TLDR at end.
When you put women on a pedestal you're basically saying "you're better than me". So she says, due to her hypergamic nature, "ok then, bye, I'm going to find someone who's better than me". Case closed.
To address this, "game" shows us to do the opposite, to neg her and such, to show "you aren't better than me" by pushing down on her. Which theoretically should make you a viable mate. This may work superficially in the short term, but it is castles built on sand if you don't have a strong self worth and character behind it. Genuinely building yourself up is the long term solution and infinitely better than pushing down. Having her reach for you is value embodied, and you do that by increasing your value to her.
To address this dynamic long term, (and red pill teaches this), you need to develop yourself to know that she isn't better than you, i.e. believe in your own worth. This is through working out, learning things, meditating, lifestyle improvement, and doing whatever you need to feel good about yourself. When you do this for a while, you deeply get a sense of your own self worth and set your own "foundations" of strength. After this your perception of women automatically changes - their value goes down because you realise they are eye candy and their value to you is based predominantly on genetic viability - and yours goes up, relatively, because you realise your own value. This is subconsciously putting yourself on the pedestal, which is a reversal of the dynamic.
Thus, building your character and life is much more effective than learning superficial techniques. In fact I would argue not to focus on techniques at all unless you can internalise the concepts behind the techniques. The concepts have value, but focus on social dynamics and mating patterns not specific lines etc. On a polarised scale it's like a sweaty, sleazy salesman trying to sell you some crap (technique) vs a person that genuinely believes that their product is good for you, and offers you an opportunity to buy (character).
Anyway, primarily I think the fundamentals of seduction are hard wired into men just as they are to women. I mean, natural selection guarantees this. Personally, learning techniques makes me uncomfortable and takes me away from my natural frame. When I'm flowing from my core, I'll game a girl without even trying. And before I learned any of this seduction stuff I was doing it without knowing. My ROI lies in developing my confidence so I can show this side of myself, not by learning techniques. (I believe this is the rule for most men).
So, the priority is to develop yourself first, do the things you need to respect yourself and develop pride and confidence - your foundations. This is a worthy goal in and of itself. The end goal isn't pandering to and manipulating women, it's developing enough confidence and pride so that you don't give a fuck and won't take their shit.
Because women are a nice reward it's worth noting: After you work on yourself as a man, girls will seem frivolous and silly, naturally giving you masculinity, "amused mastery" and attraction. And once you develop pride, attractive women will automatically take notice of you. This is much more successful than techniques that you can memorise because it's natural. High quality women are attracted to the real deal.
TLDR/conclusion: Change starts from within, so there is where you should start if you want to better yourself. Techniques have little lasting effect, especially if you can't get the concepts behind them. I believe learning techniques before having self confidence is harmful. If you want to learn, learn the dynamics of human mating - go general not specific. Building self respect, toughness and pride should be your no. 1 priority if you don't have those qualities. Do this through a self development and lifestyle overhaul that has been discussed here a lot. This is a reward in and of itself but it will also put you on the pedestal above more women, allowing you to feel their warm insides over your cock.
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