When I went to graduate school I had to take an "adolescent psychology" course taught by a gay man. A gay man, of course, being the absolute worst candidate to teach a class that should have its focus on healthy, stable, heterosexual kids. In the course, we read two books: one on boys called "Raising Cain," and one on girls called "Reviving Ophelia." Just looking at the imagery in the two titles should tell you everything you need to know about the way this class was going to be taught- boys are compared to Cain, the Biblical figure who murdered his brother for the lolz, and girls are compared to Ophelia from Hamlet, an innocent young woman who is manipulated by men to her early grave.

The premise of the course went like this:

  • Men have privilege, and women have oppression- or, in other words, an entire world at odds with her success.

  • Since men are privileged, a boy's struggle is against himself and his own innate wiring toward enacting a toxic sense of masculinity which is inherently anti-emotional. Expressing emotions, according to the gay Professor, was the ideal end for everyone and since boys are hesitant in doing so, due to this inherent masculine wiring, they are prone to committing suicide.

  • Since women are systematically oppressed, a girl's struggle is against the entire world. In this regard, everything is out to destroy her including negative body images on TV, unrealistic body standards from her male peers, magazine covers (note: I took this course over ten years ago, so just cut and paste "social media" there), Hollywood movies, Bollywood movies, prettier girls, scary thoughts... you get the picture. Never once was emotional fragility mentioned; girls are TOUGH and STRONG but the world is just THAT MEAN. And because the world is so mean, girls develop eating disorders.

So, if we're keeping score: an adolescent boy's biggest problem is potential suicide and an adolescent girl's biggest problem is a potential eating disorder. Fair enough, they're both bad and anyone working with children should be aware it. The class could really end there without a long, useless fleshing out of why- look for the signs of depression, or disordered eating, and report it to a social worker or psychologist. That would be useful. But, true blue Blue Pillers think they're WOKE AF and want to sit you down and explain the world to you.

The Blue Pill narrative builds itself on faulty premises- these premises become something off-limits, or inarguable, even during an open-forum meant to discuss these issues at an adult level. Weirdly, mentioning sexuality as a deeper motive or influence in the actions of adolescents, or really anyone, is something totally off limits.

So let's start at the true foundation: adolescent boys and girls are post-puberty and want most to fuck one-another. However, there's a catch- adolescent boys want to fuck practically any adolescent girl (80%), and adolescent girls want to fuck the top tier of adolescent boys (20%). Even if they're years away from actually having sex, you can replace fuck with "get attention from" and it still works. The bizarre thing is, even if I had mentioned this in the class as a possible starting point- and an alternative narrative for discussion- not only would I have been shouted down but the women in the class would have been highly offended. Of course that's a pretty good indicator that I'm hitting reality, but really think about that- offended by the idea that a girl would have an eating disorder to garner attention from the highest quality boys.

That is how fucking crazy the world is getting.

But come the fuck on! What other motive would a girl have to have an eating disorder. This isn't fucking rocket science! But we have to believe that she's in some fictitious competition with McKayla Maroney on the cover of a magazine. I find little more passively misandric than this.

And even if it wasn't allowed to be said that anorexic Annie is consciously starving herself for the attention of Quaterback Steve, the idea was floated by the women in the class that boys need to learn to have "more realistic standards" (lolz) for women's bodies. So, even if we're not allowed to say that girl's most want male attention and end up with eating disorders when they don't get it, we can still blame boys anyway, because, why not?

Even though we spent the bulk of the class talking about girls, the issue with boys is slightly more complex... but also stems from the primary foundation: boys want to fuck girls. And when a boy is going through some real serious shit, he understands that a public display of emotional vomit is something that will murder his chances of getting girls, and kill his social standing entirely. Maybe you can get away with once or twice, sure, but if it's serious enough that suicide is an option, he knows he's only going to make his life ten times worse by actively showing his fear and sadness. Girls do not face this social pressure at all, as women are socially sympathetic and men are socially disposable. Hell, a crying girl may find herself a boyfriend even faster as men love to define their masculinity through being protective over women- it's in our DNA.

So while a boy publicly admitting weakness, sadness, depression and anxiety will certainly point him toward the help he needs- which, of course is a good thing- he's facing social suicide in doing so- hence his hesitancy, or outright refusal.

This kind of "social suicide" may not be overt- it's nuanced. The boy may still get polite nods, people around him telling him that they're glad he was brave in getting himself help, a lot of "awwing" and hugs from the girls... but, at the cost of losing respect- something which is necessary only for men- in fact, women are able to be socially sympathetic because of their not needing to maintain respect. Losing respect, to him, is such a serious blow that taking his own life seem preferable.

Explaining this to a blue piller bought deeply into their narrative is impossible. The men are privileged/women are oppressed dichotomy would cancel the reality of men as disposable and women as sympathetic... and since that idea would offend the women, heaven forbid, it cannot be spoken of in a serious, adult discussion about adolescent suicide. Fuck.

The world is structured to protect the feelings of women, even at the expense of practically everyone. I understand that polite conversation could politely excuse some red pill realities, for the sake of being polite, but having a class which is training young professionals to deal with troubled teens should stop being polite and start getting real.

The solutions proposed by the gay Professor were, of course, the polar opposite of reality- just like the narrative throughout the rest of the course. Boys should overcome their inclination toward toxic masculinity (or, in other words, "stop being stupid") and learn to express their emotions openly, and the entire would should change for girls (no more sexy magazine covers).

All because it offends women to imply that a) the bulk of the motive for their actions is to attract men, b) women are the sympathetic sex and c) since men are disposable, respect is necessary for a man to maintain social standing.

And so, we need to waste everyone's time with mental gymnastics... but the sinister implications cut even deeper. True intervention here, for both boys and girls, would be in learning the truth about emotions and proper emotional management. Take a guess why this is also something entirely unmentionable....

It's a pretty simple lesson that could be fleshed out into an entire course. Emotions cloud thinking and judgement. While emotions can be something wonderful to experience, or even something motivating a person to take positive action, they are more akin to a drug- it may feel great, but it's not an end in itself. The flip side of happy emotions are, of course, the more torturous; angry, sad, jealous. If we were able to understand emotions as not something to entirely avoid, but something to examine and never act on without proper thought, we could probably help a whole lot of kids out.

Look at it this way, what's easier: telling a girl to ignore the sexy magazine covers, and deal with the fact that Quarterback Steve just isn't into her (and maybe give Betamax Barry a chance!), or change the entire world so she doesn't end up anorexic?

But fighting the intoxication of emotional weight is primarily a man's game. Women, even adult women (or, more so adult women), are not able to push through a cloud of emotions to the realm of rational thought. I mean, even in something as innocuous as a debate topic that she may take personally- watch her lose her shit and resort to name calling, or shaming, or any other kind of insanity when you bring up rational points. And since women can't do it, and the idea of it almost surely offends them because they can't do it, well, fuck it, it's something we can't mention.

So the solution is to make boys into girls- bobbleheads of emotional throw up, and damned be the consequences to that. Hell, if a kid was depressed already, what's gonna happen when his friends think he's a crying pussy? But, if he was taught that his feelings are a kind of illusion- that his problems can be best dealt with by looking past the emotion of the situation and finding rational answers, maybe then he'd have a chance.

But, fuck it, it may hurt a girl's feelings.

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