I’m not denying the fact that men are given a false narrative about women, but many of their pre “pill” beliefs about women/how women love come from the assumption that most women are like their mothers.

Mothers love unconditionally. Whether you’re handsome or ugly, tall or short, smart or dumb, weak or strong, sporty or nerdy- no matter what mistakes you make- your mother will love you until her last breath. The main thing you get from her is nurturing and care and even when she scolds you, you know it’s out of love and she’s never going anywhere. She praises you when you’re being a good boy- nice, sweet and compliant- and isn’t too happy when you’re acting rebellious and ‘boyish’. She slightly favors her meek sons over her strong-willed sons (only because they make parenting a little easier) and is the most nurturing with children who seem to need it most. She is the ultimate sign of angel-like comfort.

It isn’t surprising that boys might grow up to see women through “mother” glasses- after all, she was their very first example of womanhood. It very well might shock them to find out that that women (who are not their mothers) do NOT want someone to nurture/care for, but someone to look up to and be led by. They favor not the “good boys” who make life easy, but the strong-willed “rebels” who make life exciting. They look not to protect, but to be (or at least feel) protected. Most importantly of all, their love is, like most non-parents, entirely conditional. And guys with certain traits cannot inspire love at all.

“Women are wonderful” may be a thing, but it’s easily backed with “mother glasses”. The VERY stark contrast between a woman as a mother and a woman as a woman is what really causes RPR.