I start to think that There is actually no recipe for relationships. It’s more a matter of luck, hazard and good timing than anything else.

Ofc being physically attractive and having games some kind of matter for both genders but from what I noticed, there are no real rules in dating, ( and even sex sometimes)

Men here constantly says that women are attracted to the ressources yet I know a dozen of couples where the woman is the main breadwinner, even if she’s a few years younger and prettier than her husband, these girls don’t consider themselves to be beckybuxx or anything. Their husbands weren’t even that good looking, to provide for them, it’s just happened like that. My uncle is dating a hot chick who’s 4 years younger than her, she’s a successful pharmacist who makes 120k a year, while he barely makes 50k. She was physically out of his league since he was a 5’8 average looking guy and she’s a blond blue eyed beauty would definitely be considered a Stacy. It wasn’t even surprising in my family and many others.

I also see in this subreddit and on the web that men focus more about youth and look, and I also used to believe that when I was introverted, which is that the ugly go with the ugly, the average with the average and the good looking with the good looking, but when I started to socialise more I was shocked by how many couples I saw that contradicted my point of view. I didn’t saw Victoria’s secret models or Calvin Klein male models dating trolls, but It wasn’t rare for me to see some couples with a giga-chad and a Becky, holding hands and carrying a baby, I even know a couple like that where the giga-chad is the breadwinner and his Becky wife is 2 years older than him. And a giga-Stacy dating an average looking guy who’s under 5ft9 tall, and no, he doesn’t lay her or anything to date him, cause they both have the same paycheck.

Most attractive men I see don’t constantly focus on getting the prettiest youngest women they can, some of them usually settle with women that was there at the right time when they wanted to commit, which is a matter of luck. I always get called hot or cute and I remember that when I was 19 and I wanted to date a 25 years old man, who rejected me and he’s now married to to a single mom who’s 3 years older than him, which is a thing that the RP would have considered impossible. He didn’t rejected me cause I was younger, he just didn’t want to date me because he didnt want to date, and it turns out that he didn’t care I a woman was older with a kid, which is why his wife snatched him.

My cousin for example had a woman prettier than his actually girlfriend who wanted to date him, let’s say that if his actually girlfriend is an 8 at best, that chick he rejected was definitely a 10! And everyone ( except apparently my boyfriend) would say that she was objectively better looking than his partner , however , if his girlfriend look like Emma Watson then the chick he rejected look like Margot Robbie. I learned with time that it just happened that his girlfriend did nothing but being at the right place at the right time, in a moment when he wanted to commit.

You can be the most perfect gorgeous woman on the planet but if a man don’t want to settle down then he won’t, however you will be surprised by how he will easily buy a ring for a girl in a year just after dating for a month, while she’s not as nice or beautiful as you, and I also see that with the opposite gender and even with my self. ( since most men seek sex) I notice that a girl can fuck a guy who look like a dork if she’s horny but will refuse to have sex with a male model if she’s not at the moment

I see gorgeous looking women that did everything right ( being obedient, sweet, caring, and virginal) getting mistreated and cheated on ( it wasn’t because they choosed a jerk, the guy they married just turned into a jerk after a few years of mariage), sometimes their husbands literally look like a weirdo.

Just like I saw average looking chicks in their 30’s and 40’s, that are single moms, with tattoos and a high n count landing decent looking high quality men. I swear to God, that’s what I noticed.

I also see some ugly jerks getting nice girls just like I know a good looking responsible high quality man, being cheated on and divorce raped by his average looking wife, while all he wanted was a great family.

Being a high quality man or woman, isn’t the only recipe to get a high quality partner , it’s only a matter of luck and timing and it can only help you to increase it by lets say 40%, but someone who’s less worthy than you can definitely beat you with his 60% of luck, if you only have your 40% of good look, niceness and hard work. So my advices would be to never focus at that, no matter what’s your pill color, cause it’s not something that you have control over. If you’re lucky to be at the right timing, then good for you, take that opportunity, if you don’t then let it go, and focus on something that you have control over, like your mental and physical health

I understand now that it can be frustrating, and that’s probably why so many men and women ( especially women) that were unlucky start to get bitter, so they try to find some kind of mathematical rule to this, but there’s not. Most of the couples you see are somewhat a results of a hazardous situation. Not because the guy followed some RP advices or because the girl had an amazing strategy