It seems like every day on AskTRP there are about a dozen or more posts in which the OP has crippling oneitis and says something along the lines of
"I don't know what else to do, I've read the sidebar, I've read the sidebar 1000 times, I am practicing and applying all the TRP I can, I am lifting, I am gaming other women, but I just can't seem to get over her, I don't think I will ever be happy with any other girl but her".
Alright. Is she really that special? Really? Ask yourself: Is she really that special, or are you just making her out to be special?
I know the answer because I have taken it to private message with some of the blue pilled hamsters who make such claim and have them send me a pic of the girl they have oneitis for. Pretty much every time the pic they send me is, at best, some average run of the girl 5 or 6, no where close to the perfect 10 they describe her as. I've seen more rainbow haired feminist types, fatties, and just plain average girls than actual high SMV bombshells that could possibly be worth all that oneitis agony for.
In reality you oneitis types are just making her out to be more than she really is. Take a step back, take the oneitis blinding glasses off, and observe her from a neutral standpoint and begin to pick out her flaws. Not so special anymore. Then you will realize all the propping up and excuse making you have been doing for her to make her out to the flawless unicorn that you have been.
I'm 29, almost 30 years old. You know how many times in my blue pilled days I had the same oneitis issue? Where I thought I would never be happy with anyone but her? A lot. I hamstered up my oneitis girls in my mind as perfect flawless unicorns, despite them being drug users, alcoholics, binge drinkers, whores, you name it. And I was able to get over all of them without TRP. If I can get over all those girls without TRP, you sure as hell can do it with TRP and all the knowledge, resources and wisdom it gives you.
At 29 years old, all these girls I had oneitis for 10-15 years ago are all either post wall or have hit the wall. They are all either fat, ugly, or used up from years of partying and carousel riding. One of them was a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader whom I had oneitis for and thought I would never be happy with anyone else. When I had oneitis for her she was 18 and a total smokeshow. She's 28 now and fat, ugly and used up with the thousand cock stare to go along with her ruined body/face from years of partying. I am damn glad things didn't work out between us or I'd be stuck with that. That's why I laugh at all you 18-20 year olds thinking you have found the one and will never be happy with anyone else. In 10 years she isn't going to be shit.
TLDR
Stop hamstering and turning your oneitis into some flawless perfect unicorn in your mind, she isn't.
Stop rationalizing and making excuses for her flaws. Take a step back and see her flaws for what they really are.
Realize that in 10 years she isn't going to be shit and will be a shell of what she is now. And you will thank yourself in 10 years that you didn't commit to her.
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