Action, distraction, responsibility - part one - the nature of responsibility.

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Responsibility, a male character trait

Male nature is designed to take responsibility, female nature is designed to shirk responsibility and to pass it on to men.

Men are on average, taller, stronger, faster, smarter, more innovative, more motivated and less emotionally turbulent than women are on average. Men are built to conquer the world and subdue it. Women are built for pregnancy, birthing and child rearing, women are not built to take on the world.

Men are better suited to survive alone in the world, women need men for their basic survival. This isn't as obvious in the safe world we live in today, but it's still true to a great degree. What's more obvious is the demand on men to be responsible for women's feelings and wellbeing.

These opposite character traits are both necessary for the survival of the family. When bandits are invading, a bear is attacking or noises are heard in the house, a man must be able to put his fear on hold and fight to protect his family.

When it's hot, cold, raining or snowing. When you're in a good mood or a bad one. When your boss is nice and when he's a jerk. A man must set aside all his emotions and earn enough to feed his family.

In every facet of life, a man must set his emotions aside to protect and provide for his family. It's as if his feelings don't count at all. It's as if his life doesn't count. He needs to work himself to the bone and risk life and limb to protect and provide for the family. He needs to take action. He cannot afford to be passive because he's responsible for others. Emotions hinder his ability to protect and provide. Emotions are seen as a weakness in men. Man is expected to be strong enough to do what needs to be done regardless of how he feels.

Women and responsibility

Women on average are not as tall or as smart as men. They're weaker, slower and not nearly as innovative or motivated as men are. They're much more emotionally turbulent and are prone to constant mood swings and fluctuations. This leaves a woman in greater need of protection and with a need to be provided for.

Add pregnancy and childbirth to the mix and the woman is even more vulnerable than she was before. She can't move as quickly and requires extra protection. She needs more calories and requires extra provision. She needs someone (a man) to be responsible for her and the baby. That someone is her husband. Earlier in life, it was her father.

This too has its purpose. The prime biological purpose of a woman is to birthe and raise babies. Babies are extremely vulnerable and will die within a short time if they aren't taken care of. The male mindset of putting your emotions aside and powering through hardship is very unhelpful to babies. Babies aren't capable of powering through. Babies need to be cared for. A woman is better suited to empathize with a crying baby because she too is vulnerable for her survival. She too needs to be taken care of albeit in a much different way. Therefore, the woman is naturally best suited to care for small children.

In today's world, female dependence on men may not be as obvious. There are some women who earn their own money to sustain themselves and some women are strong enough to protect themselves. However, aside from these women being a small minority, these women only exist within the context of the safe and secure world we live in, brought to you by men.

The very nature that causes her to be dependent on her man, is the very same nature that causes her to shirk all responsibility. After all, if you're being taken care of, you are someone else's responsibility! Just like it's in the nature of men to take responsibility for themselves and women, so too is it in the nature of women to shirk responsibility and to pass it on to the men in her life. These are two sides of the same coin.

Cringy simping and outlandish entitlement

This is the reason why men will often bend over backwards to defend m'lady. It's also the reason for outlandish female entitlement.

For example: if a man cheats, he's such a douchebag asshole who deserves to have his balls cut off!!! But if a woman cheats, it's because her man wasn't giving her enough attention. See how that works? The man is responsible to keep her happy and if he doesn't and she cheats, it must be his fault in some way. OTOH, the woman is not responsible to keep her husband happy. Her body, her choice and he has to deal with it. If he cheats, he's a scumbag. This double standard found in society is because men are naturally designed to take responsibility and women are designed to pass responsibility to men.

Another example: when a 35 year old man has sex with a 14 year old girl, he'll get 102 years in prison where he'll be raped and buried under the dumpster. If a 35 year old woman has sex with a 14 year old boy, everyone will say how lucky he is to bang his hot English teacher, maybe she'll get a few months of community service and the kid may even have to pay child support when he turns 18!!! Once again, responsibility is assigned to the man and removed from the woman.

Third example: a woman can dress as skimpy and sexy as she wants, she can flirt with, tease and grind up on whoever she wants for as long as she wants. She can then say a simple “no” and the man must stop everything immediately lest he be labeled a rapist! She carries no responsibility for anything that happens to her as a result of her actions, he carries all the responsibility. If a man was robbed in a bad neighborhood while flaunting his wealth, he would be held responsible for putting himself at risk of robbery. But if a woman does the same, don't you dare hold her even a little bit responsible you victim blaming misogynist!

We can go on all day long with more and more examples, but the point is clear: men are biologically driven to take responsibility for themselves and for women (and children). Women are biologically driven to shirk responsibility for themselves and anyone else and to pass the responsibility to the nearest man. No matter how advanced our society is, biological drives remain the same. Modern comforts don't change biology. They don't make the nice guy sexually appealing and they don't change the female aversion to responsibility. This is the cause for many double standards that exist in society.

Conclusion

Responsibility is a male character trait, even though some men shirk responsibility. Shirking responsibility is a female character trait, even though some women accept responsibility.

Responsibility comes in many forms. Protection for your safety and earning your way in the world are the obvious ones. But responsibility also includes owning your desires, your wants, your emotions, your words, your actions and their consequences for good and for bad.

This is the basic idea surrounding the nature of responsibility. We can't change the basis of human nature, but we can change how we treat ourselves and others. What we'll tolerate and what we won't tolerate. What we will enable and what we won't enable. This will be continued in the next post.

Cheers!

Edit: part two