Can I have a good life and maintain sexual relationships with TMAU? Feeling hopeless

PutABabyInThat · 2021-01-02T05:54:58+00:00

Surprisingly since I've had this issue I’ve hooked up with one girl and had another show heavy interest but I couldn’t follow through because this just kills my self esteem

Your metabolism isn't the problem.

Rifleshoot · 2021-01-02T05:10:20+00:00

It’s an uphill battle, for sure, but I’m sure there are women that wouldn’t find it a deal breaker. But, I would certainly talk to your doctor about options to treat it.

You can look at this two different ways. You can use this as an excuse to never find a woman, or you can see it as something you have to compensate for in other ways. Become the most jacked, most confident, most social guy that you know. Increase your SMV in other ways. Maybe form a habit of wearing cologne. There’s plenty that you can do about it.

I had an old roommate in my fraternity. The guy had the absolute worst BO of anyone I knew. Our whole room smelled like sour milk. He had horrible personal hygiene. But, he managed to somehow be one of the people that got laid the most. He was absolutely shredded, had the most obnoxious and irrational self confidence of anyone I had ever met. And looking back at the guy now, he was definitely on reddit a lot back then (I hadn’t joined). He was probably following TRP religiously.

All of this to say, don’t let this condition be an excuse. If anything, it’s a reason to work even harder.

Sepean · 2021-01-02T13:40:32+00:00

Plusses and minusses, man. Everyone’s a package deal. Say you’re a 5, TMAU is -3, this place will give you +3, you’re back at a 5. Now do some of that lifestyle adjustment to get that TMAU down to -1 or -2, you’re at a 6 or 7.

And most importantly, with this you’re now playing alpha game. Betas can get girls too, but betas are treated like shit. Alphas get treated well. It’s a ton more fun being alpha.

So stop whining and do the best with what you have. Maybe you stink, but if you’re a fucking man’s man, there are girls who will think the ride is worth the smell.

Maybe there’s even a girl with long covid who can’t smell anything, or an olfactory masochist out there.

Make it work.

hopeunseen · 2021-01-02T06:45:57+00:00

First off, I feel for you. I have Eosinal Esophagitus & IBS which have caused chronic bad breath, leading to serious marriage issues and near total loss of intimacy. So while I can't totally relate, I get it - It sucks.

Now on to the gut punch...

Currently I don’t work, date, have friends or even go to the gym anymore because _______

This is called an excuse. Yours may be better than others, but it's still shitty and doing nothing but making your life worse. And lets call a spade a spade here: You can still do ALL of these things. You just don't want to.

You don't work? WTF kind of excuse is that these days? Get a job working remotely.

You don't go to the gym? BULL SHIT. You can get shredded in your living room doing bodyweight exercise only - You're just being lazy.

Don't date? I personally think this should be deferred on your priorities til you get your shit together, but you could still do online chat if you wanted to. You just haven't.

Don't have friends? Again wtf. Even guys who play WOW in their Mom's basement have online buddies.

My point here isn't that you SHOULD be doing these things, just that you aren't being honest with yourself. Life gave you a crappy situation that has made things harder for you than for most people, and now you're having a pity party.

You need to be 100% honest, look at yourself in the mirror and decide what kind of man you want to be. The kind who gives up because they don't want to do the work and things are crappy, or the kind who gets back up and keeps moving through the mud and the pouring rain, because he has a mission to accomplish and he is going to make it no matter what.

Believe me, I know the feeling of hopelessness - I've had my stomach and breath issues for 10 years and they frigging suck. Things other people get to do and eat I can't. Sometimes it feels 5X harder for me than for anybody else.

But you know what? That's a frigging lie. My problems are a piece of cake compared to what some men deal with and achieve amazing things in spite of.

Now a couple words of advice

Stop bullshitting yourself. This is a manageable thing - You came here looking for sympathy and people to let you off the hook. Take ownership and be honest.
Keep going. This is a fixable thing - So fix it. It's not going to be fast or easy. So be it - This will be the greatest catalyst for developing your character and discipline you've ever had. View it as an opportunity to become great.
Lift. Read the sidebar. Report back in 30 days after you've done some work.

Good luck.

EDIT

I also should give you some advice specific to your problem:

Find a functional medicine doctor, pay for a comprehensive stool test (to determine your microbiome health and narrow down on possible bacterial issues) and begin a 100% whole foods diet, followed by a strategic allergy elimination diet to narrow down the real culprits. I believe for most people with conditions like yours avoiding certain foods makes a world of difference.

https://nutritionfacts.org/video/how-to-reduce-your-tmao-levels/

2021-01-02T05:42:07+00:00

You say it can be cured. There’s reason for optimism.

daproest1 · 2021-01-02T04:44:22+00:00

Have u tried playing with your diet?

bob--man · 2021-01-02T06:44:58+00:00

over at asktrp it usually seems like teenagers that comment.

It's clear to me that you spend a lot of time over at TRP; therefore, your head isn't in the right space. What do I mean? I mean that you aren't taking action. Stop spending time over at the TRP subs and consuming all of that content. It's a continual broken record, but your best bet is to hit the sidebar over at /r/marriedredpill (or here) and start lifting. I agree with the other comments that talk about your frame and self-esteem issues. Those are the bigger problems for you to tackle. You need to develop frame.

vampirejessica · 2021-01-02T08:43:46+00:00

I have tmau.. Im getting laid.. And i have a good job and social in general.. Add me for chat here.. Do the things you're affraid of doing and drink that kefir

But add me for chatting.. I think if u see what I can do you'll be motivated a bit

NeoTheJuanDJ · 2021-01-03T01:47:03+00:00

Is not going to the gym (becoming a fat, weak fuck), not going out into public (becoming a socially retarded fuck), not talking to women (becoming an asexual dumb fuck) going to make you into the man you want to be? Or is going out there, being jacked and strong, socially fluent and charming/charismatic with employers, women, friends and family and the benefits, as a result of you putting yourself “out there” - that makes you the man you want to be? Wear some deodorant, chew some gum, take care of your illness and follow up with your doctors/ get this shit handled (similar to everything else in your life - physical, social, mental, financial health). You’ll have this illness regardless, whether you sit in your mom’s basement jacking off, using your tears and regret as lube, or you go take the things you want because you want the best possible lot in life for yourself. It won’t just come to you, and the result of shelling up in your apartment out of fear of your illness (which isn’t even that bad tbh) will lead to you becoming your greater fear - your worst self. Isolation is dangerous.

And besides, a girl won’t care that you smell because of an illness. A girl will care that you smell like a faggot and you are oozing an unbearable stench of lack-of-confidence that she can detect from a mile away. That lack of confidence and nagging insecurity in the back of your mind affects your approaches, your body language, your vocal tonality, your assertiveness and all of this comes back to your competence and frame. Girls see this. Employers see this. Your friends, family, and networking contacts sees this as well. You have to own your shit, and this illness is part of that. When you do, A girl will only find that attractive and can only be a net positive.

Be attractive, don’t be unattractive. Frame is everything.

wkndatbernardus · 2021-01-03T01:58:15+00:00

Dated a girl last year with a nice rack and ZERO sense of smell. I thought it was pretty annoying because I'm into wine and whiskey and she couldn't tell the difference between mezcal and vodka based on the smell. Anyway, my point is that there are women out there that won't mind your diahrea cloud aura.

jimjames1967 · 2021-01-06T16:23:52+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TMAU/comments/dcdmop/how_i_cured_my_trimethylaminuria_tmau_type_2/

theprettygiraffe · 2021-03-27T21:01:41+00:00

I cant smell my husband who insists he has it so we live in isolation and he doesn't believe i don't smell him. Lol If you choose to be in a relationship with someone, be upfront with them and don't trap them into isolation with you. Life is not meant to be lived in hiding.

KakashiHatakesWife · 2021-12-01T02:12:13+00:00

You said you just developed it. How? How did you get this condition?

Title	Can I have a good life and maintain sexual relationships with TMAU? Feeling hopeless
Author	mytrowawayforstuff
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Date	January 2, 2021 4:14 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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