Summary: Some people think negging is vocal rape. Maybe this will clear up that misconception. To clarify: Negging is simply a form of teasing/flirting.

Ah, the neg. Negs are one of the most infamous, misunderstood, but effective, parts of the game. They’re also, unfortunately, why the Red Pill and seduction community have a reputation for being full of manipulative douchebags: guys going around insulting women and lowering their self-esteem, hoping it’ll get them to drop their panties faster than she’d drop a heavy bowling ball.

Detractors like to take the word “neg”, and imagine it as the worst possible thing to expose a woman to. Negging gets so much shit, it might as well be the vocal equivalent to rape itself. When the plugged in community think neg, they imagine something so terribly out of place with how a neg would actually be used in the real world by smart, charming men, it’s laughable. This is what they see, in their minds:

ATTRACTIVE MAN NECKBEARD-DOUCHEBRO HYBRID: Hey, bitch! Your shoes suck! Wanna fuck?

As hyperbolic as that is, this kind of image rings true for the blue pill minded, plugged in folk of modern society. That a neg is simply this cringe worthy, insulting comment with no depth; no meaning. Simply negative, and something that of course wouldn’t work to get any guy laid unless the woman had no standards.

But the truth is, a neg is none of those things. This conception relies on a misunderstanding of what a neg is. A neg isn’t an insult. A neg, rather, is merely the kind of comment that someone who was interested in her wouldn’t make, based on the ever so rampant, women are wonderful effect.

For example, take the classic, “Nice nails, are they real?” A typical Beta/AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) would never do this. He would be so afraid of offending her (and thus losing his chance to sleep with her) that he would only offer the vague compliment. Same with, “Those are great boots! You’re the third girl I’ve seen wearing them tonight!”

Guys screw up by delivering those classic negs as zingers, but a neg doesn’t work if it feels like you’re trying to stroke your ego by one upping her. Instead, “are they real?” is delivered as if you genuinely like her nails, and the boot compliment is delivered in the vein of appreciating how fashionable the girl is. The secret is honesty.

Negs don’t even have to be “negative” – what they’re really doing is negating your own interest. For example, another classic: “You and I would not get along, we’re too alike!” You’re not saying anything bad about her – merely that you’re not interested in dating her.

Another possibility along these lines is, “I wish you were brunette. I’m taking a break from blondes for a while.” There is no conceivable way in which this is an insult, but it does the job of demonstrating your lack of interest. These are “disqualifiers” sure, but they are also negs.

The purpose of your neg is to break the frame of you being just another guy who’s hitting on her, to get around her bitch shield. You are demonstrating that you have not put her on a pedestal just because she’s an attractive woman.

This is very important: Even negs like these should be reserved for “9s and 10s” – highly attractive women. Model-looking women are constantly besieged with unwanted attention from men, and thus have strong bitch shields.

The reality is that most other women – even most other very attractive women – are constantly being made to feel inadequate about their appearance. Not only, therefore, are these women not standing on pedestals which they need to be knocked off of before you can talk to them, but in fact most of the time they’ll respond much more positively towards the flattery inherent in your attention. It’s nice to be the subject of attention from an attractive member of the opposite sex – don’t make things more complicated than they need to be.

I hope this clears up the misconception about negs once and for all. Send this to the next SJW who claims TRP teaches men to be ultra assholes. Clearly, that’s not what we’re about. Merry fucking Christmas assholes. Drink some egg neg.

The Lesson: Negging 101

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