106/300r/relationship_advice•Posted byu/tinyj1234566618 minutes agoOnce I [25F] hook up with someone [25-30sM], they stop trying to get to know me on any non-physical level.📷

The title pretty much says it. I've been single for about a year now, and there has been a cycle that repeats itself with every guy that I show real interest in. By the time it gets to date 4 or 5 with someone and I'm feeling like it may actually go somewhere, the next step (for me) is hooking up to see if we'd be compatible on that level too. But then every time that happens, it's like a switch is flipped. Guys will stop wanting to do things that would involve actually talking to each other, and every "date" from then on out is just watching movies, ordering takeout, and having sex. When this starts happening, I'll try suggesting things like spending a day at the beach or a park, and they will agree those things would be fun to do *one day*, but then they'll go to the beach or park with their friends, and I never get an invite. I'm starting to feel like there is something wrong with me.

TLDR; Every time I feel like I'm getting somewhere with someone, and I decide to have sex with them, they stop trying to get to know me, and it's clear that they're just here to fuck. Are these guys all secretly assholes and I am somehow completely out of touch, or is my personality just that bad?

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