TL DR: Women have messed with me often in my medical career. I no longer interact with females unless I absolutely have to in any situation due to abusive co-workers.

This is going to be quite long and I sincerely apologize. I am about to recount all the major issues caused by women in my professional life (encompassing 30+ years). I'm gonna admit straight out the box that I am a gay man. I have no use for females in general and don't even entertain the idea of having a "Faghag", "Fruitfly", or any other type of female interactions in my private life. I find the majority of females to be extremely manipulative and emotionally volatile at work and do my best to keep that drama as far from me as possible. I'm not at all hostile to female co-workers but I am definitely coolly distant and you'll see why by the time you finish this little novella.

When I first started working in medicine I was a CNA at an extended care facility. I was about to graduate nursing school as a RN and the facility and I were in talks about me becoming the charge nurse for the shift that I was currently working. One of the LPNs who'd always been snarky and rude when I worked under her seemed really upset that I was going to be her boss in a few months. She began to speak to the patients I cared for, asking them to report me as abusive. They all refused and told me what she was trying to get them to say. I let it go because obviously it didn't work and I was going to be her boss soon so I thought I'd deal with our personality issues and her reaction when I had a little seniority over her under my belt.

I brought some pictures of my 2 year old nephew to work one night to show my co-workers so they could put a face on this kid I was constantly talking about. A couple of the pics were taken while he was running around naked after a bath, one from the waist up and one from behind. I didn't think anything of it... there's a ton of naked pictures of me as a baby and my nephew's penis wasn't visible in the photos. Wal-Mart had processed them and they refuse to print any images they deemed "inappropriate" so the images weren't at all pornographic.

A couple of weeks later CPS showed up saying I'd been accused of molesting my nephew and trying to "pimp him out" to a gay couple I worked with. The LPN never saw the pictures and wasn't even around when I was showing the pics to my other co-workers but she'd reported me and told all these lies about things. I found out from one of my co-workers that she admitted doing it and was laughing about the fact that I'd never get the charge nurse position with that on my record. I quit that job a few days later.

When I obtained my RN, I decided to become a travel nurse so I could see the country. My first assignment was in a small southwestern town. I never revealed my sexuality there because they didn't need to know and I wasn't going to see them again anyway. I wanted to be judged on my work, not who I chose to get naked with in a small town.

Towards the end of my assignment I went out with the charge nurse and a few co-workers for drinks. The charge nurse told me she wanted to have sex with me and being a little too tipsy, I drunkenly replied with, "You may not respect your marriage vows, but I do. No thanks."

Within a week my contact was canceled by the facility. They offered to pay my salary, housing, and insurance for the final month because I'd done no wrong so I took them up on the offer and enjoyed a month paid vacation. I still had a cancelled contact on my record though.

A few years later I'm working a contract in Virginia where they were all VERY aware of my sexuality. That didn't seem to matter though... I got on the elevator one day and a female co-worker asked me if I was following her. I replied, "I guess you could consider it that way." After all, I was walking behind her from the parking lot to the elevator doors, so I left it at that.

I was called into the manager's office later that day and was met there by hospital administrators, every boss from my department, and security. I was told that the female co-worker had reported me for "stalking" her at work. After a few clarifying questions I had to point out to them that we work the same shift, park in the same parking lot, and work in the same department. It's only natural that I would occasionally be behind her on the way to work and she would occasionally be behind me.

This didn't constitute "stalking" though as I was always at least 10 feet away. When they asked me how I knew the distance so exactly, I explained that I'm 6'2" and have about a 3.5 foot reach with my arms. I informed them that if I had tripped and fallen I would not have been able to reach her to break my fall. Therefore, she had to be at least 10 feet in front of me.

They informed me that I am a big, intimidating looking man with a deep, booming voice and need to be aware of how my presence affects women's perceptions. I was told that she felt threatened and that I was invading her personal space. If I ever noticed her in front of me again I was to stop and stand there for 5 minutes to allow her enough time to ride the elevator alone. I was also told I had to APOLOGIZE to her for making her feel threatened. (WTF!?)

During an interview for another contract I was told, "Our nurses hate travelers." I took the job anyway because I'm a big boy and can handle it. Unfortunately, the lady who was my preceptor intentionally set me up by showing me an inappropriate way to do a procedure. I questioned her about it because it didn't seem right and she told me, "That's the way we do it here."

When the rest of the staff realized what I'd done she started saying, "I told him not to do it and he ignored me." She was willing to put a patient at risk because she felt the hospital shouldn't be using travelers and was trying to prove that we were incompetent. I refuse to work in the sort of environment where that is tolerated. I cancelled the contract right then and there!

Another contract and a female co-worker walks up and points out that my t-shirt and cap were both red. She then asked, "What color are your chonies (Spanish slang word for underwear), are they red too?" She actually asked me this a few times in the following weeks. I walked into the department one day and she looked up and asked me the color. I replied, "What color are yours?" Two days later I'm sitting in the director's office being asked why I was sexually harassing her staff. I explained that I only asked her after she'd asked me the same question half a dozen times because I was sick of being asked about my underwear. She was never even talked to about instigating the whole underwear color discussion but I was told to watch my mouth and was written up.

At that same facility another nurse was sent to help me but I had everything under control so I told her, "I've got this. Why don't you go see if there's anyone else who needs help?" I was called into the director's office later that day and asked why I was "throwing co-workers out of the room". I was told from now on I was to accept any offer of help from co-workers, needed or not. This nurse began to make it her mission to get me in trouble and every month or so I was in the director's office to explain what I'd said or done to her.

A perfect example involves me walking into the break room to put my lunch in the refrigerator. As I walked in I overheard her talking to another gay male nurse about seeing on t.v. how tribesmen in Africa blow air into a cow's vagina with their mouths to stimulate milk production. They were also using really vulgar language while discussing this. I guess I had a look on my face because she asked me what I thought about their discussion. I replied, "Well, I guess you know what to do now if you ever needed to lactate." and an hour later into the director's office I go! She even admitted to the director that there wasn't anything overtly offensive about what I'd said but it made her "feel bad" so she turned me in for it.

A different facility and there were a group of female co-workers who were openly hostile to me. I was promoted rather rapidly and a job was specifically created for me there as an auditor. They took offense to me leapfrogging their seniority and "criticising their charting". A new nurse started and pulled me aside one day to ask what I'd done to make a handful of them so hostile towards me when I was obviously just trying to help, so it was THAT blatant.

One of them had asked me to help her lift something while I was busy with my patient. I jokingly replied that I would when I finished but "I'm convinced that you're a capable, strong, modern woman who doesn't need any man to help you accomplish anything." That went over like a sack of rocks though and she and her clique proceeded to make me regret what I'd said. Lots of snide remarks and passive aggressive actions that prompted me to go to management and point out the "lateral violence" I was experiencing.

After months of mistreatment and trying to get management to take me seriously, I had one of the clique get in my face screaming that I needed "to start doing your fucking job" because she wanted me to do part of her work. I'd had enough and stepped back from her and I just lost it, raising my voice and pointing out that she'd never read my job description so she had no idea what my job even entailed. After cussing me for a bit, I had enough and walked off, leaving her screaming at my back. She and the rest of the clique went to HR and filed a complaint that I was abusive with no provocation. They said that I pushed her and made threats. I never got any closer to her than 4 feet and we were the only two on that side of the desk. There were no witnesses other than a ward clerk who later said she was surprised I was so calm with that lady in my face like that. Her cronies, however, said they'd all witnessed me lay hands on her and heard me threaten her with violence. I called a meeting with management after being accused by HR and resigned, effective immediately! No job is worth being treated like that.

Next job there was a lady who got a bee in her bonnet because I insisted she do things by the policy. She went to management and told them I was using disgusting terminology when referring to female anatomy to get me in trouble. The offending words? "Crack" when referring to a patient's gluteal cleft (a.k.a. your "butt crack") and "boob" which was me repeating what a patient said about a mass on her shoulder blade. "It's my third boob!" was her reply when I questioned what was bothering her on her back.

Now I work in a facility where it seems the ladies think I hung the moon. I have received several "atta boy" recognitions from staff and management, I am regularly asked how I do things because I seem really efficient, and everyone talks about how helpful I am when asked.

Things aren't perfect. One female co-worker told management I'd refused to help but then later admitted she'd never overtly asked me to help, just assumed I would and got upset when I didn't. She asked me what I was doing and replied, "Okay" when I replied. The charge found me later and apologized for lighting into me without having the entire story beforehand.

I used to go out to happy hours and such with my co-workers but so many rumors have been started, accusations made, inappropriate touching and so forth. I finally made a rule that I never interact with co-workers off the clock. I'll wave and say "Hi" but I make sure I don't interact beyond that. Had this policy caused hard feelings? You bet! I'd rather be safe than sorry though.

Again, sorry for the length but as you can see, I've had a lot happen over the years!