Tag makes it obvious, but: This is a theory I've worked on for some time. It applies mostly to men in or headed for LTR.
Food is a trap. Don't fall for it.
An LTR partner will almost always try and "fatten you up." But that makes me less attractive, you say. Why would she want that?
Simple: It reduces your SMV.
As someone else said here on a recent "Best of" post: Validation is sex for women. Its their primary need, in terms of what they get from men. Sex itself is secondary; its the validation they are after. And having you focused solely on them, and no one else, provides them enormous amounts of validation. What they need beyond that, they will get by wearing low cut shirts to work and leaning over the cubicles of overweight office workers desperate for female attention, to make them drool a while.
Meanwhile, SMV for men is determine by a LARGE margin, by physique. Thats not the ONLY factor, but is a BIG factor. By "fattening you up" she is essentially taking you off the sexual market. Making it so that other women, are not even interested.
This gives her the power. It places your existence, within her frame. Think about if: If you are off the sexual market, Dread Game is impossible. If no one wants your fat ass, she never needs to worry. The power dynamic shifts to favor her to an immense degree. But this also means you can never, ever make her tingle; if there's no risk inherent in the relationship, no dread, her hamster has basically rolled over and gone to sleep...until someone ELSE wakes it up.
Do not let her junk food fixation, become your way of life. She will try. SUbtly, at first. Desert night once per week. Then next thing you know, she's buying potato chips and ice cream on every shopping run. Maybe she knows why she does it; more probably she doesn't even understand her compulsion to fatten up her husband or long time partner. But the fact remains: The result is your removal from the sexual marketplace completely, the utter inability to use dread game, and her complete stranglehold on your sex life and the relationship as a whole.
This leads to staleness and boredom. A complete lack of emotional tingles. And we ALL know where the next step is from there.
Food is a trap. Don't fall for it.
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