Context: Went to a Halloween party Saturday night at a friends house. I was only like the 6th guy to arrive, I was pretty early. The BP guy in my story (we'll call him BudLight) was there with his date (we'll call her Stella).
Story: So I get there and I'm a huge fan of drinking games because it gives the group something to do, it gets everyone drinking, and they're a load of fun. Being the leader, inviting everyone to the game, and explaining the rules to everyone is a really good way to gain some alpha points at a party.
I set up a game of Kings Cup and teach everyone how to play. Throughout the game I learn a thing or 2 about Budlight and Stella. Budlight is a bit of a nerd. Based on how little he was in interactions and the content of the things he did say I had already gotten a blue pill impression of him. Stella isn't very interesting herself either. Nothing creative and seemed very basic.
People begin showing up and the house begins to pack up so we finish the game early and split up. Some alcohol and 30 minutes later I'm on a good buzz. I go back inside and I see Stella sitting by herself awkwardly. BudLight is also sitting in another side of the room alone awkwardly. I decide to approach her for chit chat. After a few minutes I have her really interested in me and she's giving me kino. I look over to her left and I see BudLight giving me TheLook™. We all know that mate guarding mad dog look. I ignore it. Now, I want to mention now that I don't pick up chicks if she's with a "date". Especially because BudLight is friends with a high value friend of mine (who threw the party). I'm having a good time and don't care if the chick likes me or not so I ask her, "Hey is BudLight into you?" and Stella says (very convinced), "No! he just asked me to hang out but we came here instead."
Based on the context of everything (voice tone, body language, TheLook™) I knew that BudLight had NiceGuySyndrome so bad that he gave Stella no indication of being into her even though he was probably shaking at the knees when he picked her up.
Conclusion: I told her i was going outside and she said she had to pee really bad. I go outside to meet my buddy and hangout. A few minutes later BudLight and Stella step outside and BudLight announces that they are heading out while Stella is just looking over at me. I wonder why he decided to leave..
Important Points:
• Be the "action" guy. Lead the group into playing a drinking game or taking a round of shots or doing something instead of just sitting in a circle going, "sooooo.. yeahhh..".
• have fun when you're out. I'm sure BudLight was stiff and nervous because he didn't want to seem weird to Stella. When I approached Stella, I had the intention of just chit chatting and having a fun conversation. It really was a fun conversation, we were both laughing, and after she left, people were even asking me if she was my girlfriend.
• don't mateguard. All BudLight's Look did to me was make me chuckle inside. I was giving him props at first for not being clingy to her and ignoring everyone else, but shit, I can't even remember 1 time that I saw him talking to her. He invited her to a party where she knew no one and he ignored her the whole time. Instead of dogging me, he could've came over and joined the conversation.
Final thoughts: I noticed that BudLight actually knew a good amount of the people at the party and he was greeted nicely by a few of the guys which has led me to believe that he acts different when he's not with a girl. I'm sure he's very fun and awesome, but my impression of him throughout the whole night was NiceGuy and Beta.
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