CONTEXT: Before I start I want to direct you to a previous post on my account (no links allowed as far as I understand) called "Please roast me and tell me what I did wrong" on the askTRP subreddit, where I asked what I could've done better after I called a girl I texted a "veganazi". The following post will describe the events that unfolded after what I described there.

I've decided to share it here because I attribute everything that happened to TRP and/or its tenets, and I want to show newbies (like myself) what you can achieve with it.

FOR THOSE WHO WON'T BOTHER READING MY PREVIOUS POST - Copied TL;DR: Met a cute chick that lives next door on the bus, didnt talk to first but when we got off she initiated (though I was just behind), got #-close with her having puppy eyes. Waited one day before texting and after a short chat asked her out. At first showed decent interest but ended up saying she's not relationship material right now while probably getting boned by chad as I write these lines. V-card galore. Cheers.

Before I start - I'm still really new at this whole TRP thing, and I don't consider myself versed in TRP tenets to the extent of being able to "lecture" on the subject. That being the case, please relate to anything in my story in terms of things I did good/bad/shouldn't have done/should've done etc. for mine and others' future improvement. I'll be marking points I'd like you guys to relate to with "(&)".

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First Date - After I called her a "Veganazi" I felt like I completely fucked up. There was no way back. I can't un-write her that text and I can't (more so SHOULDN'T) cave-in and beg her for forgiveness. I remembered one specific comment in my post, that suggested that I shouldn't apologize (like I wanted), but instead wait around and casually try and persuade her to go on a date with me if I stumble upon her again. While I agree with the REASON that guy told me not to do it (don't be needy), I didn't agree with the method (you can still be a decent person without being needy). I talked with my family about the matter (yes I'm that much of a fag fucking deal with it) and they turned out to be much more redpill than I expected. They completely agreed I shouldn't crawl on my knees and cry for a second shot but suggested I should try and apologize like a civilized person that has dignity and see where it goes. I didn't have nothing to lose so I gave it a shot.

I texted her two days later and said "it was an ill-tasting joke, are you up for a walk?". She was. So we go on for a walk and things are pretty good. I incorporate all sorts of things I've read here: Kino, push-pull, disqualification,light-hearted compliments (sexual and non-sexual), endless conversation techniques, body language, eye-contact, living in the moment, high-energy state, social games, conversation steering, grooming and more. (&) THIS WAS MY FIRST REAL DATE EVER. I had absolutely no idea what I was doing, and I just did things because they were written here. Pre-TRP me wouldn't even DREAM of doing HALF of these things.

They worked like a charm.

After a 2.5 hour walk we end up on a small patch of grass near the walking route. I feel tired so I just lie down on the grass with my arms spread to the sides (high energy, live in the moment). She comes and lies down ON my arm. That's my INVITATION. She didn't do it "on accident", she wanted to be close to me in order for me to go in for the kiss. And I did.

We make out for a couple of minutes before I get up and tell her we should go somewhere more private. We find another patch of grass that's more secluded, we lay down and go back to kissing. At this point I'm so high from the adrenaline rush I just start kissing her chest, eventually licking her nipples. Most of you would say "pffff, just another day on field, that's no FR material, GTFO" but I remind you this was my FIRST DATE EVER, JUST AFTER MY FIRST KISS EVER. Pre-TRP me would've been drowning in so much fear and anxiety I wouldn't even have the courage to hug her.

I put the breaks there because it was getting late and I was pretty satisfied that I've reached that far, though in retrospect I definitely should've TRIED (always escalate). (&) We walk back to hers, make out some more and say goodbye. I KNOW I SHOULD'VE TRIED TO BANG HER AS WELL, but she's 19yo and her parents were home, and mine were waiting. Maybe it's a rookie mistake but I guess I just didn't see it happening with the given logistics, w/e

Second Date - In the texting game I keep it pretty focused and light, calibrated thanks to my previous post where people roasted my texting skills. I keep my answers short, without needless emotions and emojis. I tell her I want a second date, suggest we should cook something at hers, set a time and cut contact.(&) At hers I keep my light-hearted attitude, being friendly with her family as well (I still need to keep my good name around the block, plus I wanted to practice talking to everyone) and we have a good time. One thing leads to another and we find ourselves in her room. Thanks to TRP again, I didn't miss the opportunity. Kissing on the neck quickly turn into dry sex on the bed. Shit tests are being thrown and I handle them pretty well.

Things start to fall apart when I try to remove her pants (shirt came off without any issues). She says she's not ready, that she wants to get to know me first blahblahblah (LMR y u do dis). I try my best, telling her nothing will happen while kissing her on the neck, retreating and trying again later, but to no avail. Guess there's so much a newb can do with beginner's luck. No biggie, I don't wanna end up with rape accusations on my hands, and I don't want a bad name around my town so we pack shit up. We make out some more later and we part ways.

Third Date - That one wasn't so hot. I Don't have a driving license and she didn't have a car so we were stuck in my small town where there's nothing to do. But I try to make the best out of it, and remembering her wish to "get to know me first", we head down to a field nearby where we can chill and talk. As a whole the date wasn't as hot as the other two, but most notably I fucked up a MAJOR shit test:

Her: How many girlfriends did you have before me? Me: Hmmmm, well you know I'm actually a shy person, I didn't really have anyone before you.. Her: Really? wow.. That's weird, you seemed so.. Confident in everything you did. Me: Haha really? Well guess I'll take that as a compliment.

Christ... You should've seen the face-palm I gave myself when I realized what I did. Specifically this section of the chat makes me sound kinda feminine, but then again too much masculine polarity will repel LTRs away, and I thought that my problem was that I was being too "pushy" and didn't really connect with her on the emotional level (read I was fearing I'm failing a comfort test) (&) so I thought telling her the truth would help. Meh. Gotta make mistakes sometimes.. At the end of the date we make out a bit and say goodbye, though I think we both felt this wasn't really going so well after that one.

I'll emphasize that the frequency of our dates was too high. Because I was excited I tried to meet up twice a week. That's too much, ESPECIALLY because we're neighbors. Maybe it also killed the mood. (&)

Text pretty much died after the third date, we set up a fourth one (yeah I know you shouldn't date a girl more than three times unless you banged her but I didn't really have anything to lose I guess). (&) In addition the looming feeling that I was about to lose her brought back an old friend form high-school, ONEITIS. Thanks to TRP though I was able to get my inner-game in check and keep a cool head.

We met up three days later and she said It's not working for her because "she's so comfortable being single". So I suggest we do it without commitment, "no I'm not that kind of girl" (read "you fucked up, I'm not attracted anymore"). Oh well, I had it coming. I keep a cool head and say I'll see her around. Just as we turn and walk away I compliment her, telling her "you looks lovely today by the way". She smiles and thank me. (&) Haven't spoke to her since.

Lessons Learned:

  • Sometimes showing empathy and caring can help you with women. I know the whole "Chad" personality isn't like that but I think you can be an alpha and remain a nice person. Saying sorry doesn't instantly make you a doormat beta.
  • Most of the game is in the way you act. Pre-TRP me would be able to talk for hours with that chick but he wouldn't be sparking attraction because he won't use classic TRP tenets like kino or push-pull (read above). Learn these.
  • Escalate. When in doubt, escalate more.
  • LMR is a bitch. Things could be going with flying colors before it shows up on your doorstep to ruin your day. Learn how to deal with it.
  • If you have no logistics to go on a proper date or if you don't have proper venues and you don't know how to handle said situation/s, it's better not to have a date and keep it cool.
  • Learn to pass shit tests. Memorize classic ones and train yourself to identify and pass unfamiliar ones. Also don't forget comfort tests if you're shooting for LTRs.
  • Don't date too frequently. Keep it spaced. If you're seeing each other too much in a given time it might kill her attraction.
  • Oneitis is always there ready to kick you in the guts. In my case all I wanted to get is sex so I didn't really care about commitment, but I still got it. It will always be there if you don't talk to lots of girls and have backups to fall back to after something goes south.

Thank you. Everyone on TRP, the people who commented on my previous post and the people who read this one, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for helping me improving as a person. When I discovered TRP 6 months ago I thought it was like a crazy cult. Now I can definitely see myself living my life under its preaching. Thanks to TRP I've grown more as a person in the last 6 months than I've grown in my 20 years of age, and there's still so much more ahead of me. May we all enjoy life to the fullest. Cheers.