I've been lurking on this sub for some time now and I've really enjoyed reading posts and the side bar content. There has been one thing however that I've found quite hard to understand and accept. I have always been a confident, outgoing, loving and funny person. In terms of my SMV, there is a lot I am currently doing to try and improve - I think I have a pretty face (I've been told this by both males and females) but I still need to lose a bit more weight. As the weight has slowly been coming off, I've noticed an increase in male attention. I really do understand that slimmer is more attractive for an endless amount of reasons and I completely agree with all those reasons. However, I am having difficulty accepting that a lot of my male friends who previously have not been attracted to me are now attracted to me, including people who I've previously liked but things never progressed (probably because they just weren't attracted to me). I've always known that this would be the case - that people would like me more once I've lost weight. But I didn't anticipate it being so hard to accept now that things are beginning to work in my favour. I'm finding it hard to accept that I wasn't good enough before, but now I am starting to be.
Can anyone offer any advice on how they came to accept that your physical appearance is first and foremost the most important thing to men? And how to forgive yourself for not meeting that criteria previously?
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