What to expect as I move towards 30

KeyRepresentative · 2020-04-01T04:51:01+00:00

Thirty something is great. I’m a mid thirties lawyer in a major city. Life is great.

College girls? Rarely but it depends on you. 21 year olds look great but don’t bring anything else. Personally, 24-29 is the sweet spot for women. They are lovely, independent, have their own place, and fuck how they want. A late 20’s woman’s apartment is always the best place to sleep.

Friends change, they have lives and priorities, so do you. Make an effort to keep who matters and always make new friends. My college buddies have kids, ex wives and new wives, they would hate my “going out” friends. But I live my college buds forever.

Fitness. Fitness. Fitness. I qualified for regional crossfit games at 27. At 33, I needed back surgery and gained 30 lbs. It will change fast.

Relationships. The majority of married couples in their 20s end in divorce. Marry in your 30s and 40s and the odds are you stay married. Why? You actually know yourself, respect yourself, and have boundaries. So 30s relationships are much smoother -usually, avoid disordered women- and respectful. You will regret certain bad ass women you passed up but get over it.

Thirties are prime time.

*edit: because I like scotch and had more to say.

Know where you fit it in. It isn’t dance clubs. I take 2nd dates to tastings, to art galleries, to concerts.

Don’t wait in line. You’re successful. I’m aware that I’m older than the patrons at my favorite dive bar. I walk up to front and have a $20 for the bouncer. My date just walked past girls begging for attention and got straight in with me.

Finally, you’re old enough to see red flags. Date bad ass women. Walk away from anything that doesn’t suit you.

Finn_the_dawg · 2020-04-01T02:38:57+00:00

I love being 31. It's like turning 20 all over again. Except more pussy. More over the married friends wives will start trying to set you up with friends that are single

2020-04-01T03:00:50+00:00

You're a bachelor. You're not a perverted weirdo. You have plenty of options.

El0vution · 2020-04-01T05:42:54+00:00

I’m 40 and can still get college girls at bars. You’ll feel lonely and different, but my married friends are envious of me. You pick your poison.

como10 · 2020-04-01T03:55:01+00:00

I know you're asking about dating life past 30, but the best advice I can give you is to start investing now. Passive income will give you a lot of leverage in life, and the earlier you start, the easier and more enjoyable your life will be.

BruhMoment45886 · 2020-04-01T02:42:31+00:00

A nice looking, successful, and confident man who's single into his later years is known as a Bachelor.

A fat ugly slob with no social life is know as a loser.

You aren't a loser.

Sure people are getting married but that's the thing, some of them married just to beat a time line. That doesnt mean they're going to have a happy and successful marriage. If you're happy with your current single lifestyle keep at it. You're the lucky one not them. If you're actually lonely then go out and meet some girls. See if you click with someone.

tilleuno · 2020-04-01T05:11:39+00:00

Hey bro, I finished a 4 year ltr just as I turned 27. I went on to have the best year of my life. The most, the youngest and the hottest I've ever gotten.

Just take care of what you can to preserve your looks, work hard and beat any voice down in your head that tells you you can't, or you're too old. If anyone around you does, cut those sacks of spuds out of your life. They don't belong. It's your life, don't waste it listening to other people's limits.

trpppp123 · 2020-04-01T03:47:02+00:00

29 and the and the only noticeable changes is that my friend circle is dying off(married) and my pay is increasing substantially every year.

One thing I would like to find is a group of other bachelor buddies who are on the same professional level to go out with. That's my only complaint.

As far as women I chose to be a few blocks from a major college. As long as you look the part dress a little younger there's no issues they all think I’m 25. From what you described you’ll be fine in this area.

Looking forward to seeing the answers on here.

Alzatorus · 2020-04-01T07:34:48+00:00

31 here and was recently making my way through a 21 yr old, 22 yr old, and 27 yr old. I say ‘recently’ as I decided to ltr the 22 yr old - she earned it.

As long as you look after yourself (health, career, prospects) and know how to talk to women (it’s so much easier once you’ve solidly set your frame and know precisely who you are) pussy is easy to acquire.

4thAndLong · 2020-04-01T12:08:24+00:00

I'm turning 30 in a few months. Since RP I've mainly gamed girls in the 21-24 age range with pretty good success. A girl asking your age is a shit test.

As for my friends who are married, stuck in shit relationships, and/or have kids... it sucks a bit. I like traveling and doing spontaneous shit. I don't have many friends that can hang with me much anymore.

idevastate · 2020-04-01T09:08:55+00:00

Better than your 20's. In our 20's we're just teenagers with a 2 in in the first age slot number.

You will absolutely be able to pick up college girls, in fact they get real into the idea, 30's is like a sweet spot, you're more mature than their idiot age group, but not their dad age. However, believe me when I say this, there will be mental changes in your maturity. College girls under 24-25 will have nothing to offer you other than looks, and even then most will be pretty meh at sex compared to what you'll find with a girl in her higher 20's.

Hungboy6969420 · 2020-04-01T06:17:16+00:00

-> 27 year old being too old for college chicks -> lol

MajIssuesCaptObvious · 2020-04-01T10:17:24+00:00

You'll adapt. I'm 43. Since my 20s, very year has been greater than the last, especially with dating. I find older women attractive, plus they're less likely to play mind games as women in their 20s and early 30s, although you will find a few who do, especially on dating apps.

StolenSpirit · 2020-04-02T01:26:31+00:00

Turning 27 this month and with 30 on the horizon I feel like life’s already over. Greatest hits were definitely late teens early 20s, didn’t see it back then of course. Every woman past 27 looks ridden hard and dating in your 30s with woman at that age is a straight boner kill. None of them look appealing. Everyone here seems to praise their 30s as being some new chapter of their inevitable ending up alone life, which I can see I’ll end up. You can dress up in your head that it’s going to be great but truth is your heading into old and balding territory. But I get it, for the sake of masking the depression gotta look happy on the outside. Young romances are the best, ultimately they make up your defining moments in your life. If you don’t meet and stay with someone when your in your 20s everything else is damaged goods. If I had any spine I’d off myself in hopes I could relive my youth or another and do it differently with a better social upbringing, and more supportive environmental factors that were outside of my control- or even just not making some the mistakes when I had it good it would of been a different future forsure. Best not to dwell on that shit, it’s not “TRP” way. But deeply engraved personality flaws are unfixable, and can’t be unbound. In a world where everything is boring and bland, organic new relationships just don’t happen.

AnonymousSportsExec · 2020-04-02T10:40:40+00:00

I'm 56 and still sleep with women in their 20s.

You just have to be very fit and dress well.

I'm also black tho and black don't crack. Most women think I'm in my 30s.

masterpiece00 · 2020-04-01T05:28:05+00:00

Possibly not, trps 'getting older more pussy' is wrong.

You'll be alone much of the time, any young girls you do fancy will be with 4 friends and 10 guys hovering that group, who will all be younger than you and with much greater social proof - basically most of them will be in school/college together and have been friends for 'years'.

You might find an outlier here and there but be prepared to take of RP's rose colored glasses of being older as you will be on your own with little company.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-04-01T18:03:04+00:00

30 was a great year for me. If you pay attention to your shit, you can have a nice life as an older guy.

Further Reading:

Life After 30: How to Be an Old Guy

-You have one life. Here's how to enjoy it.

Older Men, Younger Women: How & When It Can Work

-For Older Men who prefer Younger Women, and vice versa.

Older Men, Younger Women, Part II

-More Fun With Younger Women.

For Online Daters, Women Peak at 18 While Men Peak at 50, Study Finds.

-Even More Fun With Younger Women.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2020-04-01T04:50:18+00:00

as I get closer to and move past 30? Will I still be able to pick up college girls at the bar?

Yes.

jkpj95 · 2020-04-01T11:27:53+00:00

Don't sweat it.

AngTheEphemeral · 2020-04-01T18:17:05+00:00

How do you lift 6 days / week while still having enough time to recover in between workouts? What does your regimen look like?

i-am-the-prize · 2020-04-01T19:36:32+00:00

understand, about this 'drive' you feel to not be alone:

1) women will feel it 100x worse than you because they have a biological clock, you don't for anther 20-30 years

2) they will sense your thirst, so get that in check. if she thinks you're worried about being alone, look out. be ready for shittests and have some A&A responses ready to: "so are you gonna ever settle down?" "are you worried about not finding the right one?" etc.

JamieMadrox2020 · 2020-04-07T18:41:05+00:00

If you still want “to be social” don’t move out to the suburbs. Stay in the city. Yes you won’t have a 2 door garage house with a picket fence like your married friends. But living in the suburbs can be a bigger barrier to making new friends/dating women (whichever your goal is) than “being old”.
Depending on your city, you’d be surprised how many 30s singles there are.
Go all in on your hobbies and interests. Not like “join a coed volleyball league to meet women”, but like go all in nerd about shit you actually like. At this point enjoy and own every moment of your life unapologetically.
Gotta stay fit, but don’t be a gym rat either. Never needed to be, but you have things to do with your time.
The solitude and loneliness feelings can come sometimes, but also the independence and freedom to do what you want is amazing. A little pleasure like going home when you want without having to justify it to anyone is great.
If you are generally stress free, and fit, in terms of women the age thing doesn’t even come up in casual situations.

slamdunktiger86 · 2020-04-08T04:26:47+00:00

Don’t finance shit.

Save cash.

Learn to invest with hedges.

Learn more skills.

Honestly, if I could be 27 again, (33 now), i would go monk fill I’m 30.

It’s the red plague right now away, just keep your head down, stack cash and maintain a low profile.

Sylvester_Sterone · 2020-04-01T12:24:28+00:00

I'm 32 now and that is perfectly normal to have to thoughts.

It only gets better if you've been improving yourself in your 20s. Picking up girls at the bar can still happen but expect "how old are you?" shit tests. Just tell em "sit on my lap and tell me what you want for christmas." Also, expand your approaches in day game.

People comment that your seeing a girl in her 20s? Fuck em.

I would never be with a girl my age as most are now fat or weathered.

Realize this. Although it is normal, based on society, that a lot of your friends are married... even in their mid 20s. By the time they are 30s a great portion of those guys let themselves go and will be divorced.

mikkeldaman · 2020-04-01T06:51:56+00:00

Chicks seem to love balding guys for some reason. Also now you can brag about dating girls 10 years younger than you (also helps keeping up with the memes).

Title	What to expect as I move towards 30
Author	drevil_
Upvotes	78
Comments	91
Date	01 April 2020 02:23 AM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	askTRP
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