Welcome to installment number three in my Red Pill Game foundations series Red Pill 101. In the first two installments we covered attraction, and the signifiers of an Alpha Male/beta-male, and while I think internalizing theory is of extraordinary importance to future success, I do recognize that people sometimes need practical simplistics too, so lets take a brief detour into the most essential components of a successful date.

I had been throwing a ton of very important, but also very abstract, theoretical shit at Donny for the better part of two hours. He had been taking it all in as best he could, recognizing the heavy truth in the bits and pieces that resonated with his experience, when he stopped me and asked what practical advice could he immediately use when out with women.

It made me kind of laugh... while I think the theoretical foundation of ABC will eventually pay off big when you reach the latter stages XYZ, the beginnings of Red Pill Game foundation may be frustrating in regards to practical usage. Especially when I had mentioned to Donny how he needs to get out of head and be more present on dates, so it's best to not have all this social dynamic nerd talk floating at the forefront of his brain when he's trying to get a girl interested (tip: when it's internalized, stages XYZ, you won't need to be conscious of it).

So, I thought for a minute and came up with the Cliff's Notes version of a successful date: Tension, Frame Control, and Fun.

Tension

There was something I couldn't really put my finger on for the longest time... Fooling around with a girl when I was younger was a lot sexier. This is confusing, as I'm something like 100x better at fooling around as an adult; both for partner experience and for my own enjoyment- I'm damn good at it.

But still, there seemed to be something missing. Why is it that when I was a nineteen year old goofball there was some kind of sexy x-factor that was missing as a more experienced and capable adult; this x-factor was tension.

When I was nineteen, I was just thrilled to be hanging out with a girl I was kind of into; kind of into, of course, meaning that she was a girl who was interested in hanging out with me at all. This was, in itself, exciting; I had no expectations of what would happen, although, of course I hoped for a blow job. But, this lack of expectation meant that I was a whole lot more present during the date- and by date, I mean hanging out on my couch watching MTV; I'm using the term loosely. This meant that I was independent of outcome, meaning that, maybe that I had no expectations. While this is hard to wrangle as an adult, it came quite naturally as a kid, it's still a good quality to enter into a date with.

So, having no real expectations, I sat there on my couch having a good time... I was also scared to death of making a move. I wasn't sure when or how to make a move on a girl whom I wasn't 110% sure would receive my move well; the girl, of course, would have, why else is she sitting on my couch with me anyway? And she very likely felt the same way... Nervous and scared, like a doofy kid.

This would naturally build sexual tension. Where, maybe we would take minor chances in small increments, maybe we'd have a tickle fight where my hand would accidentally end up on her tits for a brief second, or my hard-on would press against her thigh, maybe there would be a prolonged bit of silent eye-contact before one of us looked away... and by the time we ended up making out and fooling around, all of this made it a whole lot hotter and this was without any of the tricks-of-the-trade that I know as an adult; just plain old french vanilla teenaged hormones, and god fucking damn was it hot.

And as I lost my innocence, this kind of natural sexual tension died with it. As situations became more predictable, I'd end up more in my head- only I didn't recognize it. I think of being "in your head" as a quality of the anxiety ridden, inexperienced doofus... I didn't think about it in terms of the whole interaction being passe; like the tenth time you beat Mike Tyson's Punch-Out, everything is more predictable.

I thought of an interaction with a girl as a linear process; I mean, it sure felt linear as a teenager. Linear as in, hang out --> flirt --> escalate flirting --> kiss --> fool around. Only I was omitting that kind of prolonged sexual tension that gave the whole thing a more enjoyable gravitas.

As an adult, you are going to have to create a false kind of tension; a contrived tension. Think of tension as a display of your ease and comfort in holding power; the ultimate confidence, albeit subtle confidence or subtextual confidence.

When I'd get the kiss, I'd dive right in- straight line to sex. But what if you get the kiss, and pull back; I'll bet you no one she fools around with does that. You're aloof, you give no fucks, she's beneath you, you've been there and done that enough that you don't need to tell the story; this will keep her guessing and build a contrived sexual tension; you are drawing her out.

Frame Control

This is your party, homeboy, you're in charge of the direction. You are above her, she is beneath you; she is lucky to be out with you. You keep things moving in the direction that you want. Tease her if she gets bratty; tease her if she doesn't, always with a smile, always having fun. Don't lose your sense of authority, don't question yourself. Think of Frame Control as the ultimate display of overt confidence.

Fun

If you aren't having fun, why are you there? If she isn't having fun, why is she there?

You are in charge of the fun; Frame Control dictates you are party captain.

My advice on fun: never pander.

Do you find yourself funny? Do you make humorous observations about the world around you when you're alone and then go on to laugh to yourself like a madman? Can you entertain yourself if left alone for the day?

The correct answer to the above should be YES.

While Roosh laments the idea of becoming the clown for women, I say fuck that, entertain yourself while you're with her and she'll be entertained too. Say things YOU think are funny, tease her and laugh at her, always be sure that you are having a good time and make sure that it shows.

While there is tons and tons of dating advice and theory and tips and tricks, keep in mind Tension, Frame Control and Fun as a basic formula and you're guaranteed to do well.

Part 00: The Fragile Ego- Don't Do What Donny Does

Part 01: Attraction and the Female "Culture of Categorization"

Part 02: Signifiers of the Alpha Male, Signifiers of the beta-male

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