Wife and I have been married for 5 years. I think we have a good relationship and a great sex life. I think she thought the same. However, following a 5-day yoga retreat with a few of her work friends while I was at a conference late last year her opinion seems to have soured.
Apparently "Fernando and Sarah" have everything we have, and more, because... they're swingers! When he has sex with another woman he uses it as a learning experience to take home to his doting wife (who also bones around) and they have even more mind-blowing drug-fuelled experiences with each other while the kids are staying with grandma... or atleast that's what I'm getting from it.
So I told her flatly that I don't want to have sex with anyone else and am happy with her; and she quickly states the feeling is mutual. Case closed I thought, but then she comes back with more reasons the next week "it gives independece and freedom to the relationship."
I'm thinking maybe this is a bit of a mid-life crisis thing and made it clear I'm just not really into banging other people because it feels too much like cheating, but she's insistent! She keeps going on and on about her work friend Fernando talking about how mindblowing the experience has been for him and how we really need to try it.
SO at this point I'm thinking: are you wanting to cheat on me? She's entirely focussed on me going out and having sex with someone else, but I'm sitting here thinking "what's in it for her?" It's concerning.
Straw that broke the camel's back is today she came home with a picture of "Fernando's Sarah" and a hint that she's down to hook up with me at their place... I'm like... lost for words right now. How do I make it clear I don't want to ahve sex with someone else and I believe in monogamous relationships.
We have 2 kids.
[–][deleted] 49 points50 points51 points (2 children) | Copy Link
Get married, they said. You'll have a loving, doting, faithful wife, they said.
What you're actually doing is financing the carousel ride.
[–]NickTesla201814 points15 points16 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Don't forget litter of rugrats.
[–]Kornstar046 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
That aren't yours.
[–]RunawayGrain33 points34 points35 points (1 child) | Copy Link
She's already boned Fernando and Sarah, and wants justification for it.
[–]StrawhatMucci8 points9 points10 points (0 children) | Copy Link
I am sure this is the case 100% hahahahaha 😂 why else would a woman of all people encourage the guy to go fuck other women lmao
[–]CiceroVoltaire22 points23 points24 points (2 children) | Copy Link
I think she's going to play with Fernando and Sarah, likely already has at least once.
She's escalating her shit test on this. Dude has two choices, lay down the law / line in the sand, it's not happening. If she does it, divorce her. Or, indulge her, fuck Sarah, foursome. If it's a mindfuck for him, tell the wife, "I did this for you because you wanted it against my better judgement and wishes; I don't see you the same way..." then divorce her.
She's going to do it with or without his permission and agreement; he needs to prepare for his future divorced from her.
[–]magicmikefx8 points9 points10 points (0 children) | Copy Link
That's what I told them on the sub. I told him to prepare for the divorce and also prepare for her leaking the truth to him. The truth is she did it or will eventually. She's lost attractions to him and is after the new and exciting things. It's over
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That's the thing about women, they truly have a mind or lack thereof, their own. They won't listen to anyone out of their own pride, hivemind validation, and self-indulgent behaviors.
[–]sneroreinp9 points10 points11 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Let me just copy paste my own answer:
"She's already had a different caak, bro. Move on while it's still not too late. Even if she hasn't cheated she will as she's definitely quite interested in the idea. She's sweet-talking you because she wants to get hers (hopefully she already hasn't). Worse comes to worst just invite 20 hookers in your home and watch her jaw drop when she sees the whole ordeal. Yell "SEXUAL FREEDOM BABY" in her face when you see her and after that piss on her to show dominance. For the grand finale finish her with a good old falcon punch to the face! If you want to deal even more damage perform a Chuck Norris high kick to get her to high heaven and back! Caveman style ownage, motherfucker!"
Sounds like a pretty accurate way to deal with the situation! Say it ain't so, fellas! :D
[–]HesperianDragon3 points4 points5 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Don't forget Jodie.
[–]StrawhatMucci1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Ah yes good ol' Jodie lmao
[–]KountDoku2 points3 points4 points (1 child) | Copy Link
What about Tito?
[–]NickTesla20180 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Tito !!
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Reading that story made me so happy I'm single. I hate the constant worrying of a wife that goes to parties or work related things. Women love to fuck around, this should be engraved in every young men's brain.
[–]DLR-Adapting2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
She's already had a threesome. Probably on acid.
Lol I hope this meme catches on, fucking Fernando lol.
[–]NickTesla20181 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
El Jefe !
[–]TonyMGTOW1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Fuckin skanks i tell ya
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe fernando will post here
[–]YucanSukmeov1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
He's fucked her already, and they're probably still fucking. Whether the other wife is involved, who knows. She just doesn't want to feel guilty about it.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Time to call HR on Fernando. People should be working at work, not talking about sex.
[–]StrawhatMucci3 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Fernando already fucked the HR too 😂
[–]SpecialistParticular1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude thinks 29 is middle-aged. He's hopeless.
[–]gevalher1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Now you MUST have a paternity test on your kids...
[–]lonewolfsigmamgtow0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Jose
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
What do you mean "has just joined"? Fernando has been there since foreverdom!