This is one of those lesson you have to learn OVER and OVER again. This is THE core truth about masculinity.
Ever heard of the phrase "You can't make pussy your mission"? This comes from two ideas, one that men have to have a mission, they have to be on their purpose, and two DON'T PUT THE PUSSY ON A PEDESTAL.
Before RP even existed, about 10 years ago I first got into seduction. Literally if any of you fuckers remember, sedfast. I was on that bitch. I was learning, voraciously reading about mirroring, pacing and leading, tonality, body language, escalation ladder, GFTOW, inner game, reframing, holding frame, be the prize, etc. etc. and I'll tell you what. THAT SHIT WORKED. It worked like a fucking charm. I went from virgin to fucking swimming in pussy in a very short time. First couple years of college was absolute slay day. The seduction shit was money, but there was a crucial flaw in it, or rather in how I APPROACHED IT, and therefore how I approached TRP, and any other Male improvement lifestyle work.
I MADE IT ABOUT THE FUCKING CHICK.
I got into this as almost all of us do. As an unsuccessful, sexually frustrated, angry fucking dude. The goal was to learn about women and how to pull their strings so I GET WHAT I WANT from these stupid hoes. AND YES it worked,...for a time. Then I started getting older, and still fucking hoes but I had to ask myself a question. WHO THE FUCK AM I? Better put; what is masculinity?
See I was looking at masculinity through the frame of the female perspective this whole time, I was trying to gain qualities that women would find attractive and because I approached it that way, somewhere deep in my mind I was thinking that was the extent of masculinity; an object of female desire, with no greater inherent purpose or value. With this frame, you are gonna get REAL SICK of women, and game. No matter how many 10s you pull, SHE AINT WORTH YOUR FUCKIN SOUL BRO. She isnt worth your identity, your integrity, your motherfuckin PURPOSE in this world. This is exactly why dudes go MGTOW. Because they are looking at the frame through the female perspective. It's time we flip that shit on its head.
LOOK AT MASCULINITY FROM THE ONLY PERSPECTIVE THAT MATTERS; THE MASCULINE PERSPECTIVE.
First of all, masculinity is not defined by what women want out of men. Masculinity is not defined by what the state wants out of men, or your parents, or your boss, or the church, or the media. MASCULINITY IS WHAT MEN WANT OUT OF OTHER MEN. Men have always worked in packs to achieve their mission. We hunt in small groups, we go to war in fireteams. We form ourselves in tribes. So being a MAN, was and has always been about what men want from their team members. What you want from the dude to your right and left when you're sweeping an enemy hold out. When you're hunting dangerous wild game and the tribe hasn't eaten well in 2 days. When the job needs to get FUCKING DONE. Enter the masculine ethos:
- Courage - Not flinching in the face of fear.
- Honor - Accountability, living by a code, being reliable and unchanging based on emotion or circumstance.
- Loyalty - The Pack and the Mission are above all. Any one member would die for the pack.
- Strength - Physical Strength. Being able to move things or resist other things moving you.
This is what you are. Even if you have no fireteam, no small group of men to trust in and help each other stay on purpose, you have your ancestors, a spiritual fireteam, whom you need to fucking honor. If the men from thousands of years ago, looked down upon your lazy, incongruent, little bitch ass, you would bring shame upon your entire lineage. Inside of you is hundreds of thousands of years of living virtue. These virtues are etched into your soul. THAT is what masculinity is. THAT is why we do self development. THAT is why we go "monk mode". That is why we conquer ourselves and choose struggle and strife over and over again until in that fire of chaos we forge and reforge and battle test our character BECAUSE THATS WHO THE FUCK WE ARE: MEN. Latin; Vir = Man. Virtus = Manliness. Masculinity is by definition virtue. We develop virtue because thats what we are. And we do it to honor ourselves, our team of close male friends, and our ancestors themselves. A male who does not develop his masculine virtues is not a man, Man must chisel himself out of nothing to become something, to become himself.
BE VIRTUE. BECOME MAN.
SWTDO
EDIT: Some dudes are butthurt I didn't cite Jack Donovan in the post explicitly, just down in the comments so here you go. Disclaimer: This post borrowed concepts from the book The Way of Men. Specifically the 4 tactical virtues also stuff about masculinity in general. If you like this post go buy that book. It's must read material about the origins of masculinity.
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