Edited and reposted to remove identifying details, the people who should read this will know. Not breaking any rules so it should stay now.
I’m not here to judge anyone but those related to my life, if you’re not the intended recipient of this post, feel free to read, ignore, comment, hate, love, I don’t really care.
This message is to my wife, and her boss, the man she has been cheating with for the last 6 months-I know you both read/post here. My dear wife, if you have been wondering why I’ve been distant the last few months, you know now.
It’s almost comical how I found out. the moment I happened to be walking through the kitchen, (and told you I loved you across the counter, like I always do) you smiled and told me you loved me back, glued to your phone. But what you didn’t realize is the mirrored reflection on your glasses gave up your secret- hearts and emojis- I couldn’t read, or see what or who you were texting, but I saw just enough to get suspicious.
You probably also didn’t know that even though I’ve historically never gone through your phone, (why would I, I trusted the woman I married, who I’d have died for, right? ) that I’ve known your iPhone password for years, since you asked me to fix a setting for you- remember you wanted to change your keyboard layout?
So I admit, and I’m not proud of it, but my suspicion got the best of me- and I snooped through your phone while you were asleep- almost three months ago to this day. And not like you care, but what I found utterly destroyed me. You and J, huh? The business trips probably made it all too easy, and I guess boss/subordinate affairs happen all the time. I figured out how It was easy for you two, I mean I’ve never been a untrusting husband, I’ve never doubted your loyalty to us.
Here’s why I couldn’t figure out though-
1) we have had a great marriage. I’ve never hurt you, neglected you, betrayed you, or let you down. I provide for us, I give you attention, I celebrate the little details about you that I loved so much. We have and had plenty of sex, lovemaking and downright fucking dirty, we bond, I take you on vacations just to be romantic, all while doing what I can to provide a solid life for us and our future children. If you were unhappy, you never said a peep, nor did you damn sure ever show it. So why’d you do it? I’ve been trying to figure it all out, and I’ve come to the conclusion that it was never really about me. Actually, I’m certain it wasn’t- because I know I’m a good husband in every sense of the vows I took to you. Remember that time your friend drunkenly told you how much she wished she could have a man like me? I sure do . I’m Not perfect, but no one is. And I didn’t deserve to have my heart torn out of my chest like this. If you wanted to leave I would have let you go. But reality is, you didn’t want to leave, you still don’t.You just wanted me, and the thrill of attention on the side.
And why did you have to badmouth Mrs. J and I? I read your texts. I’ve seen the emails. You two have justified what you doing by alleviating your own guilt- I know you two feel it- because every time you said something like “should we be doing this” or “we need to stop” , you two would go on and rant about how we were bad spouses... funny though, almost everything you said isn’t real- but I guess you need to do that to not feel horrible about being horrible. Oh and J, more on you shortly- but your wife went through menopause, and just survived breast cancer- your complaint was that she’s tired all the time... let that sink in. Youre human filth.
Here’s the good news though- you two can have each other. Because I don’t want you anymore. I’ve done some soul searching honey, and I’ve realized at 31, I’ve got all the chips stacked in my favor. In the end you’re going to be replaced by a better woman deserving of a man like me (shouldn’t be hard, most women are better people than you) I’m not going to yell and scream at you when you get home and read this, I’m not going to fight with you or call you names, and I know you will breakdown and come begging for another chance. I know you will tell me it meant nothing etc etc. see, honey, I know you- better than anyone. Your not deprived, lonely, abused, or neglected. You’re just fucking selfish and playing a stupid game at the expense of my heart and my pride. At the expense of my humiliation. Well congrats-here’s your stupid prize. I’ve filed for divorce. You should read the agreement when you get home, it’s on the same counter I first caught you at. I won’t be there. You’ll find it fair, but you’ll note that I’m keeping what’s mine, and what belongs to my family- it’s in a trust anyway, that’s what the prenup was for.
I won’t go into to much detail, but we both know why I highly suggest you don’t fight me on it- besides, it’s more than you deserve, and J can take over supporting you as your new man, right? I mean you gave him your body and soul, so it’s his responsibility as far I see it..I don’t tolerate low rent, low class people mooching off me.
Maybe you can sit and figure out where it all went wrong. Maybe do some soul searching and become a better person, I really hope for your sake you do. I’ll try and figure out why I didn’t see your duplicity before- and how I can avoid women like you in the future. We can both grow. I’m over hating you for what you did, and your wonton disrespect for me as a man- but don’t come groveling back. Don’t try to guilt me. Don’t beg and plead, because I know you will. That’s your selfish weakness talking, and I simply have nothing left to give you. But I do wish you and J well.
Speaking of- J, I bet you thought you escaped this but here’s yours: you cheated on a woman who gave you three kids, was a good and loyal woman, and survived cancer. You couldn’t keep it in your pants while your wife underwent chemo? Like that was really it man? You’re a pathetic man- equally pathetic to my insecure wife, probably worse. I’d tell you to kill yourself, but frankly when your whole family finds out your wife is divorcing you, taking half your assets, and why, you may do it anyway.
My wife was stupid and selfish, you can keep her, if you want her. My guess is you will probably drop her as soon as this bomb goes off and desperately try to save your family and your retirement account. But here’s the thing- for the last 3 months, I’ve been busy. Your wife is stronger than you think. Bet you’ve noticed something is up with her too, not just being tired from regaining her strength. it crushed me to have to break the news about you and my wife to her- but she’s grateful I did- she told me she always knew you were weak- and that this is the third time you cheated. She’s done buddy, she’s divorcing you. You threw a quarter century, and half your assets down the drain man. Although, I’ll admit- as a 47 year old, my 29 year old wife is a catch in the looks department- too bad her personality and integrity don’t match- like I said, enjoy her if you want.
Oh, and the part I’ve been been waiting for- I’ll admit I relish in this- how’s your daughter, the one getting her MBA in the city?
once I resigned myself to the fact that my wife was dead to me, I figured I needed to start getting back out there. Can you believe I actually felt guilty about moving on from a wife who has been cheating on me? It’s funny how life works, but anyways- long story short, I starting using dating apps- and guess who I matched with.
It was extremely weird at first, and I contemplated not meeting up with her, I didn’t want to start anything on false pretenses, or hurt her. But I did. And we had dinner- I almost kept it all to myself, and planned on never seeing her again, but I couldn’t do it. I told her everything, and told her I don’t blame her if she never wanted to hear from me again. Granted she was shocked, but would you believe she hates you almost as much as I do? Yeah pal- she’s known about your cheating for years. Why do you think she barely calls you on your Bday.
So, J- this is just for you. I’ve been seeing your daughter for the last 6weeks. I had more graphic things written to cut your soul, things we have done, but I realized that even with her blessing, she doesn’t deserve to be dragged into this. I think she wants to hurt you more than I do (you must have been a shitty parent as well as a shitty husband, huh?) If you don’t believe me, I have specific details about her body that only a lover would know- feel free to ask. Oh, and we like each other a lot- maybe we are both spiting you, maybe not... but just figured this was a great way to tell you. We have no intentions of stopping seeing each other. Maybe I’ll come over for thanksgiving this year!
Or better yet, maybe I’ll invite your wife, and daughters to my place instead- treat them how they deserve to be treated, like a wonderful girlfriend and her loving mother.something you could never do.
To my wife, I wish you well in the future. I’m sorry we didn’t work out, we can sort out logistics about the divorce when you’re ready. Perhaps you should retain a lawyer soon. Our marriage lays dead where you killed it.
To J, you reap what you sow. If you have anything you would like to say to me, give me a call- my soon to be ex-wife can give you my phone number next time you guys grab a hotel room.
ETA- a poster here was right, dragging in personal intimate details about someone I care for was wrong, so I removed it.
Update: it’s been a long day. I highly doubt my wife and her friend will be saying anything here. Over 30 calls, and 11 voicemails, I know you’re reading this honey, is that right? Countless texts, apologizing and begging over and over. I’ve only listened to one of your messages. Crying isn’t going to help you, and I can’t understand you through the sobs.
J- had a good night? Probably not. I see you called me too. I’m not sure I need to listen to what you have to say, it’s irrelevant. But a 1:37 minute voicemail, it’s probably a lot. You should probably talk to your wife, at this point it’s best you hear what you need to hear from her.
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