Got taken hard advantage of by a lying Gold Digger

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So here's the deal. I have known a woman for a few years now, an ex-stripper. For the sake of argument, let's call her Ann (that is not her real name). She is 6 years younger than I. To say I was attracted to her is an understatement, and years ago when we first met, we had a few flings. But gradually lost contact as I was going through some very serious personal issues in my life.

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Fast forward a few years. We run into each other and hit it off instantly. In short order, we are dating and spending a lot of time together. She is married- open relationship/polyamorous. That is neither here nor there. Her and her husband were not romantically involved at all, as both of them confirmed to me, and they were married for the sake of her kids. I'm actually friends with him still to this day and he's been pretty straight with me from day one.

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I work in a job that requires me to up and leave for weeks or months at a time with no notice. Well, back in September, I had to up and leave with no notice for a few weeks. We kept in constant contact. However, upon return, I had some major shit go down in my life (I was renting a property from my father and we had a massive falling out due to his new wife not liking me, they performed an illegal eviction on me without due process, cops were involved, etc, but I digress, this is a separate issue). Needless to say, that was a rough time for me. Well the following week, she informs me she is pregnant. Apparently (per her claim) she had a "one night stand" and while her tubes were supposed to be tied, she got pregnant regardless.

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At this point, I'm technically homeless, a disabled combat Veteran going through a several years long battle with the VA over my benefits, and now I have her telling me she has no support, and her husband is threatening to kick her to the curb if she cannot pay her bills. In hindsight, I learned that this was NOT the case- he never made that threat. She was telling me one thing while the reality was completely different. So I spent the next 7 months supporting her, at an average of $360/week to "ensure her bills are paid and she isn't homeless." Come Christmas time, I even worked extra hard to get her as much extra funding as possible as she told me her kids wouldn't be having a Christmas due to how tight money was for her (Also, I now learned that this was in fact, a blatant lie). Same with their birthdays the following month. Now bare in mind, I'm technically homeless during this time, living on a friend's couch, working 12+ hours a day, 7 days a week doing Uber and Lyft.

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Let's fast forward to February, where my fight with the VA finally culminated and I was awarded serious retroactive pay. She informed me that her vehicle was no longer running, she had no reliable transportation at all any more, but her credit was so shot that she couldn't get a vehicle (Also, I have since learned that no, her vehicle was NOT inoperative). So I bought her a vehicle. I set her a budget of $14k, she went over that budget by $2k, and we had a verbal agreement that she would be repaying me. Needless to say, to this date, I haven't seen a dime.

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The following two months were filled with her requesting me to buy her stuff constantly, constantly paying her bills, etc. Meanwhile, I was never allowed to come over due to her stating that her husband was so furious with everything that he didn't want me around. I've also learned this was indeed, a lie. I've also since learned that during this period she has had countless men come over at all hours, and (not exaggerating), has been likely performing sexual favors in return for money, all while having other men send her money by giving them the same lie she was feeding me.

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Her mistreatment of me grew worse almost daily (attitude towards me, the way she would speak to me, the way she would refer to my money as HER money, insulting me, berating me, guilting me into giving her more and more) until it came to a head two months ago and I finally broke up with her. Two days prior to the breakup, she informed me that she thought her husband was trying to groom her youngest daughter (exactly how it sounds), and needed to move immediately for hers and the kids' safety. I offered to move her in with me as I live in a very nice home and had the room. She shot the offer down immediately stating that "to move them away from their friends and school district, by a few miles, would be more traumatic to them than being molested." I am not exaggerating, I still have all the texts. Shit wasn't adding up and ultimately that was the straw that broke the camel's back.

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Fast forward another month and she contacts me again, more rational, more how she talked to me in the past, explaining she was terrified that her husband was trying to take the kids from her and she had no choice but to divorce him before he divorced her and did such that. Me, being a God dammed idiot, fell for it. I got her a U-Haul, I sent her several hundred more to ensure she could move. Funny, she said she didn't want any men around the house for the move in case he came home early, but... yeah, I saw footage that as soon as we parted ways at the U-Haul store, she had two other men at her house helping her move. The following day, she texted me informing me that her U-Haul got stuck and had to pay for a tow truck to pull it out of soft sand, and no longer had money for turning her electric on. So I did what I always did and worked, and sent her more money.

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A few weeks later, after sparse communication, she informed me she had the baby. I had a bad car accident the following evening, which I am still recovering from. She said she needed more financial support. I informed her that I would do what I could but things were heavily limited due to my accident. I then requested to at least see a picture of the baby that I had been supporting for the past 9 months, under the impression that I had been the only one supporting it. She flat out refused, and almost immediately ghosted me. Zero contact since, nearly 3 weeks later.

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Now I had the thought that perhaps she didn't have a signal, or something along those lines. But no, it was confirmed she's been QUITE active on Social Media since. Has since obtained a new sucker to take their money. And is likely bleeding more than one other person dry financially. All the while I find tangible proof that she was actively performing prostitution before and while we were together (don't get me started on how sick to my stomach that makes me).

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So, I apologize about the long post, but it's a super complex situation.

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TL;DR - Ex-girlfriend used a disabled Combat Veteran with TBI and PTSD for their money, conned them into buying them a vehicle they did not need, conned them into sending weekly financial support under threat that her and her children would be kicked to the street, lied, lied, lied, all under heavily false pretenses. What are the legal implications and how is it suggested I proceed forward? What are the implications both Civil and Criminal? For sake of argument, this is all under Florida laws.

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Thank any of you in advance who read this all and provide some solid feedback.