Im meeting a solid 8/9 tomorrow I know from school. We came in contact a few years back and since then we texted and met a few times. I always acted uninterested because I actually am, I like fat chicks and hippies, no joke. I always had the suspicion tho that she is interested: she almost always hits me up, keeps the convo going, comes to my city, wants to prolong the dates...
Same pattern arouse again and we meet on sunday for a walk with the option to end up at my place. Since I recently decided to spin plates, I decided to go for her.
There is just this one thing she always does:
Everytime I break charakter/my beta shows or the conversations stalls for too long, she starts telling me about how awesome her job is or from some lawyers and bankers she is/was dating. And only then she does that.
Obvious answer is dont be a beta, thanks. But what if I slip and she spirals in this thing again? How do I react? I assume she likes my edgy side like being anti-consum and living very simple. I could tell her something like money is not the key to happiness that Im glad I quit consulting. But thats all submitting to her frame (right?)...I have no idea. Actually I could laugh it off/smirk and be like "whats else is going on?" Like not be interested at all in her bs.
Also if someone has inspiration for escalation, Im listening very closely. I could imagine doing it with words like telling her what I like and shit and put ideas in her mind. But the whole touch her arm thing seems cheesy to me. No idea how I could do that and still be authentic. All ideas I have for escalating by touching are cringy.
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