Summary: Douchebags get to fuck the girl. Nice guys get to pay for her dinner.
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We've all heard the conventional wisdom from our bluepilled brethren. Don't play games, that's childish. Always mean what you say to women. Don't lie to women. Just be yourself.
Well, let's take a stroll over to the OKCuckolds subreddit to see what women actually respond to. Hint: it's not the enthusiastic nice guy who's always punctual and eager. It's the asshole.
I've hit it off with a great guy (let's call him "A") recently. I find him attractive, he seems to find me attractive, he asks me out and always follows through with the date, he eagerly agrees to dates that I suggest, he initiates text conversations with me, and we get along really well.
Then there's this other guy (let's call him "B"). I wouldn't say I have better physical or conversational chemistry with him than with A. The main difference is that whereas A is clearly interested in me, B is not so much.
To give you some examples: B rarely initiates plans with me. When I ask him out on dates, he usually says something like "maybe" and then leaves me hanging until the day before. Even when he's said yes to dates, he has a tendency to cancel without offering to reschedule. He's openly told me about other girls he's seeing.
Despite all this, I find myself pursuing B more than A. I'll drop plans I've already made for B, which I wouldn't do for A. When B cancels on me, it's so much more deflating than if A were to do that (because I know A would reschedule promptly).
Has anyone else struggled with this unhealthy dating mentality? How have you overcome it? Logically, I know that I want a relationship with someone who pursues me as much as I pursue him.
Poor OP. I have to say, it must be hard for a woman to be self-aware about her nature and yet a slave to it. Society tells her that women are empowered and independent now, that nice guys are the real winners. And certainly Nerdy Ned up there is the nicest of nice guys. Always excitedly says yes to every date. Replies to her calls within minutes. Probably pays for dinner.
But... her heart yearns for Chad, who won't even so much as acknowledge her text message. Guess who's getting anal later tonight and who's not.
TL;DR: Women respond to stoic men who are distant and aloof. It intrigues women, makes them feel like the man has better social status. The nice guy, on the other hand, constantly orbits a girl with love and kindness and will never - ever - get nearly the same desire and affection from her.