"Betas like to be babysat. They love personalized attention and they fear rapid progress."

I discovered TRP about a year and a half ago - it took me six months to get a gym membership, and only recently did I manage to squat 225 for 3 sets of 5 with shitty form. It's not even impressive, and it took me almost a year.

I've harassed the hell out of most of the Senior Endorsed/RP Vanguards, to the point that both Archwinger and GLO literally stopped answering me, justified considering they had taken the time to respond numerous times and I just wasn't getting the message because of my ego.

The crux of the issue - my whole life I thought I was special. I thought I was smarter and better than most people, that I needed special attention.

Most of the messages I sent were along the lines of "I'm a special snowflake and I'm super smart, here are my credentials, help me, give me some personalized advice." The reason why this was a shitty thing to do is because there is plenty of advice in the thousands of archived posts. To their credit, every single one of the people I messaged did offer me advice, and most of it was pretty good. But it was all redundant advice, all things that have been said before.

My point is not that you shouldn't reach out to ask for advice - by all means, it's encouraged. But before you hit the post button in askTRP you need to be honest with yourself about whether you really need advice, or if you're just looking for a pussy plan because you don't want to put in the work.

About a month ago I asked GLO about starting my first cycle - his response (not in these words) was essentially "why the fuck are you going to take steroids when you don't even feed yourself properly. You don't gain weight. You can't even commit to a lifting plan and stick to it for eight weeks. Stop trying to cheat, you aren't smarter or better than decades of bodybuilding research. We know what works, you just aren't listening."

Being a social dynamo with your shit together, making good money, feeding yourself properly, having masculine hobbies, holding frame - none of it is easy. When you tear the skin of your palm because it's your first time deadlifting and it hurts like hell, you can either throw some tape on it and finish your sets, or you can be like most people and leave the gym early, run the pharmacy to get the lotion that smells the nicest and take a week off lifting to preserve your soft baby hands.

What no one in TRP really likes to upvote is that becoming great is hard. It sucks. It's a grind. We talk about being a top 20% man, but it's lost its meaning. Think about what that means - in a room with 100 people, you are objectively better than 80 of them. Sitting on your ass and reading an online forum isn't going to do that for you.

The solution isn't to find a motivational video or the best workout playlist, it's about developing the discipline to do what you have to do, regardless of your current state of mind. Even when you don't feel like cooking a healthy dinner after a hard workout, you do it because it has to get done, ordering a pizza won't give your body the nutrients it needs to recover. If you've been on TRP for a month then you pretty much get what it's all about, reading more of the posts here to get motivated isn't going to tell you anything you don't know. It'll just make you feel like you're progressing while you're the same little bitch that you always were. I know because I've been doing it for almost a year.

Ultimately there is nothing anyone can say to you that will magically make you not a bitch.