Intro/Preface

Whats up TRP -- lurker here. I was hesitant to post on this sub because I don't totally buy RP theory, and the subreddit network TRP falls in is mildly concerning. Still, I've found some threads here really instructive, and I was encouraged to post by a fellow subscriber so I want to contribute my knowledge. I hope you take what I say here with the same grain of salt as I have taken in my months of lurking this sub. In my personal philosophy, skepticism and a corresponding willingness to change one’s opinion in the face of new evidence is the mark of a true alpha.

Note: I’m going to try to define terms as I use them, but you’re all big boys here so you can do your own fucking googling.

What is sexual dimorphism?

Most people are fed the false notion that female neurobiology is no different than that of their counterparts, but I’m pretty sure anyone who says they believe this is either lying or actively deceiving themselves to maintain face in their social circles. It is not misogyny to admit this. Feminism is believing women deserve equal rights and equal pay for providing goods or services of equivalent quality as men. Feminism is not believing that men and women are not different.

If you look at the natural world, sexual dimorphisms are ubiquitous. Why do male gorilla skulls have massive sagittal crests while female gorillas have a smooth cranial surface? Presumably it’s because sagittal crests provide a point of attachment for mastication muscles, and female gorillas-- who, like all higher animals, are constantly performing subconscious reproductive fitness assessments saw this as a trait likely to correlate with survival and reproduction. The weird thing about sexual dimorphisms is that they form what’s called a positive feedback loop e.g. duck penises. So they don’t always make sense when you think about it in terms of “X trait is linked to more babies, less death by predators” etc. etc.

This is a pitfall I see RPers fall into all the time as they reference what women evolved to be like on the African savannah to make their case for how “AWALT”. So we need to be tuned into the things that women are assessing us for, particularly those things which are not evolutionarily obvious.

What do female brains suck at compared to male brains?

  • Mathematical reasoning, spatial reasoning, mental rotation of objects, mental estimation of physical force required to accurately throw objects long distances, motor processing tasks.

How does this help us attract a mate? Answer: disregarding the fact that professional athletes are at the top of the sexual hierarchy in our society, these differences provide us with almost no utility or insight on how to attract a mate.

What do female brains do better than male brains?

  • Female neural networks have an edge over males for their connectivity, and therefore efficiency. Likely an evolutionary artifact of a time when female brains needed to work overtime on social reasoning tasks to navigate tribal hierarchies and ensure their survival and hereditary transmission.

  • Females are better at information recall, and cognitive performance. Most critically, they have significantly better inhibitory control.

What does that mean? Answer: It means they have a more functional prefrontal cortex -- the part of the brain in charge of inhibition. Want to know what else the prefrontal cortex does?

it helps with having a coherent personality, coordinating thoughts and actions, goal formation, planning complex behaviors, understanding the subtleties of social interaction

All this makes it seem like they should have dominated men by now with manipulation, higher thinking, etc... While that does happen (and I’m sure we’ve all read enough stories on this sub about it) it hasn’t happened as much as it should have, given their ability to outperform us in these areas.

Why? Well, I can give you my hypothesis.

  • It probably has something to do with their neuroendocrinology, increased limbic activity, higher synaptic concentrations of 5-HT/corresponding upregulation of 5-HT transport, higher levels of oxytocin and dopamine as well as oxytocin/dopamine receptor overlap in certain neural regions.*

tl;dr: they’re emotional as fuck. There are many reasons for this, one of the primary ones probably is that estrogen and testosterone “remodel” the brain in different ways, causing different hormones and hormone receptors to upregulate or downregulate. Another sexual dimorphism.

Exploiting Female Neuroendocrinology

Have you ever heard of voles? They’re mammals-- rodents. They’re a lot like us. There are several species, but there are two closely related species of interest.

One of these species, “the mountain vole”, is sexually promiscuous-- fucks everything vole-like which moves.

Then you’ve got your old “prairie voles”. They mate for life. I’m talking hard-core pair bonding monogamy. A dude name Smeltzer got it into his head to figure out why and he had a Smeltzing good time of it, I’d say.

They found that the monogamous voles had an overlap of particular receptors for oxytocin (hormone for attachment) and dopamine (hormone for pleasure) in their median prefrontal cortex. Basically, this means that the part of the vole’s brain that triggers social attachment colocalizes with the same part of the brain that triggers a pleasure response. The result is that the voles fall in love.

A side note about love

Yes, it is love -- It’s important all you beta fucks realize that what you call love is a completely neurochemical phenomenon which is not unlike substance addiction. Literally, it is your brain confusing shit. Ever been heartsick after going through a bad breakup? You’re having withdrawals from an addiction. It’s not a coincidence that oxytocin is linked to addiction vulnerability.

But is a rainbow less beautiful because you know it is light refracting through water droplets? No. Is music less beautiful because you have a complex comprehension of electrical waveforms? No.

Love is the same way. It is human to love, and love is a source of beauty and joy. My main criticism of TRP theory is that it sometimes rejects features of the human experience as a strategy to avoid pain.

Back to Exploitation of Females

So look, female humans have a lot more oxytocin riding around in their system, and if the model from voles extends (spoiler alert: it does) then females aren’t using their prefrontal cortexes to modulate complex behavior and navigate social structures to achieve species wide dominance. No-- oxytocin and dopamine are making all that sophisticated networking and inhibitory goodness exert its power over one task: finding a mate.

Here is where all the puzzle pieces fall into place

In order to make yourself indispensable to a woman you must associate yourself with this oxytocin/dopamine axis. She’s got a social-attachment dedicated neural framework built for formulating complex, goal-oriented, thought-to-action activity, dude. If you aren’t keyed in on how to make sure that framework is formulating how to make you her mate, then you aren’t likely to succeed.

So how do you do this? Go Pavlovian. Start at the source, and create a pattern recognition motif in her brain. You have to repeatedly stimulate the part of her brain that controls the release of oxytocin in a way she will learn to associate with you. That part of the brain is the hypothalamus. The hypothalamus responds to many things. We can only realistically exploit three of them

The first one is smell

  • If you do wear cologne, wear the same cologne and the same amount of that cologne every time you are going to be near her. Consistency of scent is important. This is not as trivial as it seems. Many men overlook olfactory stimulation, even though it represents another avenue towards solidifying the association you’re attempting to create between yourself and her dopaminergic pathways. Smell is also the most tightly linked sense to memory, and oxytocin is known to strengthen memory. This can create another positive feedback loop. Except instead of creating corkscrew waterfowl penises, this one gets you laid.

The second is stress.

  • Make sure that every time you are around her, you are destabilizing her in some way while maintaining a positive, attractive, consistent energy and appearance. This is why women love men who make them try things they have never tried before, and take them on adventures, etc. Do not let them get comfortable in the beginning. Comfort = boredom, boredom does not stimulate oxytocin.

The third is genital stimulation

  • Note: please do this consensually. Rape and sexual harassment (aside from being heinous crimes) are not effective, moral strategies for effecting attachment in females.*

  • This is the biggest one. If some girl tells you that sex isn’t important to her, and that she’s way more interested in having a man who can attend to her emotional complexity, she’s straight up lying to you. Also probably having sex with someone else.

  • Be consistent and thorough when you engage sexually with a partner in whom you would like to create attachment. If you do this right, eventually her brain will not be able to discern between pleasure stimulated by sex and pleasure stimulated by your presence in her life.

  • Female orgasm, while highly associated with oxytocin release, is not required. General genital stimulation can induce significant levels of oxytocin. Orgasm comes easier to some women than others. I was shocked to learn from one of my female friends that men commonly say things like “I want you to cum on my dick”, and “Are you close?” when having sex with her. Please, wtf, no. Don’t be that guy.

  • This is a way for you to maintain your alpha frame. You aren’t stimulating her because you want to “please your queen”, you’re stimulating her because you’re hacking her neurochemistry. Maintain control. Otherwise please be directed to one of the many cuckoldry subreddits.

I appreciate the opportunity to be heard on this subreddit, I wish you all the best of luck in your endeavors. Feel free to point out which parts of this demonstrate my ignorance, etc. etc