I remembered a girl who told me what kind of man she was looking for. A girl that every day called with her ex, crying how much she misses him, basically being an "alpha-widow" among the hordes of betas she's surrounded with. One main thing she wanted, is a guy that just can say no, and you could just see and hear how she interacted with her ex, how she wanted him, but he just went his own way, stood his ground and said it was over. But he went so good about it, that you just couldn't be angry at him. He wasn't a wimp, neither was he an asshole. He was a man, who just said no and knew how to say it right.

Besides this entire teary scenario, she had her good moments and we talked about what she looked for in a man, and we will stick to this "saying no" thing. She wants a man with a spine, a man that can backfire. She knows she's saying shit and doing shit, even thinking shit on some or most occasions. But she can't stand a boy that allows himself to be crapped on and saying "thank you" afterwards, and she's totally right. Imagine how boring life would be if you would get anything you want and everything went exactly according to plan. It would be boring, you would have already lived your life before you actually lived it. It's like playing a game with unlimited resources, and it's in such a scenario, where you stop respecting the resources as much, because they are infinite. That's why the "yes man" gets disrespected, because he devalued the yes by flooding her with it. There is no thrill in getting something, because it's an automatic yes. The "No" or standing up to yourself keep her on her toes, it makes you exciting, unpredictable. It's the very reason why women want to try to change a man. They don't want to change him, they want his resistance. They want to fight! Would you rather lose the real olympics, or win the special olympics? What would be more fulfilling to you?

She wants you to act Alpha. That's why they provoke you, poke your frame to feel how sturdy it is, how stable the emotions are so they can be themselves without being judged, without being obligated to do anything by you. They want a man that goes his own way without limiting her or making her feel she has obligations towards you. Be strong, stand your ground, stick to your beliefs, don't let your emotions be played with. Be that fortress where she can enjoy the rigidity and do anything she wants without worrying of it collapsing, instead of being that bamboo hut made out of sticks that's all twitchy and starts to fall apart with time, aka the beta fort.

Girls just want to have fun, they want to pull the alpha out of its resting state with "shit tests" which I would rather rename to Alpha Provoking Tactics, they want to feel the quality they caught. They want to have that what to men is a strong and fast sportscar, which sticks to the road which can also fuck you up if you make a mistake. Not that 30 years old Buick with the looks and promises on the outside but the terrible performance and handling once you take it for a drive which doesn't make you experience thrill or fear, but boredomness and annoyance.

Women will show the Alpha that they hate him for who he is too, because he can handle it, he can deal with it and be indifferent, which in turn is the very trait she loves and hates to admit. The real thing at which women are pissed is that she can't have both. She can't have an Alpha that treats her like a princess. She can't have a provides that says yes to everything that's a total doormat and still be the Alpha she looks up to and can have so much thrill with. Women hate to decide, they want to have everything but can't. The Alpha takes away the decision making away from her, making her feel save and mentally at comfort as you take that burden away and you are allowed to whatever the hell you want to do (in most cases). If you want to break a woman, flood her with decisions, exactly what a beta does. I know a woman which is currently flooded with decisions, and she hasn't done a single productive thing in months.