This post is going to be a super short story of my journey through TRP, followed by a longer analysis and conclusions. The story part is only necessary to provide context for the basis of my analysis. I don’t wish to accidentally dox myself, so my personal description will be a little vague. Skip right to analysis if you are short on time. I am completely open to criticism of any of these ideas. I'm not married to them, they are simply the conclusions i came to. I would love to learn new ideas to up my game, so bring it on.

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I am pushing 40. I run a startup and am a longtime artist. I have children who don’t live with me. They love and respect me.

I have dated many women. I have slept with many more.

I am under 6 feet tall.

I am not rich, though current trends are pushing in that direction.

I am probably a 6.5 in the face department.. Maybe 7.

I am outgoing, but even now I am still scared of rejection in public.

I do lift 2-3 times a week, but nothing intense. Just enough to keep my body looking decent.

My strategy for finding girls is a combination of online dating sites, Facebook and real life. I am rejected far far more often than not. I have very little shame at this point in my life however.

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My journey with TRP started a few years ago when I began dating the hottest girl I had ever dated or slept with. From my perspective, a solid 9. I made all the hallmark mistakes of course. I even proposed to her. I was in love, but red flags were popping up left and right.

Sexual withholding, texting and hanging out with other guys. Not allowing me to hang out in her friend group. She was 19 years old. I was in my 30’s.

This behaviour lead me directly to TRP, where slowly my eyes were opened. Our relationship quickly devolved into plate status, but considering there were powerful feelings involved, it was too hard to continue on as I still loved her. I eventually texted her, breaking it off. I still miss her.

After that I dated another girl exclusively for a while, but it quickly failed. Since then, it has been only plates.

I'm happier now than I have ever been in my whole life. I have 4 girls in my life right now. I enjoy them all. They are the closest thing to good girls I can imagine exists, but of course, they are still women. They are all under 25. I have some random hookups on top of that, and one who I see every few months.

My sexual needs have never been so well met as they are now.

I'm going to leave story time there, as I don’t believe it is as important as the analysis. Feel free to ask me questions.

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Analysis:

The first mistake I made with all the women i dated, was dating them exclusively in the first place. Within a year of dating most of these women exclusively they:

Started to put on weight.

Started to lose interest in sex.

Started to play emotional games like gaslighting and assigning blame needlessly.

Started texting or confiding in other men.

Started pressuring me to have children, or complaining because I didn’t want children.

Started to entertain negative conversations with their friends about me or our relationship.

Started coming home moody or grouchy after work. Punishing me in a kick the dog sort of way.

Due to these changes, I also began to lose interest in them sexually.

My second mistake with all these women, was presenting my relationship with them publicly on Facebook or social media. I have found it to be absolutely disadvantageous for myself, yet advantageous for them.

Even a woman in a public relationship on Facebook will get messaged and hit on by many many thirsty guys. This presents a risk for infidelity on her part.

For her, it is an act of, or potential for infidelity played out easily in secret, while maintaining the persona of fidelity to friends and family.

On my part, the public nature of the relationship only made the idea of infidelity harder for me.

If I were to hit on a girl on Facebook while my relationship status was public, it meant the possibility of being “told on”. I understand that perhaps the best looking guys in the world might not struggle in this same way, but for us average guys, I find it to be in no way to a man’s advantage to have your relationship on Facebook.

Don’t do it. Don’t even let her post pictures of you two together on Facebook. It is only to her advantage. DO NOT LET HER WHORE OUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP FOR INTERNET POINTS.

Deprive her of this luxury and your relationship will be more fairly balanced.

Your girlfriend, even if she is uglier than you, can sleep with other men whenever she wants. For you it will always be an uphill battle. The more you can balance this disparity, the better.

For this reason, as so many here on TRP find out, exclusively itself, does not seem to be to our advantage.

The irony of course being that deep down, we want it so badly.

Every move towards exclusivity reduces your advantage and elevates hers.

Since I started plating women, I have managed to avoid most all of the pitfalls of my previous relationships:

No girl I am currently seeing has put on an ounce of weight No gaslighting, no blaming, no games No talk of babies Sex is plentiful and generously given Our time together is always fun and truly enjoyable I have never lost attraction for them. If anything, it has grown I always retain my ability to walk away The biggest sacrifice with this model of course, is that all these relationships will end. I will move on to other girls. They will move on to other guys. I will grow old. I will die.

But I will die with self respect. I will die with people in my life who treat me well. I will die without losing my money or sex life to the clutches of a worthless fat bitch who cares only for herself.

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Strategy: (For average guys… Most of you super good looking chaps don't need much help. Or maybe you do. What do I know.)

To play the plate game optimally you must always be hunting for women. Always always always. Until your last breath.

You must utilize all dating sites. Don’t discount dating sites. They can be frustrating, but if you play it right, you will get laid. Just don’t waste time on dead ends.

You must find a non-creepy way of presenting yourself to women you meet in real life.

You must sustain rejection over and over.

Your time is precious so use it wisely. Do not get caught in the trap of endlessly messaging women online. Meet up in real life, or move on.

Most women would drag things out forever with numerous men, agonizing over their options, while maybe only ever meeting one or two in real life.

It is not to your advantage to be one of those options. You must minimize HER options.

MEET UP IN REAL LIFE, OR MOVE THE FUCK ON.

Depending on what age you are, lie about your age within reason. Women are definitely willing to date older men they are attracted to, but on online dating platforms they will simply filter you out if the number is more than a few digits above theirs. Lie about your age as realistically as possible to put yourself within the optimum age range to date young women. If you are over 40, it’s probably not possible, but i find consistent luck suggesting im 10-15 years younger than i am. It works. Do it.

After a sleepover or visit, always do a dummy check for evidence left by women. I have incriminated myself in the past and lost plates because of it. Hair elastics, pins and beretts.

Feminine hygiene products in the garbage. Lotions or soaps in the shower. Do a clean sweep every time and you will maintain your plates for longer.

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Love is war. The primary problem with feminism is not that it is to women’s advantage, it is that it is to men’s disadvantage.

Dating is war. If you lose, she wins, but even then, she loses.

You are on Team YOU. There is no reason to even consider what is in her best interest.

You must maximize every advantage you have, while minimizing every advantage she has.

This does not mean mate guarding, bullying, or controlling her in any way.

Your staunch refusal to play by her rules, your adamancy towards playing by your own rules, and your defiant resolution to WIN is what will make you win.

Your clearly implied willingness to bail on her and replace her will make you win.

Your complete lack of neediness brought on by the fact that you are actively seeing other women will not only make you win, but it will make you more pleasant to be with.

She will like you and want you MORE because of this.

You will have a better sense of humor and disposition because of this.

You will literally be a better man because of this.

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You must obtain happiness at any cost. Your life is too short and uncertain not to.

An exclusive relationship is unlikely to do that for you.

Here is what makes me happy:

Regular passionate sex Money A nice place to live that I don’t have to share with anyone Chasing business goals Long term male friends. (Don’t ever underestimate the importance of this) Chasing women (For all it’s ups and downs, it is exhilarating.) Being a leader

On the subject of plates:

I hear a lot from some guys that you need to be upfront and honest about the fact you are seeing other women to your plates. Fuck that noise. There is no place for honesty in the dating game. Dating is war. You must lie. You must color the truth. You must omit facts or information that are not to your advantage. You must win the war.

Lying about or implying exclusivity dishonestly can absolutely BE to your advantage If you have kids, it is not to your advantage for them to know that. Lie. Most women will immediately disqualify you if they know you are a dad. Even women with kids will disqualify you. So lie. A plate doesn’t ever need to be involved with your kids anyway. Lie about your wealth, or make vague exaggerated implications Lie about previous marriages (women like to think they might be the first, they don’t need to know you were married once.) She is on a need to know basis, and most things, she does not need to know. Feed her only information that will make the relationship better and happier Women have many many options. They will disqualify you for silly things. Do not give her reasons to disqualify you. The less information, the better.

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The amount of time you spend nurturing a relationship with a girl should be inversely proportional to her age and sexual experience.

We all know here on TRP that dating under the age of 25 is ALWAYS THE BEST STRATEGY, however occasionally there will be options above that age worth pursuing. It is in my opinion that the older and more sexually experienced the woman is, the less you should wait before sealing the deal. If she won’t come back to your place by the second date, it’s best to write it off as a loss and move on.

If however, she is sexually inexperienced, sometimes you can still get a good thing going even if you have to wait a couple of dates.. This has been my experience at least.

The older a woman is, the more experience in the dating game she has, and the more she knows to string along as many options at a time before selecting. These women are looking for the type of boyfriend that YOU DO NOT WANT TO BE.

Do not play their games. Understand that this is the most optimal strategy for HER, but is the least optimal strategy for YOU.

You winning means her losing, in a sense. You must never date according to a woman’s optimal strategy. Date to win.

Her optimal strategy is to entertain as many options as she can before selecting.

Your optimal strategy is to entertain as many options as you can while NEVER selecting.

Younger women are far far easier and nicer to date because they are mostly not pursuing a strategy at all. The older they get, the more this changes, and the more resolute you should be within your own strategy.

It is the world of women that would force men to adhere to rules and standards for dating. This is only advantageous to women. Men will always be at their most advantageous when they are willing to circumvent rules. Particularly societal rules.

Date multiple women always Fuck all of them always Do not ever tolerate sexual rejection. Just walk away. Don’t live with women if you can help it by any means Don’t date or fuck fat or unattractive women. Have some standards for god’s sake Always be the leader in the relationship. DO NOT EVER LET HER BE IN CONTROL. SHE DOESN’T TRULY WANT CONTROL ANYWAYS. Always be of good humor. Your insecurities will make you angry. Your anger will stink of butthurt and rejection. Be strong and control your emotions, even when you want to cry on the inside, be a man. Be funny, confident and cool. Don’t ever let her lead the interaction. She falls into your frame, or you fall out of her life. Come to terms with loneliness and rejection. Most women will not want you. It is humbling, but recognizing it will save so much time and heartache from chasing the unavailable. Only pursue women who want you. You will never win her over.

Facebook. Use it.

Don’t add random girls, that never works. The key to facebook is that it fills the gap of how to interact with girls you have met in real life, if only briefly, but where there was no clear opportunity to hit on her, or ask her for her number.

Example: You are in line at a grocery store. People behind you, people in front. The situation is too awkward to formally hit on this girl or ask for her number.

What you can do however, is interact with her in a friendly way. Enough that she might remember you later. Hopefully she is easy to find on Facebook. You add her and send her a quick message reminding her how you met. If she is interested, move forward. If not, then move on.

The most beautiful girls I have ever had naked have been through Facebook in this manner. Don’t discount it, just use it correctly. Girls will still flake on you of course, or ghost you. But once every so often, it pays off big.

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Don’t invest more in a girl than she is actually worth.

Measure your return on investment in sex and effort. Even if she’s a pain in the ass when texting, if she is riding you once a week, it’s still probably worthwhile. Even if you have to go pick her up 30 minutes away, if she is generous with her body, it’s worth it. If she ever says no to you, walk away. It is one of the worst red flags that exists in a woman. Her body belongs to you. If it doesn’t, then she is not in your life.

Don’t compromise this, it is more fundamental than anything. It is her primary gift to you. If she withholds it, you must withhold everything.

But seriously, even if she only texts you once in a blue moon, and she’s ready to go, don’t throw God’s occasional free gifts away. Use her as she is clearly using you. Just don’t spend more time on her than she spends on you.

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Sex. As many TRP posts have mentioned, it’s important to fuck these girls properly and constantly.

What I would like to clarify, is that fucking her properly does not mean you should be focusing on her needs in bed. Far from it. Her body is YOUR toy. You play with it the way you want to play with it, for as long as you want to play with it. If you want a new position, you put her in that position. Enjoy her body the way nature intends you too. Be selfish. Pin her down. Tug her hair a little. Cum when you want to come, with no care for weather she does or not.

If you try to flip it around and focus on her, the attraction will die a little in you, and then a little in her. You must be an animal. You must devour her body the way you want to, then smack her in the ass and go have a shower.

This doesn't mean 30 seconds of pumping then roll over. If that's the way you’re fucking your girl, I would suggest you are with a girl that doesn’t really turn you on.

Sex is on your schedule. When you want it. And it does not happen when you don’t want it.

On that note, do make an effort for your body to be attractive to her. Be an animal, but don’t smell like one. Jesus.

Keep your body in shape, showered and trimmed. Dress well. Be charming. Use deodorant and brush your teeth. Try to remember that sex and attraction are physical. Don’t be yucky.

If you've been drinking beer all night, your breath is probably disgusting, so go use some mouthwash before you use her body.

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Sex with attractive women is a commodity. Competition is fierce. It is as difficult for the average man to attain as money is, but like money, once you start competing, once you start to see the game for what it is, it starts to become easier, so don’t lose hope.

The prevailing theme of this post is to always place yourself in the most advantageous position possible. Never allow the tables to be turned against you. It means growing a fucking spine and being willing to walk away.

There are so many women out there. Some of them will want you. Go and find them. Always remember women are not, and never will be on your team, so don’t be on their team.

And for the love of all that is holy, never get married.