I've been going out for the past two weeks now, almost every single day. Some nights have been better than others but the interesting thing I've been noticing since I've started going out more is that people start to recognize you. You begin getting noticed on the street and you will make connections with bartenders, bouncers, servers and owners.
I didn't realize this but making these connections is absolutely a game multiplier, I brought a girl on a date the other night and every place I went to the bartender greeted me, the bouncers said hi and I was stopped once in the street by another connection I made with a bartender who finished his shift.
The girl looked at me and asked,
Who are you?
I looked at her and smiled.
This, of course, put her imagination to work and she started to build up an image of me, which if you didn't know a girls imagination is one of the most powerful things you can use to your advantage. Letting her use her imagination is always going to put you in a positive light.
If you can use her imagination to your advantage, it's fucking key.
Don't answer her questions.
Who are you?
"smile"
"You seem to know a lot of people."
Yes. I do.
"How do you know everyone?"
"Networking."
It's a power move.
Now, onto how to actually lock a city or a place down. (I'm still learning)
1) Be social.
This doesn't mean you have to walk around with a dopey grin on your face and approach everyone, that's not my vibe but if I see someone I'm interested in (man or girl) I'll talk to them, ask them how the night is and other basic questions. You're not trying to get into a super-deep conversation here, just small talk. If a deep conversation develops, let it but don't force it.
That's the key, flow with the vibe of the night. Be social, make small talk.
The more you go out, the better you will get at picking up "vibes" of the night. You'll know the group of girls that's open to approaching and the ones that aren't, you'll also learn which girls to approach and will respond well to your game. This comes with going out a lot.
2) Don't go out just on weekends.
Nobody is going to remember you at the club or bar on a day where there are 150 or 100 other people. That just won't happen, go on the "slow nights", weekdays are terrific, make conversation with the bartenders, flirt with the girls but DONT PICK THEM UP and talk shit with the guys bartending, the bouncers and if possible the owner.
People will actually remember you when they see you on non-weekend/busy nights. They will remember your name and you will stick out in their mind.
THEN when the weekend comes, you already know these people (somewhat). You won't get ID'd in the line, the bartender will make you a priority when there are 20 other people waiting for drinks and you won't get hosed on the mixed drinks. I can go to one of the busiest spots around and when I order a vodka soda, it's 90% vodka. That's because I know the bartender.
3) Tip Well
This is self-explanatory. I tip a dollar a drink, sometimes more and if I really like the spot I'll put a 5 or 10 in my hand and shake hands with the bouncer, thanking him for the night. This is a money move, especially in college bars and clubs. NO college kid is slipping the bouncers cash and this means even five fucking dollars is going to go a long way. When you get more upscale, you're going to want to increase the cash you slip.
It's important to do this stealthy. Don't make a scene, put the cash in your palm and shake hands. They'll get the message.
As for bartenders, tip a dollar a drink minimum. Again, this is depending on the venue but college spots, a dollar is perfect. It's respectful without being too obvious. You want to make it look like you're not tipping for special treatment.
4) Remember the names of the people you meet.
Again, a money move. Remember the bouncer's name, bartenders name, the ugly girl who barbacks name, the owner's name and so on.
When you see these cats outside of work, greet them.
"Hey John, hows it going man. Nice to fucking see you."
You don't have to have a long conversation, just catch up and ask how they've been doing, tell them what you're up to and that's it.
Remembering names is vital though, now you stand out from all the other idiots they've talked to. If possible, bring up something they told you last time you talked. If they said they're going on a trip, ask them how it was or ask them if they are excited. Get the message across that you listen to what they are saying.
Also, when you see these people and you're with a girl make sure you say "hi" (unless they're occupied). Think of the mafia movies where a cat goes into the bar and knows everyone.
"Hey John"
"Hey Tony"
"Hey Chris"
"Hey Sara"
This is money. The girl you're with is again going to wonder who the fuck you are AND it shows you're a sociable guy who other people like. You're not some loser that nobody likes. Pre-selection.
Also, on the slow nights some bars may have a DJ or a Band, talk to these guys if its dead. In between sets, shoot the shit or when they are finished walk up and talk. Now you know the band members or the DJ and when they play that venue again and its BUMPING you'll be recognized. Game is a hell of a lot easier when the DJ lets you chill in the booth with him.
Also with owners, a great question is to ask them what got them into the business. How did they start and if they want to expand (business minded cats, love talking about business)
5) Following the above steps OPENS nightlife for you.
What I mean by this is eventually, you're going to skip the line, get drinks on the house and bartenders (if they are cool) might set you up with girls they know or talk good things about you to lone girls at the bar. This is endgame, I'm not there yet.
One other major advantage is you will actually be considered for jobs, if you drop a resume off the owner may know you or the bartender you know might talk good things. This is GREAT for college cats, because bartending is decent cash and you will meet a ton of girls but you have to have "connections" to get in to this circle you can't just walk into the joint and expect to be hired.
Once you're apart of the "scene" it's much easier to move from different bars and clubs. People in the nightlife scene generally work at different places, so if you know these people from one bar the benefits will carry over to another. This also works as an employee, if you bartend at one popular spot, grabbing a job at another is no big deal (the owners probably know each other)
6) Don't be an idiot.
This goes without saying, the bouncers and security are your friends. Be nice to them, respect them and don't get wasted to the point of getting kicked out.
Don't fight.
Another benefit of having the security on your side is this. Let's say a girl decides to try to get you kicked out or someone is starting shit and there's no other way out but to fight.
Guess what?
They will be on your side.
Is the bouncer going to believe the guy who he's never seen? Or the guy who they've seen often and is friends with the staff and has been friendly to them aswell.
This is going to save your fucking ass.
It may not today or tomorrow or in three weeks but sooner or later, shit WILL go down and your hide will be saved. Pay it forward, and show your appreciation.
When you go out 4 nights a week, you will get in a fight eventually.
7) Bring the girls.
Again, a MONEY move. Let's say you have three fly chicks, one you're banging and the other two are single. Introduce them to the staff. Tell the bouncer you got a super fly girl for him.
He's going to appreciate that you tried to give him a piece of your pie. This is similar to slipping cash, but is much more effective because sex with a fly girl is worth way more than 20 dollar bill.
When you get more advanced, you can introduce girls to business partners or others guys who have power and things that you want to be apart of.
Let's say a cat at the bar owns a yacht or has access to super fly girls, introducing him to other girls is going to get him on your side and he will want to bring you into his circle or, if you're a baller his yacht. This grows your social circle and therefore your status.
Anyways, that's all I got tonight.
Go out, apply these tips and take over your city. The pussy river will start flooding.
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