Good weekend, thanks for asking.

 

I’m here today because I’m pissed off with some of the toxic bullshit I hear on here. I want it to cut it out quickly before it screws over more people. Before this sub becomes a bitter miasma. The content to which I'm referring buried the older communities. I wouldn’t be where I am without them, so here I am, doing my part.

 

I know your feelings can take it so I can skip straight to the point: All Women Are Not Like That. If you go into your dating or social life with the expectation that people will screw you over then the term you’re looking for is “self-fulfilling prophecy.” Having a defeatist attitude in any endeavour is counter-productive. I don’t understand how a community which accentuates positive thinking for business and passion for fitness can’t see they are universal requirements for success in anything. If you want to sexually pleasure a lot of hot women then you need to love hot women. Maybe 0.009% of successful people are the Dicken’s of this world- IE they hate what they excel in. Most successes- the healthier, happier ones- enjoy what they choose to pursue.

 

You will not find many women who are OK with the AWALT attitude and the majority are perceptive enough to notice it. Then, even if you become the universes most masterful Machievellian Manipulator, you will get bored. Girls give up pussy easily. You don’t have to fuck around playing games, just figure out if they like you and then invite them somewhere private if they do. It is so easy that you will want to explore them as people or face gradual decomposition of your soul. It ruins your personality to force yourself to fuck through the lack of caring. It amounts to self-rape and the psychopathic, jaded persona you will forge taking that path will bring you nothing but pain. I know because I felt myself going that way when I was younger and much more into pickup. I was fucking girls not because of my sex-drive, but because I ‘needed’ the validation of sex. After I got over that, chasing the count, I started treating women more as people. As a result, I humanized myself. I became objectively happier, more satisfied and started having to put almost zero effort in to getting laid with hotter women. Sex is a fun bonding activity, it’s social, it’s emotional, it’s spiritual. It isn’t a drug, because if you treat it as such the crash ensures the high isn’t worth it.

 

The traits AWALT is supposed to inspire- The Dark Triad- are useful as a tool. They are not the building blocks of a healthy psyche. There is a reason that the personality composed of these attributes, antisocial personality, is classed as a disorder. It is useful to be able to turn-off the ability to care, distance yourself from your emotions and gain perspective. I suffered a lot of trauma in early life (kidnapping and worse) and those acute moments of suffering caused the exact same sense of unreality that characterized jaded John Thug ala ego-sex. That’s the way you should use Machiavellianism: as a last resort. It’s a place to go if the risks from staying involved emotionally outweigh the rewards of same. This applies across life, it’s why it’s so valuable for traders. You can be rational more easily. Women aren’t rational though, sex isn’t a thing you enjoy because it’s logical. Sex isn’t even much better than jacking off there isn’t emotion involved.

 

AWALT and associated thinking is thus a sure-fire path to one of several outcomes:

 

1) The incels sub, because you can’t learn to be deceptive enough to ‘game’ girls in the manipulative sense and instead grow to loathe them/yourself. You call that the anger phase here and many never seem to leave it.

2) Extreme boredom. Honestly, there isn’t a single boredom more omnipresent and profound than the boredom of socializing for a sexual outcome. Repetition breeds resentment.

3) Cognitive dissonance, depression, etc. Knowing that you will turn on “total alpha mode” to get girls but it isn’t even worth it because girls are all sluts who cheated on some internet beta once….

4) The Jaded persona I refer to earlier, which is the worst. I hated that version of me because even if I ‘got shit done’ I spent all my time alone, socially isolated or fucking a new girl/a plate I didn’t even care about as a person.

 

I think that on some level, most of you guys get that. I think that there is a certain, very active percentage of the posters who are vocal with their disagreements. Anger phase is where they will wallow until they start going out. Unfortunately, this leads to pants-on-head retarded posts getting 1k+ upvotes, while clearly being a rant by some beta trying to justify why they suck with women, laying the blame everywhere but themselves. Men accept responsibility for their lives and become the driving force to a better one. The only constant in your life is you. To be truly sexually satisfied you must acknowledge the beauty in female novelty, which is directly contradictory to AWALT.

 

When I read these clearly emotionally motivated posts that provide one anecdotal example then declaim “AWALT!” I treat them the same as flat-earthers. When I see 10 of these posts all get 1k+ upvotes I remember that giving people a justification for their inadequacies outside of their control, when none such exists, is dangerous. I’m reminded of the very movements TRP derides for doing the same. These same men will post whinging tirades about how feminists/TBP/some girl at work plays the victim. It is popular because it’s less work to accept a belief which disempowers you. It is easier to blame everyone but yourself and stagnate than to force yourself to grow.

 

The same can be said about the any self-defeating belief. For example, that one is a hard-gainer while eating 3.5k calories and burning 4000. No buddy, you’re skinny because you under-eat. If you were to ask the big-boys at the gym they’d tell you the same. If you were to ask a sports scientist, they’d tell you the same. If you were to ask Sheldon- an unhealthy sociologist whose theories have been thoroughly debunked- he would tell you you’re an ectomorph. It might be easier to listen to the guy telling you that you’re doing everything right and are simply a victim of circumstance, but it isn’t the way forward. Improvement isn’t easy. Take responsibility for your own happiness and work for it.

 

I’m not saying “Most women are trustworthy” because most people aren’t. Neither, “most women won’t cheat” because most people will. Yes, accept that can happen, but don’t expect it. It’s better to go in with the spirit that you may be fucked over but try and succeed than entering the arena of despair. Focusing on what could go wrong is idiotic in any pursuit. Name one other endeavour such a belief is helpful in. There isn’t any? No shit Sherlock. Now explain how that attitude helps with women. It doesn’t? Wow, shock horror.

 

Take the healthy approach to relationships and *judge a person on their own merits as opposed to a worst-case scenario based on their gender. * If you are getting quality women it isn’t an issue. If you are treating all women as generic meat-slots, then you won’t get good quality females in your life. It’s simple really. You need to have the type of traits you want in women, because like dissolves like. Manipulation will attract manipulators, victimhood will attract victims and only being the best version of yourself will attract the best person for you.

 

Empower yourself and accept you hold the keys to your own happiness. Refuse to believe people who try and tell you that you’re a victim. They’re either trying to sell you something or trying to drag you down into their pit of despair. Find sources for information which are proven and who speak to you on a personal level. Be open-minded, but critical, trying to analyse the information you’re receiving on both content merit/rationale and source quality.

 

TL;DR: AWALT is the ultimate cuck-pill. The idea that it is a fundamental tenant to success with women is laughable. Don’t act like a victim-in-waiting and maybe you won’t be one. If things do go wrong, you can always fall back on The Dark Triad. In all other situations leave yourself emotionally open, because far from being vulnerable, it shows true strength. This is the energy which magnetizes a man. It’s what makes life worth living, it is the bridge between passion and success. Allowing yourself to experience your desire to know women, as individuals, is the only way to have happy outcomes with them. That doesn’t necessarily mean fucking a lot of them. It means choice. Success with women for you may mean a girlfriend, or being comfortable meeting girls out.

 

It is hard to make the choices which are right for you if you live in a fantasy world where everyone else is out to get you. It’s very hard to have quality women in your life if you treat them like disingenuous skanks out for your soul. The reason they all want ‘Chad’ dick is because ‘Chad’ realizes they want his dick, not his wallet nor his ‘game’. Women love sex and if your goal is to fuck a lot of them, being open yet discreet about that is the way to go. No games required. Embodying the same mindset of the groups you mock and then acting like it’s different because they’re your insecurities doesn’t make it any better.