me?!?" What the actual fuck. I was reading on trp women one day and found a post written by a girl who was praising the girls at TRP Women because they basically told her to quit being a bitch if she wanted to help her relationship. Instead of complaining and nagging when her LTR got home she greeted him with a hug and a kiss and had a sandwich waiting for him on the table. I kid you not, she wrote that she was shocked and so surprised that he responded kindly to her. What the fuck. Wow. Like if you show some sweet kindness to your man and make him a sandwich he'll like you for it.

I keep thinking I understand women but then I hear about junk like this.

[–]Senior Endorsed ContributorCopperFox3c0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Well, this should be intriguing ...

[–]CognitiveVortex 1 points1 points [recovered] | Copy

Potentially dumb question, will it be held here or r/AMA?

Had never heard of this book, but I'll give it a go, think she should have picked a better title though! It sounds too "oppressed" to me.

[–]OneInAZillion1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy

It'd be interesting to see this AMA in AskWomen.

Funny and sad, but interesting.

[–]Modredpillschool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

here

[–]DonRP0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

Let's start the actual AMA thread so that we can have questions prepared?

[–]Senior ContributorMentORPHEUS0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy

"Is it true that she didn't mention that you missed your exit and drove two states farther?"



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