Summary: AskWomen is offended when a guy says that he feels bad when his dates constantly talk about their former FWBs and maintain ties with them. RedPill moral: never expect empathy or understanding from women. They are like horses with blinders, they only understand the world from a female lens and can't even imagine looking at it from a guy's perspective.
Thread here.
Another day, another instance of AskWomen perfectly confirming RedPill theory. Sometimes you need to hear RedPill truth straight from the mouth of the enemy, and then you will truly understand how astute TRP is.
Case in point, a thread today on AskWomen. A guy posted saying that when he goes on dates with women, they often maintain connections (read: they are plates) with their former fuckbuddies.
Let me preface this by saying that I'm not a prude and that I don't judge women for their past. When I start dating someone, however, I prefer it if the past stays in the past. Recently, I've started to notice that many women I went on dates with have remained close to their former hook-ups. They say that they just went back to being platonic friends and some even tried to make me befriend their former fwbs (often without telling me about their past). Has this become the norm? I mean, I see how people want to keep (loose) contact to their former long-term partners if things ended amicably. But keeping former fuck buddies close just seems strange to me and is really off-putting, to tell the truth. Am I in the wrong for refusing to date someone who is still close to former fwbs? How do the women of askwomen think about this, would you date a guy who is still close to his former fuck buddy? Would you be okay with befriending them?
Now, as men we empathize with him. Who here would be okay with your girlfriend longingly reminiscing about having wild orgasms with Brett, the captain of the lacrosse team, during her college days - and still being friends with him? And trying to fucking introduce you to him? Every time you see him, you would imagine your girlfriend choking on his balls. And he would look back at you and smile... because he's thinking of your girl choking on his balls too.
But AskWomen apparently doesn't get it.
Former fuck buddies are often "buddies" too. I still have one or two that I chat with from time to time, and I've been with my SO for 5 years. Sometimes fuck buddies can be long-term, even though it's not an actual relationship. You still go out, have drinks, catch a movie, and generally enjoy their company -- they're just not the people you call when you need a shoulder to cry on.
Alpha-fux, beta bux. That's embedded so intrinsically into this girl's mind that she doesn't even realize that's what she's saying. I wonder if her SO knows that she sees him as a provider but she thinks her fuckbuddies were more fun to enjoy time with, catch a movie, etc.
Maybe I'm crazy but I never felt jealousy towards other women who have fucked my boyfriend in the past. Like obviously there's a reason they're not dating them and are dating me instead. It's just not something I worry about.
Well, no shit. Girls love it when they find a guy who's successful with women. It's preselection, a basic sociological concept. If a man is a playa, that means he has qualities women like.
Note that this doesn't work both ways. If a woman is a slut, that just means she opened her legs a lot at the club. It took 0 skill.
I'm not sure why it's a problem for someone to remain on good terms with former partners... In my opinion it shows that they are mature enough to understand that just because it didn't work out romantically, that doesn't mean the rest of their relationship was terrible. Some people just aren't romantically compatible. That doesn't erase all the ways in which they were compatible.
You can almost feel the question marks popping up over this girl's head. She's just completely befuddled that her SO may not enjoy the thought of her spread-eagled on the bed while an alpha reams her ass over and over again with his 8-incher.
Bottom line, don't ever expect true understanding from a woman. The experiences of males and females are so different that girls simply are neurologically incapable of processing your situation.
Women. Completely clueless...
TL;DR: Women are bad for empathizing with. If you have a problem, go to a male friend because he will likely understand and try to help you. Women will just compare you with their own situations, then shame you for not quietly accepting your lot in life.
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