Before reading this one I recommend you to read Confidence is your prime part 1, which you can find in my old post if you look at my profile.

This is the second part of the series Confidence is your prime, that I started a month ago. In this part we will be focusing more on the external factors and actions, you do everyday, that play a key role in making people categorize you(especially girls) as a confident Alpha Male or a Total Beta Bux Loser.

Introduction:

Now, before I start, I know some guys here will start criticizing this post by saying “Real Alphas dont really care what other people think about them” , which is not entirely true, sure that their IDGAF attitude is what drives them to take risky actions; to get what they want, not being afraid of talking shit, being violent(when the needs arise or someone is challenging their turf). However most people are misinterpreting the meaning of the “IDGAF attitude”, the truth is they do care a lot. If they didnt they wouldnt be doing all those behaviours at all, to keep their manly persona of the Super Alpha Chad Bad boy, who drives fast cars, has tattoos, has abs, is a ladykiller, maybe has a reputation of being a jerk to his gfs, maybe has the reputation of getting into fights, maybe is a CEO of a Big Corporation, maybe a biker, maybe a boxer, maybe a cop, maybe a soldier, maybe the leader of the football team in college/high school, maybe a musician, maybe an artist, maybe a doctor, maybe a lawyer and several other roles. The truth is they do care because they don't want to look like losers in life, who didn't achieve anything, they don't want to be picked or made fun of,they want to be respected and feared in their region, that's why they care so much about keeping this reputation in the mind of people around them.

Can you see the pattern in this? All of them were taking authority like roles or roles that allowed them to be seen as someone who, “shines in a crowd”, know what they are doing and has control and freedom to do whatever they want in their lives. Sure, taking those roles are helpful in making you look more alpha, but remember you don't have to take one of those roles at all. All you have to do is show that you are a The Rockstar in whatever you like to do, whether it is being the mailman, trashman, Computer Programmer, Journalist, Total Nerd Twitch Streamer, ballet dancer(YES EVEN THAT), Professor, Preacher, Coacher, whatever it is When you do it you need to exhibit confidence in doing it. When you do something half assed people can sense it. They know the smell of a “lazy bum” or a loser in life. After all you don't want to pass the image, that even you think your life sucks,do you? Because when you tell everyone you hate your job or life, that's the perception they are getting out of it. Now think for a second... if not even you respect yourself, who is going to respect you anyways? That's what I though!

Sure having several tattoos, having abs, driving a big truck/fast car, being an entrepreneur, being a biker or being a famous artist or whatever other authority/important role, helps to set the appearance of you as an Alpha Male. But the truth is being an Alpha is all about setting boundaries and limits in your daily relationships and not letting people in your life step on you, push you around or make fun of you. If you are challenged, whether it is for a verbal fight or a physical fight, you need to act quickly and show them who is the boss, even when trying to solve it in a civilized manner is not an option anymore! In the end you will be more respected by showing you are not a coward and won't back down, when you are challenged; whatever kind of challenge it is, whether it is a man or a woman challenging you! Remember to keep your frame in all circumstances.

“Stop being a Drama Queen and start working to change the things you can ”

If you really hate yourself and can't help it. Work hard for changing your current situation. Start lifting, develop new skills that will help you in getting better jobs, friends and increasing your SMV and Wealth. The most important thing you have to do now is to stop complaining about how some people have a headstart in life. Complaining won't help it will just be wasted energy that you could be using to improve yourself.

“But What about the things I can't change, such as my height, race, genetics and which background I come from? How can I be confident if this always comes back haunting my mind?”

It's true we can't do nothing to change the fact that we weren't born in the Rockefeller family or that you were born in a third world country or poor in America.

You can't change fact that you might have been born with genetics more predisposed to get fat.

You can't change fact that you might have been born White, Hispanic, Black, Arabian or as an Ashkenazi Jew.

You can't change the fact that everything you were taught about the world might have been bias.

You can't change the fact that you might have been raised by a single mother.

You can't change the fact that you might have been raised by a single father.

You can't change the fact that you might have been raised by abusive parents.

You can't change the fact that you might have been raised by beta overly protective parents.

You can't change the fact that you might have been raised in an Unstable Family.

You can't change the fact that you might have been raised by other people instead of your parents.

You can't change the fact that you might never get to know who were your true biological parents.

You can't change the fact that you might have been born as a refugee from a third world country.

You can't change the fact that you might have been adopted.

You can't change the fact that you might have grown up in an Orphanage.

You can't change the fact that your parents might have died before you got to know them.

You can't change the fact that your parents might not like and prefer your brother or sister.

You can't change the fact that you might have a Personality Disorder such as Aspergers, ADHD, Bipolar or Borderline.

You can't change the fact that you might have been born with a rare disease.

I could go all day with the ”You cant change the fact [insert sad story here]”, but I think your guys already got my point. Stop being cry babies! We all have our sad stories here. Nobody is born with all advantages. Even the rich kid who was lucky to be born in the Rockefeller family might have his own insecurities and disadvantages to deal with. For example his parents might prefer his older brother over him or he might have a very bad personality disorder which will decrease his SMV and chances of succeeding in life. It's true that some races and backgrounds have a overall headstart in life and in the dating market in general. It's true that we live in a prejudicial world in which people judge who you based on your race, background, appearance and status. It's true that some chick you wanted to bang or date might prefer to bang or date someone else because of their race, background, height, muscles, nationality and wealth status. It's true that a chick you like might prefer to date or bang someone from her race, country, religion, social circle or background.

We can't help the fact that everyone has their own prejudices and preferences when choosing people to work with, be friends with or date.I myself have a thing for Anglo-Saxon/Nordic Women, especially the blondes and Redheads. Even you has your own preferences, when choosing a chick to bang, you might have a crush/preference for chicks from a certain country, race, social status, type of body, height, color of her eyes/hair, type of personality and overall type of appearance. That's how the world works. Everyone has their personal preferences. All you can do is work to change the things that are in your control such as wealth, skills, personality, weight and etc. And with that prove they were wrong about the stereotypes they have about your race, religion, country or background. Be your best everyday. That still might not guarantee that you will be able to bang or date all the chicks you wanted, but that is part of life. Accepting you can't get everything you want. The earlier you accept in life that you will fail a lot in your career, relationships and romance life the better and more down-to-earth you will be. That is what real men do they accept they won't succeed all the time. Failure is just part of life, only those that aren't afraid of failing will be successful in life.

Learn how to deal with it and learn to be proud of your background, race and story. After all you might not have been the strong person that you are today if your story was different. Life made you this way.

“Boys and Teenagers are the best example of a Natural Confident Alpha shining confidence in everything they do”

Do you remember when you were a kid? That time when you hated girls and didn't give a care about what other people think about what you did? That time when you didn't give a care which background or race you or other people came from? That time when you treated girls the same way that you treat your bros? That time when you didn't care or knew about world issues, money, stereotypes or how other people judged you? That time you treated everyone the same way no matter what gender, color or background they were? That time you didn't care about impressing anyone? That time when you didn't even knew what taxes and government were? That time you didn't worried about which college you were going to? That time you didn't worried about being able to afford tuition? That time you didn't worried about fitting in?

All you cared about was having as much FUN as possible with your toys and bros you worried about nothing. Nothing could stop. You felt that the world was your personal sandbox in which you were entitled to have as much fun as possible playing with it. But somewhere along the line you changed society brainwashed you... You started believing in the crap defeated older adults told you! You started believing that you aren't supposed to have fun all the time! You started believing you couldn't be yourself?!

Now look at you. You became this lame adult who hates his job and life, who is always stressed about trying to succeed and money. You think you are too mature to have fun or enjoy life anymore! Look how pathetic you´ve become compared to the younger version of you! There is a part in the Book of Pook that I always felt enlightened when I reread it.

“Charm is treating women like little girls.”

“This is the most sexist thing I have ever heard!”

“You doubtful youth! You are a beanstalk cynic, a crusty philosopher.” “How can you argue so rudely against me?”

“Look. When we were young, we all desired to grow up. Now, once grown up, we >desire to be young again! Being poor, you trade your time and health for money, only to use that money for time and health. We have all passed through the world of a child.”

“Are you saying that I ought to be child-like?”

“Yes! Young kids, lacking the chemical madness curse that puberty brings us,

are at PERFECT EASE and treat the sexes appropriately. No young boys will say,

‘Whatever you want to do.’ Young boys RUN AROUND, they do not sit and TALK to the girl all night. Young boys have their cars, their trucks, their dangers and excitements. Now, compare the young boys’ actions to those who are REALLY >successful with women.”

The youth was alarmed. “They are identical! I always thought women were IMMATURE for going after these so-called jerks, bad boys, and jocks. I see that >in some ways they are immature, but they kept that joy of youth with them >whereas I had killed it.”

“Youth, what do you do on a date?”

“Why, I speak to her about philosophy, about literature, about the designs on the >universe, about DNA, about world events, about...”

“Stop! I can take no more! Come and drink from this Fountain of Youth.”

The youth did so. All those paper bullets of the brain ceased. “Now all I want to >do is do things and not talk. I want to run around. I want to have FUN!”

“And women go CRAZY over these types of guys. Some people are so scared of >growing older that they become extremely aged in their youthful flesh. Now you >will be the envy of every philosopher, scholar, thinker, and deep analyzer. You >will be in the world they have no access to. Nothing has changed. The attitude >you had towards girls when you were in the sandbox is EXACTLY the attitude >you need now. So think young and LIVE.” -The Book of Pook

As Pook said in his book this is the way man were always intended to be. Everyone was a natural alpha once in their lives. However most of them lost that youth brightness in them when they started believing in everything adults said they had to do or weren't allowed to do. You submitted to society values and ideologies, this way they were able to shatter all the happiness and joy you used to have in living life and having as much fun that you could. They destroyed your inner-ego and the creativity, which you used to have fun with the small things in life. But there is still hope. After all this is why you came to this forum in the first place.

“Use Social Media as a Weapon to Advertise yourself in the same way you would advertise a product you were selling”

I still remember when I was living in Brazil, I´m originally from there. Back then there was an article who made big time in all the Mainstream media in the Country about a Brazilian Native American, around Amazon, who was trying to protect his Indian Reservation from Brazilian Industrialists and Capitalists. He said his most powerful weapon was Social Media in his fight. He considered the internet way more powerful than any archaic bow or sword his tribe ever had.

He uses the internet to get attention and social shame businessmen and capitalists who constructs factories and businesses in former Indian Reserves. This way he is able to get help from the media, college students,social justice warriors and overall left-wing people. That Indian guy is considered a big celebrity here for the Intellectuals Marxists that Rule The Brazilian Academic Elite, for brainwashing young college students and the low classes into believing in socialist ideals, equality and that Capitalism is somehow supposed to be bad for the country.░░░░

Now I don't agree in any of his viewpoints, since I´m very right-wing myself(I´m a big fan of Ayn Rand) and I think he is impacting the chances of economic growth of my original Country. But I have to admit he is a genius(He is natural Politician lol). He was born in a very poor underdeveloped region of Brazil, in which there is not a lot of big cities near and people insist indoing things the “old ways”. However he was still able to see the power of the social media and the internet to give him a voice/influence and advertise his cause to the world. Some of us who were raised in the big cities with the internet and social media never were able to see how powerful social media is for advertising and branding ourselves in our social circles.

Now I know someone is gonna soon post here “This is all a bunch of Beta crap, from Blue Pillers faking to be Alphas, I can bang chicks 24/7 without using any social media! Social Media is for ladies and blue pill betas”. Sure you can I´m not saying that everyone has to use it or you can only get chicks by using it. But you can't deny the power it can give you. Stop being archaic or old school and learn to adapt with the advantages of your century. Learn to see yourself and your life as if it was a business, you were running. If you don't adapt and follow certain trends of your time your life will go “bankrupt” just like a business who don't improve their product or service when their sales start failing.

Who cant remember back when IBM was considered the real king of technological innovation in the 80s and before? But what happened to them? They might still be around, however now they live in the shadow of the ones who continued to innovate such as Microsoft, Apple and Google. So the point I'm trying to make is don't be narrow minded and learn to use Social Media in your favor. You dont have to post something everyday. But try to post something cool you are doing sometimes by yourself, with your family or friends. I myself like to post some activities I do like when I crossfit, go hiking, go bowling, go camping or go somewhere different or important. This way people start feeling they are more connected to you and feeling that you are less of a strange and more of a person they know. This is a strategy politicians and celebrities do all the time to make them look more “human” to get more connected to their fans or supporters. Now don't overly exaggerate by trying to make you look like you are something you are not in social media or this strategy will backfire. Go slow and dont post all the time.

“Just like a mirror, that reflects the light of the sun whenever it touches it, you are supposed to reflect your confidence to others by showing you are the rockstar in your world and in the things you enjoy doing!”

I think all of this can apply to other parts of our lives whether are jobs, personality, friendships, plates, gfs and knowledge. We have to adapt, just like in nature in which the species that are not able to adapt to the circumstances go extinct, while the ones that do adapt prevail, the same rule applies to people, corporations, countries and empires we all have to learn to adapt whenever the needs arise. We can't expect to stay our old selves forever and be successful for the rest of our lives.

Conclusion

Accept who you are, try to adapt with times and change what you can about yourself. Don't live in the past and try to become a well rounded person.

Also I would like to finish this post by telling that the best way to start bringing change in your life is lifting! Become a Gym Rat! When you lift you increase your testosterone levels which can give you lots of benefits. I´m a hispanic white male who goes to the gym 5-6 times per week. When I started this routine 3 years ago I was a total bluepill loser. However the will to make myself muscular and strong was translated in other parts of my life. I´d like to finish this post by quoting What TheFamilyAlpha commented in the first part of this series:

This is why Lifting is step #1 towards reclaiming your masculinity. All men should have this limitless irrational sense of self-confidence. That only comes >from testing yourself and knowing exactly what your body & mind are capable of.- >TheFamilyAlpha

Thats all folks the next part of the series Confidence is your prime will be posted whenever I feel inspired and get more life experience that I can share with your guys.

*Keypoints in this post:

  • Be the rockstar in whatever you do
  • Be confident whether you are a blue or white collar worker
  • Make your life look awesome not matter how much it sucks(“Fake it till you make it”)
  • Social Media is your most powerful Weapon, use social media to advertise the awesomeness in your life the same way would advertise a product you were selling, remember you are the product. The contacts, jobs, chicks and influence you get in your local community are the “profit” you get, when you are “selling” yourself.
  • Like a Business learn to adapt with the current trends and innovation while still maintaining your original identity and personality

Some Books I consider extremely redpill and important if you want to be a winner in life:

  • The FountainHead- Ayn Rand
  • Atlas Shrugged- Ayn Rand
  • How to Win Friends and Influence People - Dale Carnegie
  • I Dare You! - William H. Danforth