Little piece of advice if a girl isn't interested

2comment · 2015-11-30T23:35:30+00:00

TRP advice is the net approach, not spearfishing.

Betas will fixate on the one that got away, idealize it beyond reality and at the end of the day have nothing. Alphas will select from their 2-3 catches, and if he has nothing, it's because he tossed them back because he knows he'll catch more tommorrow. He doesn't dwell on the dozens that passed through the net that week beyond learning from it to make a better net.

BaconEggsAndSleaze · 2015-11-30T22:50:14+00:00

Even a top 5% man in his prime is probably only attracting 50% of the women he wants, which means 50% will friendzone him or turn him down. The difference between him and the beta orbiters is that he recognizes it and moves on, knowing he has an abundance of women more willing to give him what he's after.

DoerOfStuffAndThings · 2015-11-30T23:14:11+00:00

I received a piece of advice years ago that I still follow today...basically it goes like this: "Not everyone is going to like you. And that's okay. Just ignore them and focus on those people that do like you."

IGoYouStayTwoAutumns · 2015-12-01T01:34:08+00:00

As it is in day trading, so it is in love: it's not about maximizing your gains, but about MINIMIZING YOUR LOSSES. As soon as you realize the stock has peaked (in this case, she's made it clear the relationship is not progressing any further), cut your losses and move on.

Of course, this isn't to say that, if she isn't throwing herself into your arms 10 seconds after she meets you, you should just "Next" her and move on... But if you've spent more than 7 to 10 hours together (15 max), AND you've made your intentions clear, AND she still hits you with "Let's just be friends"--let her go.

Life's too short to waste your time and energy on someone who doesn't want it. Save it--save it for someone who does.

BradPill · 2015-11-30T22:05:11+00:00

And how do you not get upset? ABUNDANCE. Yup.

chrisindub · 2015-12-01T02:09:04+00:00

Friendzone usually happens to guys who act too friendly.

But if you do find yourself friend-zoned, you should immediately segue into that girl functioning as a pivot to snag other girls or even hook you up with one of her friends.

That's actually the best way to save face for yourself and her.

"What is great about you not seeing me in that way, is that now you can help me hook up with your friend (insert her best friend's name) who is really cute."

MattyAnon · 2015-11-30T23:03:51+00:00

This is a tricky call... because women will always put up some resistance to sex, and "let's just be friends" can be a shit test that can be burned to the ground and the burned tatters of it so obliterated into obscurity that the girl herself can't even remember it happened. Been there, done that.

Equally... don't throw your silk purses after swine, to mix a metaphor. Once it's not happening, accept it's not happening.

Certainly never ever behave as her friend either way. She can friendzone you all she likes, doesn't mean you have to do shit for her. Never do shit for her. Never lift a god damned finger to help a woman you want to bang.

Code_Bordeauxx · 2015-11-30T23:01:31+00:00

Make sure you've made your intentions clear (best is right from the start). If she's not showing interest, it's good to remember that's still infinitely better than living in prolonged soul sucking uncertainty. If she lets you down respectfully it's not hard to let her go respectfully too; smile, thank her nonetheless and move on. If she's being a bitch about it, than that's a bullit dodged. That's really all there is to it.

1v1mebruh · 2015-12-01T01:47:54+00:00

Another thing to point out (haven't read the comments so sorry if someone else has already said this) is that keeping it cool when you're freindzoned and breaking off contact in a normal and polite way to resume working on your SMV can get you out of the friendzone later on down the road.

Example: used to be another beta, know some girls who are friends of my friends that I used to see around every once and a while but knew they weren't interested in anything sexual with me, went to the gym for 3 months, ran into one of them again, escalated at the club and started making out with her and grabbing her ass while telling her what we'd be doing later. Keep it cool and keep building that SMV guys (or just keep working on your life in general).

AND KEEP HOLDING FRAME. Holding frame over time yields results that are pleasantly unexpected, you'd be surprised.

insickness · 2015-11-30T22:10:50+00:00

This cuts both ways. If a girl you've known for a while explicitly puts you in friend zone, you should stop investing in her. However, many guys will give up in an interaction with a woman at the first sign of disinterest. And if a guy has any kind of social anxiety, he is much more likely to over-read signals of rejection from a woman. If she's not constantly smiling at him and acting like she would suck his dick at any moment, he assumes she's not interested. Women are masters at hiding their interest. What I'm saying is that sometimes you need to push the envelope with women and keep pressing the action sexually even if they act disinterested at first. This applies more to women you've just met rather than women you've known for a long time.

FieldLine · 2015-11-30T23:16:24+00:00

There's no reason to even socialize with her. At all.

You're not giving her the cold shoulder because you're pissed; she doesn't deserve your time and affection. A relationship is a transaction. She's not giving you what you want (sex), so don't bother going out of your way giving her what she wants (attention).

Obviously be sure to maintain plausible deniability if you run in the same social circles. Don't ignore her but don't go out of your way to be friendly either.

thenarrrowpath · 2015-11-30T23:31:33+00:00

Good post, very succinct way of putting it. When I see questions on askTRP its always something along the lines of "how can I get this girl?". I don't know why but its so hard to get it into new RPers head's that you have to keep moving. If they are not interested or on the fence, you have to keep moving and setting up new prospects. Its amazing how quickly you can get a girl off the fence when she realizes you've moved on to another girl while she was "deciding" (i.e. briffault's law).

imaginarypoints · 2015-12-01T04:43:00+00:00

"I want to redefine our relationship."

I get to redefine relationships, too. Goodbye.

Done. Off to other women.

Skiffbug · 2015-12-01T02:17:58+00:00

Basically, Outcome Independence.

If it happens, good, you can pursue.

If it doesn't, good, you can go on and find another to pursue.

thenemaxofredpill · 2015-12-01T18:08:35+00:00

Me to a HB8 that I used to know and be friends with: Hey. Let's get a drink sometime and catch up.

Her: OK. That sounds great but I don't want you to get the wrong impression because I'm not looking to date or anything. I'm just looking to be friends.

Me: I understand.

Her: When did you want to meet up?

Me: No thanks. Take care.

Her: Ummm OK.

Ain't nobody got time for that.

plottke · 2015-11-30T23:57:20+00:00

I don't know. Hear me out.

I have always been someone who believes that if you think hard enough about something, like a science, you can figure it out and find a better way to do things.

The "problem" is this idea of rejection, and particularly the idea of rejection from a "soul mate." These are two concepts that are really important to TRP. Rejection is generally something that we agree should be moved past quickly and with little effort due to abundance. The concept of "soul mate" is something that is more tricky.

We here at TRP tend to say that the soul mate concept is a source of falsehood. I personally tend to feel that this is a bit simplistic. I think the soul mate concept is really important to relationships and sex, especially for men who have romantic or idealistic inclinations.

There is not ONE true soul mate, but many potential soul mates. Still, meeting a potential soul mate is a rare experience. The notion of an abundance mentality generally refers to sexual partners, not life partners. I know TRP is not really interested in that idea of a deeper connection.

I want to figure out a way to open TRP up to these possibilities. It's a really tricky thing though and requires a lot more effort. I don't see anyone else doing it.

Say you meet a girl and you feel like you really, really click with her. I believe that such situations exist, where you really believe on a much deeper level that you connect with someone. For whatever reason you are both on the same wavelength and path. These things happen guys, and they are rare. It's much different from casual sex or just the average date. We're talking about something in you clicking on. A light. Something special. Or it simply feels that way. There is something more with this girl than you feel with other people. You have the desire to really put your all into it. You really are interested. Whereas, with most women you really don't feel particularly interested.

So abundance mentality here actually becomes somewhat irrelevant. Yeah, there are other girls. But you do feel there is a better potential to this particular girl. Of course, this is somewhat tenuous. Sometimes your mind is wrong. You are believing what you want to believe. You are "dreaming" of a different reality. You want her to be different, but actually she is the same as everyone else. You want to be able to be a boy, to be "yourself" and not have to play the game to get her to want you. You know how to play the cards, you know how to do everything. And part of you just wishes that you could just stop doing that and really be loved for who you are. For what you are. You want her to just see you and accept you like you see and accept her. You want to lay with her and just be together. You don't want there to be pressure. You don't want there to be lies. You don't want there to be bullshit. You just want someone to hold you. And you feel like she is the one that can do that with you because you are both similar.

Well, I consider the rare occasion where the chemistry is right that this becomes a possibility to be "soul mate" potential. This is just extremely rare.

The problem is when something goes wrong and your "soul mate mentality" is forced into rejection mode. Say she just isn't responding. She doesn't seem to like you. You're somehow doing something wrong. You're being too forward. You're not really being yourself. You're being weird, a jerk, etc.

Well, that can really cause some problems. Are you just supposed to go into your fucking "abundance mentality" and walk away without a care in the world? Or should you revise your behavior and try to understand why she isn't responding?

I mean, it's conceivable that she isn't responding because you are doing something wrong. There is this idea that any time a girl rejects us, it's just "how it is." But what if you really just did something wrong and you aren't being your best self? I think that's one way of looking at it.

However, it becomes a pretty massive chasm of misery if you spiral into a sort of feedback loop. You try to revise your behavior to "make her like you" and she only seems to back further away and become more disgusted, leading you into worse and worse states of distress and rejection.

This is the really sad and difficult part of a rejection. It's just so fucking heart wrenching. If you are poorly emotionally developed, you can start to even enjoy that sort of feeling. You're trying to hurt yourself because on some level you hate yourself. Instead, you should be prepared to take care of yourself and walk away. You don't owe her. You don't have to convince her. You have to look after yourself first, you know? You don't have to make her like you. Maybe you are soul mates on some level, but something just isn't working. You really have to know when to walk away and move on. It's one of those things in life that I'm learning how to do.

In order to walk away, you really have to love yourself and be willing to take care of your own need for connection and sex. She isn't giving it to you, she isn't giving you a chance, she doesn't care about what you're offering her. She isn't open to your heart and your love. She isn't open to your ideas. She isn't open to your creativity. She isn't open to your world. She doesn't care about you. She isn't open to your hands on her body. She isn't open to you making her orgasm. She isn't open to sucking your cock. She isn't open to you being the one who makes her cum and who holds her. She isn't open to spending time with you or talking to you. She isn't open to watching TV with you and going on dates together. She isn't open to being your friend and your lover. And these are things that you want and you need in your life.

So you have to realize that on a certain level, that's her problem. It's not really something for you to beat yourself up over or just keep wishing was different. On a fundamental level, it's her issue, not yours. She doesn't recognize what's there. And you could keep trying to figure out why, or just realize that the very fact that she doesn't get it or desire it is a sign that she's just not really clued into what you're about as much as you might have thought. She doesn't realize just how valuable you really are and what you really have to offer her. She thinks she can find better elsewhere.

The confusing thing is that maybe she can. And here is where the really Red Pill shit starts to come into play, as far as I can tell. And, seeing that it is Red Pill shit, it's also Extremely Depressing Soul Destroying shit. But maybe I can turn it into something that's actually positive and uplifting if we figure out a way together to make sense of all this.

Truth be told, women are looking for very different things from men. And that's just so fucking frustrating to think about. At the same time, it's a measure of happiness to see how much I can accept it. It's like, I could keep whining about it and wishing it was different. It gets so complicated. But in reality, it isn't all that bad. It's the faulty expectations and emotional issues that make it bad. Not the reality in and of itself.

I am going to try to work through this. You ask yourself: "Maybe if I understood her more, I could have made it work. I could have been different. Maybe I am the problem, not her." Well, maybe it just isn't right. Maybe a good relationship is something that develops naturally with very low effort. A person should never have to contort themselves in order to make a relationship work. If she doesn't seem to want it, that's just how it is. I can see that now. You really have to move on and find someone else. It's not a big deal actually.

You get addicted to the idea of something in your head, but that idea isn't a reflection of the way things actually are. Don't spend so much time thinking about things. Spend time living things. That way you don't enter into delusional ideas about women, and instead just enter into fruitful relationships that actually nourish you.

But you've built up this idealized vision of her in your mind that you think is serving you. Well, it might have in some strange way, but not for long. So you have to get rid of it and throw it out. You want to keep giving declarations of love and dreaming of that kindness and warmth that might have been there. And my tendency is to become really angry and lash out. To become pissed off and start to want to hurt her. I feel like she's being a cunt and I just want to make her feel how she is making me feel. I feel damaged and abandoned. I feel like she has completely disregarded me and that there must be something wrong with her for doing that.

That's my emotional issue, not hers. I haven't grown up or evolved past my own traumas in the past. I'm still hurting from the way I was treated as a child by my own family. And of course from past issues in relationships. I want to hate women. I want to hurt them. I want to make them cry. I want to bring them down. I want to tear them down. I want them to suffer. I have all this anger and hate in me toward women for the way I was treated in the past. Resentment. Hatred. Fury. I feel disgusted with them. I hate the way they think. I hate the way they are. I project my hatred of my own mistreatment onto every women I meet. I haven't learned to forgive my abusers and move past my own resentment and anger in order to really take care of myself and treat myself with respect. That's the only way to become truly confident.

NotUpToAnythingGood · 2015-12-01T05:58:57+00:00

An old plate ended up friend zoning me. She actually told me I needed to crawl back into the friend zone, that she didn't want old men like me.

If you guessed, yes, she is running head first into the wall. She even gave up a well-paid, successful BB too.

I told her three things... I don't live in the friendzone I was disappointed to see her be that disrespectful to me And to have a good one

She went off the deep end, threatened me with a lawyer, etc. I went radio silent. Two days later she apologized for the text saying it was meant for someone else.

I think I've said one thing to her in the last six months. She had already pissed me off with disrespectful behavior which caused her to drop from top plate to "time can be made available if I don't have anything else better to do".

Now, I wouldn't hit it even if she threw it at me. Not worth the time/effort.

Abundance mentality is such a nice thing.

bilijey · 2015-12-01T08:11:59+00:00

Little question about SMV.. is this why girls fucks celebs no matter attractive they are? because of their SMV? and is this also the reason that celeb women only fucks celeb men?

PlusGoody · 2015-12-01T01:02:44+00:00

This is why it is also important to not suggest dinner for a date idea. We aren't meal vouchers gentlemen.

The_fox_in_lion_skin · 2015-12-01T05:37:07+00:00

Law 36; DISDAIN THINGS YOU CANNOT HAVE: IGNORING THEM IS THE BEST REVENGE.

From the 48 laws of power by Robert Greene

CaptainGloom · 2015-12-01T06:19:27+00:00

Last year I asked a girl out and she turned me down, but I didn't sweat it and continued as is, talked to her in a friendly enough fashion when I needed to. And recently she's always been the one coming up to me to talk. This post rings true, don't sweat it and sometimes they do weird things

truchisoft · 2015-12-01T14:58:19+00:00

Everyone should read the Bonecrcker blog at least once. It is from 2003, this is 12 years ago, he was still in the anger phase, but everything he says is spot on.
Here is the link (http://no-maam.blogspot.ca/2003/01/the-book-of-bonecrker-table-of-contents.html)

Some solid advice:
Bonecrker #35 - You Mean NOTHING To A Woman Until You Have Sex
Bonecrker #75 - Most Women Don’t Want a Man Who Isn’t Choosy
Bonecrcker #90 – There Is No Point In Approaching Any Woman Who Doesn’t Look At You And Go “Yum”
Bonecrcker #182 – Women Want Strong Emotions But Don’t Care If Those Emotions Are Negative

TheSliceman · 2015-12-01T17:50:07+00:00

The method I have found that produces the best results (includes dread/icing, abundance mentality) even with the HIGHEST quality of woman is this:

Treat the girl like a princess. Make her like you. Get her used to your aggressive and flattering demeanor. Pursue her hardcore. Blow past all shittests. Go in for the kill.
She gives you the talk: "I like you but Im sorry I have a boyfriend. Right now we have to be friends."
"you are friendzoning me?" - let her know you see the big picture here.
"for now, yes." - I want all the benefits of having both of you at my whim.
"okay". You go cold.
Ice her hard. No more texting all day. No smiles and treating her like you will do anything to protect her precious eggs. Nothing. Reply to her texts with one word answers. This will drive her completely bonkers.
Going from being worshiped to being completely average will be too much for her. She will break.
"Okay, I know things have been weird with my situation... we need to talk."
Meet up that night and get ultra physical. This time she will let you.

Tried and true, my friends, tried and true. That hard part is, of course, maintaining frame.

longerdistance · 2015-12-01T09:23:19+00:00

Yeah, got "friendzoned" recently, at first felt a little pissed, but then I realized so what? It literally changes nothing about my situation unless I let it. Besides, she's still a cool person to be around when we happen to be in the same social setting, and some of her friends are definitely down.

HEADPOCKET · 2015-12-01T11:20:49+00:00

This is super simple but it's the best advice I've ever read on this sub, and it's probably the biggest mistake I see guys make.

Archwinger · 2015-12-01T13:18:57+00:00

The other side of abundance. It's not just about leaving her if she becomes tedious, or not caring if she leaves you. It's not giving a fuck if you never get anywhere in the first place. Because there's 3,499,999,999 more of them.

[deleted] · 2015-12-01T14:42:44+00:00

I don't usually post here, but this post strikes home 100%. I'm not typically what anybody would consider a shining example of a "red pill" guy, but I'm pretty good at figuring out when women are fucking with me. Normally, I can shake off relationships in a week or two, with one exception.

*Pathetic BP trigger warning*

Girl I was totally infatuated with had me on the hook for five years. We've never lived in the same city, so we've always kept in touch via text. Literally every day for five years I thought I could make our relationship work out somehow. We both had our flings, but nothing stuck on either end, and we always ended up talking again. Finally, I was reading up a bit on this subreddit, and I knew I had to draw a line. Went down to visit last weekend, drew a line in the sand, and she turned me down. I reacted..... poorly.... mostly because I knew I was losing a dear friend, as well as a love interest, but a week later and my head is more clear than it's been in 5 years.

*/BP *

I just wanted to thank this community for the clarity your posts can bring to even those readers like me that aren't totally dedicated to the RP lifestyle. Thank you OP, and thank you RP. Since I started reading at the beginning of this year, I've cleaned up my act a lot, lost 40 pounds, and I've got two dates this weekend.

Keep on keeping on friends.

[deleted] · 2015-12-01T17:16:35+00:00

I like the one step back, two steps forward approach. If I am not getting what I want, fuck it, what do I have to lose

mugatucrazypills · 2015-12-01T21:45:21+00:00

I feel that to this should be added the caveat:

Make sure that the friend-zone in your life for women who are not fucking you and benefiting you socially or professionally is a very narrow area about 6 inches wide and 2 feet long on the curb outside your apartment building.

No need to be rude or discourteous, but politely explain that the zone is for short term loading and unloading only and that other (potentially useful friends) are waiting to use that spot.

shadowz151 · 2015-12-02T00:13:08+00:00

Paul Janka the New York Casanova compiled a spreadsheet. His avg. was only around 10%. You could say he was in the top 5% of Alpha males in his peak. If he can only get 10% as a top tier any other male should be proud being even close. OP is dead on, if she's not into you hard next and the next one might be.

yenmeng · 2015-12-02T00:57:44+00:00

It almost seems to simple to be true.

mamind · 2015-12-02T17:36:58+00:00

When the girl I hitting on doesn´t show interest at all and she just want to be friend of mine I just move on and keep, at least, a minimum contact with her, to cut social interaction is worng IMO and Id like to explain why.

First of all, keeping in contact with her shows maturity, she, and what is maybe most important, OTHERS (you never know who and why is watching you interacting with that girl) will see you as a great person, not a nice guy, but great. When I say, keep the contact, I dont mean talk with her every day, or be funny and nice when you find her in the grocery or in a social reunion with other people, just a small talk, ask her for the family, her job, college, etc, talk 1 - 2 minutes and move on, a ONE line whatsapp greeting on her birthday (if you remember the date) will not kill you, new years eve? send her a "May this new year be good for you. Greets", if she respond with more than a "Thank you" just ignore her, you made your part, if you want to be some kind of leader one of your duties is to remember people around you sometimes, remember people =/= to ask for attention.

Whatever happens, have been friendzoned or not, in someway you added a new person in your life, you invested time on her, dont waste that efford, you dont know how that person will give you something valuable in the future.

[deleted] · 2015-12-02T22:09:00+00:00

I dunno, there's really 2 sides. Know when to plow and know when to back off. The Rake exists for a reason, and it's because women are hardwired to give false-negative signals. It sucks because you have to deal with the whole "rapey" thing and whether or not you're crossing the "stalker line." Obviously there's risk and you have to use your best judgment. I would suggest it's easier plowing with a woman you're not too emotionally entangled with because you can back out easier.

Vasallo7G · 2015-12-03T21:05:39+00:00

I was watching Shark Tank and one of the 'Sharks'(investors) said: the number one rule in sales is to focus your effort where you are seeing results

Number1ricky · 2015-12-01T01:03:52+00:00

This is the best thing I've ever read.

Luckyluke23 · 2015-12-01T02:34:13+00:00

From.peronal experience... do not be this guy. I was this guy and THEN some. For your own saity and the girls ( becuse i know someof you fuckers are lil creepers and take it to far) just leave her be.

Merica911 · 2015-12-01T02:52:59+00:00

And also add.. Don't ever FUCKING EVER spend 1 penny on her. If she ask you to hang out, she needs to pay her half. And if you have a shit ton of plates to spin, she should be the absolute last to ask to chill.

scholarly_pimp · 2015-12-01T04:15:22+00:00

Constantly be improving yourself. The biggest thing. Reminded of this today. It hurts when you get rejected or neglected, no doubt. The key is to use this pain to act as a guidance tool to navigate back towards yourself and don't ever over-invest... in anyone, except yourself!

tech-ninja · 2015-12-01T05:21:54+00:00

Simple and to the point. Thanks for this.

Alanranks7 · 2015-12-01T05:44:22+00:00

Yeah this effect tends to have a rather paradoxial effect. Ironically the more you pursue something the easier it will slip from your fingers. Id say OP got his point across fairly well but I would add how in sync this is with Oneitis, these pursuits work in tandem and will likely be a waste of precious time.

[deleted] · 2015-12-01T06:44:25+00:00

TLDR: You say "NEXT!" and move on.

If she comes crawling to YOU instead after you NEXT her,don't instantly give in. Make her beg,and give her only 1/10 of that.

Abundance mentality is KING.(This can also apply to other oppurtunites...why beg to be in that "clique"when you can get better elsewhere? Why be chained to one oppurtunity like a slave when you can be treated WAY better at another place?.)

If people call you out for "chickening out/abandoning them",then just laugh it off and tell them to get someone else.

Remember,there's billions of people here.Just as your disposable in their eyes,they themselves are disposable to you. You just need to open your eyes.

thepesterman · 2015-12-01T07:37:37+00:00

What ever you do don't allow yourself to be friend zoned, it's friend with sex or no friend at all. It's a two way Street, only once she has sucked your dick nice and hard and swallowed every drop of your man juice should you even consider rewarding her with "fun friendly activities", your time is precious use it wisely

Izzenw · 2015-12-01T09:50:19+00:00

Everyone is talking about abundance, but not how to deal with this girl if she is part of your social circle.

Should I soft next her? Or proceed being friendly towards her? What to do?

muh-soggy-knee · 2015-12-01T10:46:05+00:00

I dont think its always necessary to move on.

Sometimes there are other assets that can be derived from continuing the engagement. Hot friends, social networking, social proof, fashion advice, personal shopper services, particularly if those are weak spots in your game to begin with. A small social circle is cancer for PUA.

What is necessary, is to assess their value to your life, determine whether or not it is greater than the minimum maintenance level effort required to keep them around as a friend, and if so, quarantine any interest you had in her and friendzone her right back. Not always easy but it can be done.

Dont do masses of shit for her. Dont be going round at stupid o clock to console her when Chad has pumped and dumped her again. Do exactly for her what you would do for a male friend. Dont be a Beta, basically.

But there are definitely benefits that can be derived from maintaining a connection while also following abundance mentality. Not least the fact that if she sees you gaming and succeeding with her friends, the odds that she will un-friendzone you rise dramatically. At which point of course, you knock her the fuck back and say "Im sorry babe i just dont see you that way"

RPmatrix · 2015-12-01T13:13:17+00:00

this is good solid advice put simply.

thanks OP

dreamamok · 2015-12-01T14:42:42+00:00

well said, faceless man from Game of Thrones

blazze220 · 2015-12-01T21:58:56+00:00

thank yo so much for this .I've just got friend zone just a few days ago . it was all going well until another guy stepped into the picture . right now I feel angry and hurt as fk . but at least now I kno it's not their fault . am thr typical nice guy. I get told that a lot buy girls . the last month or so it starting to feel like an insult

spirit_of_mattvity · 2015-12-06T12:32:33+00:00

Remember that if a girl doesn't like you, just wants to be friends, generally is not sexually available to you despite the fact that she does know you, she is rejecting you.

How do you handle this rejection? Do you double down on your feelings, the feelings that she doesn't want? Feelings that she'll resent you for, feelings that she'll think of you as creepy for having? No.

Don't be social and move past her as a way to get back at her, but keep in mind that, that by doing so is the only way to combat that rejection. Coming at it head on is a waste.

Title	Little piece of advice if a girl isn't interested
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Little piece of advice if a girl isn't interested

Oneitis.

Everything I learned about dating (from nerd -> to fuckboi -> to better human being)

[FR] Man to woman and subcommunication. How did I fail ?

Living a fantasy one day, reality on another (kinda venting/rant)

Straight from the horses mouth.